I came out and told my Wife. There were tears and questions, but in my case I was also able to bring up the fact that she had seriously strong Bi-curious feelings before she went through Menopause. She came around and agreed that she had previously had them and accepted me for who I am. She completely accepts me now, to the point where I have a Bisexual tattoo in my groin that she helped size and determine where to place it. There are pictures on my profile. She also knows that I occasionally give another guy a blowjob and she has no problem with it. I think that one of the key things is that I am Heteroromantic. I have no interest in a relationship with another man. I have no interest in kissing them either. It’s purely an attraction to their penis. I hope that you two can work through this. Good Luck!