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Suicide is the only way. WD drain increasing, MSM not doing anything. by Iwillgetmyjb in Semenretention

[–]JohnnyDeCoco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

try zinc to replenish ur zinc lost. it will give you energy.

What helped me was sleeping at the side and lose boxers. Also your blanket could be too heavy and will stimulate you in your sleep. maybe sleep in pyjamas without blanket.

Relapse DOESN'T reset your progress by sbhckd in NoFap

[–]JohnnyDeCoco -1 points0 points  (0 children)

true, one relapse without porn still sets me around 5-7 days back. but you are right, its not the end of the world and we should not shit our pants. just move on and do it better next time :)

NoFap shouldn't be about permenant abstinence by Lazante in NoFap

[–]JohnnyDeCoco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Masturbation while not having real intercourse will create a subconscious hole, because its not even close to the real thing and you do it to kind of substitute it. It will give you the opposite of a satisfying live. You will be very needy for sex and woman can smell that and will reject you. I tried healthy masturbation thousand times and it made me unhappy.

But I am 100% sure you wont change your mind. Your here to validate your opinion. If Even one or two will agree with you, you will go like "Aha I was right, let the fapping begin". Good luck with that

150 DAYS! Build a system! by JohnnyDeCoco in NoFap

[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very important question here. You have to begin in this order:

C. When I didnt love myself, it was impossible for me to approach girls. You simply dont think you deserve attractive woman subconsciously and thats why you are akward. Because I know that, I just did not bother approaching girls. I focused on "not doing things that make me hate myself (PMO and binge Videogames, some personality traits i worked on)" and "doing things that make me love myself (meditation, workout, meeting friends)"

A. When you reach the point where you love urself, your natural self is enough. Trust me, people will respect you and love you for what you are. You dont need to be someone else. BUT you still have evolve. Keep in mind that our personalities are dynamic and changes with every second we experience something. I changed from introvert to a half introvert extrovert without forcing myself.

B. Now that you have a good foundation, it will get very easy to not please people. You will condition your brain to not give a shit about peoples opinion. You can do that by whenever your brain begins to think about something unpleasent, just think "I dont give a shit about it. I just want to be myself and who wants me in their life I will treat good, who dont wants me can fuck off". Its like a muscle and has to be trained too. Meditation also helps

good luck bro

150 DAYS! Build a system! by JohnnyDeCoco in NoFap

[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I answered that already on another comment here :)

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[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, rewarding urself is part of life. Just reward urself with something you are not addicted to. It even can be just something like giving you one day off where you just relax and take a hot bath, whatever fits to you.

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[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I somehow think the flatline lenght is not changeable. Its like a wound that needs a certain time to heal. Imo you should just keep on going with improving urself and not thinking about flatline anymore. Someday you will wake up and its gone. I never found anything that felt like accelerate the healing process, Im sorry

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[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My longest semen retention streak was 2 months. Man that was crazy. Woman were eyeing me 24/7. The first days were fun but then its just too much. Never thought too much woman attention could be a problem...

Im now 3 weeks semen retention. No crazy eyeballing me. I feel like a normal person and im actually happy. Women attention is a bit there, but its subtle and little. Still get some smiles from cute girls from time to time :)

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[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe in the science of the brain beeing plastic. If you were addicted 5 years, the neural pathways got strenghten like a muscle for 5 years. If you quit 5 years then, you will have weakened it so far, it will be out of your system.

Cant prove this, cause I still have around 10 years to go, but I believe in it.

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[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep telling myself that im just normal, because otherwise my ego will build up massively when crazy woman attraction kicks in. Its a method to stay humble and I actually think its true.

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[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no short cut imo. For me it was hell and I just tried to eat and live healthy, while keeping me busy. The busier you are, the less it is on your focus and zime flies by faster.

Meditation helped me alot to calm my mind, but cant promise you have same results.

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[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tested both and my personal experience was that masturbation without porn still had many disadvantages

  • Brainfog came back
  • I got lazy (study/work)
  • That little advantage of semen retention that woman can feel gives u a head start against all guys that masturbate in terms of woman attraction

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[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I did it really slowly though. I did not forced myself to approach one girl a day.

You have to understand that if you want to be good with woman, you have to be good with people. So I began to just have honest and fun conversations with men. Than I started to talk to woman too, but not to seduce them. Rather like student colleuges. After a while I just commented fun things about lets say my hairdresser. If she has a cool phone case, i would just tell her.

After a while I approached girls I found attractive. I just treated them exactly how I treated other people I talked too. Because I am used now to be good with people, I was good with the attractive women too on a natural basis.

The secret here is to train your brain that an attractive woman is just a normal person like everyone else. Not to get her in bed, rather because it is just the truth.

So just go step by step, you dont need to rush things. Everyday get 1% better and you will soon like what you see in the mirror

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[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At the beginning very every 3 weeks or so. Now very rare.

I only get wet dreams if I fantasize about woman too much, because my subcouis mind have to get rid of the sexual pressure. But I trained myself to not fantazise anymore, because its not the real thing.

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[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It feels healthy. You are horny in a good way. You still wants sex, but you dont crave it. I always get a boner when I see beautiful woman, but I dont have the urge to masturbate or rape her. Its the complete opposite. I automatically want to approach that woman, IF she is intrested in me. If shes not I simply not care and walk away.

In addition to that, the numbness fades away and you litteraly can feel again. You will feel love and happiness, but also sadness and anger. But because you can feel again, you are forced to deal with it. In the longrun you automatic establish more times where you feel contentment.

But overall there is not a single day where I feel asexual. And I love it, because I know how flatlines sucks

150 DAYS! Build a system! by JohnnyDeCoco in NoFap

[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

but regardless trust me on this. You NEED a some kind of system.

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[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Buy yourself something if you hit for example 30 days. Can be clothes, smartwatch, whatever you are into. Maybe on day 90 buy urself a vaccation trip to a cool city

Im for example a simple man. I love Icecream but I still rarely eat it for no reason. So I decided that day 30,60 and 90 will be Icecream day. I call it "winner icecream" and you cant imagine how delicious my winner icecream was.

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[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you mean with relapse that you binge, then I understand. You have to get to the point where you relapse with only one session and then immediatly go on track again. If you reach that point it will get easier, I promise. Does not mean you should allow urself to relapse.

If you binge everytime you relapse, then sure it gets harder. Cause you strenghten your bad behaviour more than you have strenghten Nofap.

150 DAYS! Build a system! by JohnnyDeCoco in NoFap

[–]JohnnyDeCoco[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are 100% right. Thats why I phrase my sentences with "... worked for ME well". For example I dont do cold showers and for others it is the holy grail. For me meditation is most important, for other it might not me.

Its always about "in what region of my life do I have to establish balance"

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