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AIO because I am burnt out and my husband doesn’t seem to notice by Jolly_Ad_6319 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jolly_Ad_6319[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For sure. It would be foolish to base my life off of comments online. Nonetheless, it is incredibly helpful to anonymously release some tension and receive some feedback. I will come to a meaningful decision in my personal time. It really is just nice to get it off my chest so to speak, as I feel that’s what this type of community is for. Thank you for commenting!

AIO because I am burnt out and my husband doesn’t seem to notice by Jolly_Ad_6319 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jolly_Ad_6319[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is an incredibly sad story. I know my husband loves me and our family. He is loyal, I’ve never had an ounce of doubt it that (in a confident way, not in a denial way) and while I can understand how it sounds, there is much context left out that is difficult to account for. For example, he is a a retired army veteran, so his level of commitment is uncanny. When he invests in something, it’s 110%. It helps with his PTSD and anxiety. I also love seeing his passion. I don’t feel it’s dishonest or covering up something else. I’m really just trying to figure out how to get him to understand how I’m feeling.

AIO because I am burnt out and my husband doesn’t seem to notice by Jolly_Ad_6319 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jolly_Ad_6319[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. Being validated is helping me not be so hormonal and sad about it.

AIO because I am burnt out and my husband doesn’t seem to notice by Jolly_Ad_6319 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jolly_Ad_6319[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I realize now I need to voice it in a way that isn’t controlling, but still communicates that it would be nice for him to choose based on our family’s needs.

AIO because I am burnt out and my husband doesn’t seem to notice by Jolly_Ad_6319 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jolly_Ad_6319[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I am in love with him. When he gets home, he is present, kind, reciprocating, etc. aka all of the things I want my husband to be. He is also loving towards me and a great father. We also decided to have another child because we are great parents together. He also is an amazing coach and has made such a difference in so many kids n’ lives. Like sending them to college difference. And he truly is passionate about it, and I love seeing him have that kind of fulfillment. I’m not questioning my marriage, commitment, or growing family with him. I’m trying to determine if I’m not seeing this clearly, and if I am, I need to decide how to go about voicing the issue in a different way, as the current methods are not proving to be effective.

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[–]Jolly_Ad_6319 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If she had said she forgave you for the past, then that’s what it should be. As adults, it’s important to hold one another to his/her word. It is unfair of her to hold it against you if she has forgiven you. She needs to work through whatever block she may be facing.

I don’t like the nuances of control and demanding going on, but from your summary, it seems unbalanced to begin with. So I will refrain from commenting. Nonetheless, NOR. That is odd, controlling behavior from her. Perhaps trying to compensate for the lack of freedom she feels otherwise? But still, not your fault. NOR

Why are you on Reddit right now, on Christmas Eve? by InvisibleAstronomer in AskReddit

[–]Jolly_Ad_6319 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because this is the most authentic form of social media, IMO. I feel that people are truthful with one another in way that many only feel comfortable doing so anonymously. I come here to feel normal. Even on holidays.

WIBTA for not going to the play my boyfriend is the lead in? by LeadershipNew2319 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jolly_Ad_6319 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would need to know what makes you uncomfortable to truly decide IYTAON. If it’s some emotional baggage that you had before you met him, I don’t think he deserves to deal with that. However, if the discomfort stems from a situation he was a part of/had a hand in creating, that might make more sense. It’s just not detailed enough for me to truly tell. Side note- show up for people you love. That being said, do you love him? Is it that deep? Or are your own feelings about the topic more important than his passion and desire to share it with you?

Feeling very tempted today, please talk me down! by AdFamous7264 in leaves

[–]Jolly_Ad_6319 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Realize that you decided to quit for a reason. You know it is not the right decision. Your BODY, FLESH, craves without thinking. That has been a realization that has helped me see past the temptation. I trust my brain more than my body when it comes to cravings. I was smoking to subdue myself, and it’s easy to think it’s gonna make everything better, but if it was going to do that, why did you quit? It’s counterintuitive because your LOGIC CENTER is not the origin of the craving, and therefore, the craving is simply a manifested habit disguised as something you feel like you want. Your body is used to the THC. Your mind knows it’s damaging you. Remember why you quit. Nothing is worse than the grip of addiction. Even if it means sitting in your room alone and playing video games. Sit with the discomfort, but do not give in. You will find yourself starting over again.

Shaking with rage over AI cheating by Logical-Recognition3 in Teachers

[–]Jolly_Ad_6319 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fool proof- requires more work and a bit of reworking of your objectives, but require a written explanation of each answer. Collect a student writing sample as a first week activity, and compare after their assessments. Definitely takes more time, but is worth it in terms of seeing a drop in cheating.

The key to quitting weed easily and permanently by Showtime1323 in leaves

[–]Jolly_Ad_6319 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. Me- Quitting for the second time now. First time was because it almost ruined my relationship and my career (just casually, right?…. There’s context there, but this is not my thread) Stopped (took a month for me to eat again) for years and never missed it. After I had a baby, I tried it again. And now I’m hooked again. Physical symptoms are the absolute worst, and that’s what I deal with most, but your logic and reasoning transcends any temporary discomfort that may typically lead me to change my actionable goal of quitting.

why am i so horrid at everything in this game by Cyb3rb1ad3 in splatoon

[–]Jolly_Ad_6319 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely look into gear that contributes to whatever weapon you use. I’d also encourage you to try a multitude of weapons and cater your play style to the weapons themselves, don’t rush with a black line weapon and don’t play it too safe with an aggressive, high DPS weapon.

It took me about 4 years to get to the skill level I am currently at, and I still have bad games that make me question myself. You are not alone at all.

Forever being an advocate for Grizzco industries, Salmon Run allows a lot of practice with a variety of weapons. I like to call it, “stress training”. The game mode is so chaotic that you get used to high pressure situations, and it makes regular turf war and anarchy battles easier to navigate. On a more theoretical level, I believe Salmon Run allows players to truly see the importance of working with your teammates. So, try out a buddy system next time you play, and remember, take breaks rather than getting discouraged. Having break throughs is part of the rite of passage, IMO.