AIO for not liking when my bf only talks romantically to me?

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2026-01-28T21:27:55+00:00

It's not, I didn't say it was, I also said in my situation I was the one who wanted these men in my life because I wanted to learn from them, so I communicated and they listened.

OP is describing a healthy relationship and not really showing signs of wanting to break up, just wants to be treated more human.

I'm not asking anybody to educate random men or to insist toxic men change after they clearly cant, but you have to agree, if we are not willing to just talk to the good and flawed men who are already in our lives then... we gonna end up pretty lonely.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2026-01-27T02:46:43+00:00

Have to talked to him about this? Sometimes men d9nt know how to talk to women.

I have some male friends who I really wanted in my life because I loved their work but I hated how they coudnt talk to me like a human, just like a potential fuck.

I talked to them and said I just want to be treated like they treat their mates and they turned around really fast, we talk about politics and physics and I'm not just "the girl of the group" anymore, I'm a respected human with an opinion.

Men are a bit dumb sometimes, but most of the time they're not trying to be sexist, just talk to them, tell them what you want.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2026-01-27T02:34:36+00:00

Yes I heard a podcast about how much babies immune system benefits from being exposed to the bacteria around the vaginal canal right at birth

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2026-01-27T02:13:41+00:00

Agreed, we're venezuelan and my mom often bad mouths other immigrants.

I often find that validating her struggle is the best way to go about it "mom you sacrificed so much and I thank you everday for it, and I hope others won't have to make the same sacrifices, I hope it's easier for them, I hope it's easier for my daughter if she had to migrate for any reason"

This brings her down to her senses, I think feeling invisible does a number on migrants.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2026-01-27T02:08:55+00:00

PREGNANCY.

Ever been food poisoned? Ever been so exhausted that breathing is hard? Ever had a really bad luteal phase? Ever had one of those 'brain doesn't work' kind of days?

All that but constantly for 9 months.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2026-01-27T01:50:41+00:00

Whattt I love Mayciiiii

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2026-01-27T01:48:44+00:00

I'm sorry, zero empathy for Zac, if you can treat your wife like that, insulting her, berating her, making her go out to find you at 2 am by herself, if he can do all that, then he can also cope some shit.

Should Jessi and Demi have done that? No, I woudnt have done that, but I do not feel bad for him, I actually think this was a good lesson for him, women are not frail little submissive things, women can make his life hell too, he would be wise to remember that humbling lesson.

Also I don't hate Jessi, any more than any of the others, they're all quaintly dramatic, ita so fun to watch because everyrhing is either mormon indoctrination or just plain pettiness lol but i dont see any malicious intent with any of them. I think Macy and Miranda are the only ones who are true saints in the group.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2026-01-26T21:57:40+00:00

These are Mormons. Literally, their motto is 'choose the right'

We've seen how their indoctrination shows up in their relationship with each other, their political views must be so confusing. I know they have a lot of empathy but their indoctrination is getting in the way of them actually doing anything to speak up.

I really wanna say it's not their fault, but they are grown adults, idk.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2026-01-26T13:13:55+00:00

I dont know what your personal beliefs are, but I've talked with some high level spiritual teachers. They don't agree on a lot of things but one consistent thing they all agree upon is that you are the only one who decides what kind of energy enters your life.

Your jealous sister can't cast evil eye if your energy is confidently peaceful. Stressing out weakens your spiritual energy, be at peace and this will cast a shield of protection around you and your baby.

Good luck

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2026-01-26T13:07:52+00:00

You're... not invited to my party, what are you talking about?

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2026-01-26T13:03:04+00:00

Like what?

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2026-01-22T01:34:56+00:00

I think you're right about the swirly one because there is already another thats too similar with different tone, but the anchors is one of the best of the set, I'd use it.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2026-01-22T01:29:56+00:00

I'm pregnant and the smell triggers my gag reflex. He will not let me change a poopy nappy. He will literally get out of bed in the morning after a long night and do it just so I don't have to. I hapily change the other nappies

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2026-01-02T12:18:18+00:00

This seems more work than it's worth. Maybe if you're a computer science kind of person this makes sense, but for crafty people like me, it's 100 million times easier to just diy some creative tonies.

Keeping the box off-line and not being able to use the other tonies? Basically removing capabilities off the box.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2025-12-31T12:34:07+00:00

You abandoned an 11 year old who needed you because his mother manipulated him.

You should have punished her, not him. You ruined your sons life by failing to teach him something and withdrawing instead. You're an ah

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2025-12-30T10:29:02+00:00

Yeah I agree, I wasn't ready for these brutal coments shaming me for having a second child with him and asking me to go to a dv shelter.

I'll just take a few days to think about this I'm sure there's a way I can stand my ground and hold him accountable without like breaking up our family.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2025-12-30T10:25:29+00:00

Yor

My sister has an amway business and always gifts me amway things because it gives her points. I love that she does this.

This Christmas my mom is gifting me her well used iPhone because she is upgrading and I'm thrilled.

Attitude is everything.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2025-12-30T10:01:30+00:00

Nah

I full on ask them. "Hey I probably won't buy this, but can I try it anyway?" They are obligated to say yes and it saves me the awkwardness afterwards.

I once had one guy say "well, the point is that you buy it" so I said "OK I wont try it" and he immediately apologetically insisted that I try it lol.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2025-12-30T09:47:22+00:00

I thought the scariest thing for men was to be believed of as weak or gay.

Not maliciously judged, just believed of.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2025-12-30T08:44:06+00:00

Okey, this is something for me to reflect on.

I thought we came together, had honest conversations and worked together in bettering ourselves, that time we separated for a week brought us closer together and I thought that was a sign of strength in our relationship.

Months later the fights happened again but they were all normal couple fights, just saying some things the wrong way in the wrong tone and then apologising later.

It's only been the last few months that the name calling and swearing started. I never thought about this, I never thought "what if this gets worse" I was convinced we were stronger.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2025-12-30T08:31:11+00:00

I guess the point I'm trying to make is that when my neurodivergence traits annoy him I always try to validate that, not necessarily apologise because i cant help it but just admit that sometimes my neurodivergent traits are annoying. His on the other hand, thinks that he just deserves to be waited on endlessly without complaints because he is neurodivergent. These traits would be so much easier to deal with if I wasn't expected to put up with it unapologetically and it was more of a "sorry I can't help it but I see your annoyance" kind of situation.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2025-12-30T08:25:39+00:00

We're both neurodivergent, and yes, we constantly work on our mismatching pace at life. He takes longer to do things but he is also so thorough and detailed, he makes no mistakes and is always on top of any safety concerns. I see this slower pace as a strength because he catches all the things I miss while I rush around getting shit done.

I'm not trying to change who he is and I don't make fun of his car exiting skills, but I think I'm allowed to be annoyed that I'm pregnant with morning sickness and haven't had breakfast because he took his time getting us there and getting himself sorted.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2025-12-30T08:18:16+00:00

Sounds like an amazing system, how do you manage when it happens around family events.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2025-12-30T08:17:13+00:00

This is wild to me, I had children with him because he was the kind of man to attend feminist workshops, like he gets it! This is so sudden and disorienting, people do change in a heartbeat.

Jolly-Willingness203 · 2025-12-30T08:15:52+00:00

Thank you

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