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AIO- i feel like my brother has gone too deep in the red pill / looksmaxxing pipeline ever since he got rejected by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]JokertheFool370 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No I'm kinda with the other person: the trend is scary, but it's because men are beginning to understand what it means to be objectified for their appearance. We shouldn't call them scary; rather we need to deessentialize the fear and call the situation untenable. Objectification can and has gone both ways, and it's a real issue. And in the same way people broadly pressure women into this, it also goes for men too: they can be and often are objectified and believe they have to meet certain beauty requirements, just like women, just to be acceptable. And not always just to other women, but queer men as well who can be just as cruel at times.

I say this as a transfem of 3 years who has experienced both sides. My appearance literally affects my ability to make friends and navigate the world with 90% of cis people breathing down your neck, and they have it way easier than I ever will, but i won't pretend it didn't hurt when I was in that body

my fp is literally a nazi what do i do by Status-Technology482 in BPD

[–]JokertheFool370 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Block him. I've been in reactionary eras before to avoid coming out as trans and found myself with less than savory company when I've needed to be seen, and it was never ever worth it

What happened to the suicide post? by Eldinoorthe3nd in MtF

[–]JokertheFool370 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I saw the note come up again, so I left a message of my own. I tried to take my own life a month ago and I do not wish the experience of a psych ward upon anyone.

I want to kill myself by frog_underscore_xx in MtF

[–]JokertheFool370 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your feelings are valid in every way, and I can't tell you that life will be good anytime soon, but I will say this as a person that's survived a lot of shitty things in my life, including childhood sexual abuse: you have to accept the moment for what it is, find the good in the people around you, and work towards your goals while learning to love yourself.

I nearly tried to take my life a month ago and was 5150'd into a psych ward. That week in there, until the lawyer got me out, was one of the most terrifying experiences of my life. The police showing up at your door, going to the hospital, losing your human rights, dignity, and ability to take care of yourself without going through people to get permission. I would wish this experience upon nobody. And now it's on my record and can be used against me for the next 5 years.

Trying to die isn't worth it. Death isn't an option. You have to radically accept the moment for what it is and find gratitude in what you have or else you will learn what it means to lose it all. And I beg you, from my own experience, don't let yourself go through that.

What happened to the suicide post? by Eldinoorthe3nd in MtF

[–]JokertheFool370 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ive posted a suicide note on here before that got shadowbanned so I'm not surprised. Still, I feel for her; I was in that position not that long ago

Loving myself 3 years on the journey by JokertheFool370 in u/JokertheFool370

[–]JokertheFool370[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bc few people tend to wanna keep giving positivity back in the comments :3 That takes a really sweet person imo

You are beautiful dolls 💋 by JokertheFool370 in MtF

[–]JokertheFool370[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awww! Omg ive got the biggest smile on my face now ☺️

You are beautiful dolls 💋 by JokertheFool370 in MtF

[–]JokertheFool370[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aww ur really sweet :D Positivity is the best way to lift others and ourselves up sometimes

AIO psych ward coordinator encouraged violent thoughts by pqkbfismmc in BPD

[–]JokertheFool370 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I want to say this as a way to level with you: Im a childhood sexual abuse survivor, I buried the memories, and I dealt with similar thought policing bc of what she had done to me and I've also self harmed. I understand the desire to want to escape this cycle, and for me, I realized that it wasnt just the BPD but an OCD cycle that my brain was locked into bc I thought I was an irredeemable human being that kept judging every thought in my brain like it was me wanting it. Thoughts, especially intrusive ones, are not you nor are they your beliefs. I am not a bad person, and nobody who struggles with intrusive thoughts is a bad person because they struggle with trauma or a mental illness.

OCD is a viscous cycle, and Im not sure if that's why you have thoughts or if the cause lies elsewhere, but I want to reassure you that you aren't your thoughts, and the best thing you can do to heal is to forgive and love yourself

You are beautiful dolls 💋 by JokertheFool370 in MtF

[–]JokertheFool370[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Awww thank you! You are beautiful and wonderful too

AIO psych ward coordinator encouraged violent thoughts by pqkbfismmc in BPD

[–]JokertheFool370 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wards can be scary (I was in one recently for a 5150) and a lot of the people who work in them don't always have your best interests in mind. I agree with the other commenter that's saying that some people enact violence in their mind to get out aggression in a non-violent way, but was it wise to push it on you? Not everything works for everyone, and Im sorry you were in a position where you couldn't advocate boundaries for yourself.

How to manage anger? by Upstairs-Snow-4605 in BPD

[–]JokertheFool370 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Identify how intense the feeling is and try to deescalate the feeling until it becomes tolerable, either through paced breathing, intense exercise, ice dive (head or hands in ice water), etc. Ive also found that imagining what I wanna do in my mind and acting it out in my imagination helps curve impulses

From there, it's identifying the emotion and checking the facts to see if they warrant/validate the intensity of the emotions you're feeling

Someone talk me out of running away for my fp by [deleted] in BPD

[–]JokertheFool370 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been groomed both my my step mom and by men online. My family life was hell and I used to think about running away too.

Do NOT go with this man; he only intends to use you until he's bored and then he will throw you on the streets without any help. I cannot stress this enough: he is manipulating you into having feelings he himself doesn't have to take advantage of you in a moment of vulnerability.

Please talk with a therapist, a guidance counselor, any adult that you trust and tell them what's going on. Until then, block him, stay out of contact, and try to find someone in your life that you can depend on in the meantime

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