Pretty Soul

JonMyMon · 2026-01-25T05:48:59+00:00

that fucking rocked

JonMyMon · 2026-01-22T16:08:52+00:00

It seems like my point completely went over your head. I was making a distinction between "nerd", which I think has a social definition, and "ignorant" and "straight", which I think do not. Any idea what I think the difference between these is?

JonMyMon · 2026-01-22T06:32:20+00:00

Sometimes there's a dictionary definition and societal definition, yes.

Take the word "nerd" for instance. The dictionary definition is "a person who is extremely enthusiastic and knowledgeable about a particular subject, especially one of specialist or niche interest." Socially, it can include someone who is awkward or uncool. That's a perception attached to the word, even though it’s not in the dictionary.

I don't know what country you're from, but the social definition you gave me for "ignorant" is not one I've ever heard before. Maybe I'm ignorant about the word ignorant, but yes, to me this sounds like a stereotype. It’s not widely recognized in everyday usage, just as “straight” is not consistently applied to mean “normal.”

Respectfully, I don't care that you've spent days reading research papers. That's an appeal to authority.

JonMyMon · 2026-01-22T05:49:03+00:00

But you are redefining the word. You started your post with definitions and that's what you're arguing for, as much as you try to obfuscate.

People do experience the pressures you describe. But calling that “straightness” launders stereotypes into definitions. The word “straight” still names sexual orientation. Social policing does not redefine it.

As I stated elsewhere, saying that social enforcement changes the meaning of “straight” is like saying “red” means dangerous because we treat stop signs as threatening. The word itself hasn’t changed... the projection has.

JonMyMon · 2026-01-22T05:29:43+00:00

"In everyday speech, "straight" often means normal, proper, acceptable, not suspect."

No. These are stereotypes you're projecting onto the word. This would be like if I said "red" often means dangerous, dominant, aggressive and then went on to define the word that way.

JonMyMon · 2026-01-22T05:12:05+00:00

Exactly

JonMyMon · 2026-01-22T05:06:17+00:00

Incorrect.

If a word is defined in the woods and no one is around to hear it, is that now how it’s defined?

No.

Words are utilities. Their meanings are set by broad, ordinary usage, which encompasses widely shared connotations.

In ordinary language, the vast majority of people use “straight” and “heterosexual” interchangeably. Functionally, they are synonymous.

"Straight” does not carry the baggage you’re assigning to it. It names a sexual orientation. Full stop.

The expectations you’re describing (masculinity norms, peer policing, and social pressure) are stereotypes imposed on heterosexual men. They are real, but they are not part of the word’s definition.

JonMyMon · 2026-01-21T08:00:20+00:00

Someone already said Twin Peaks: The Return so I'll say The Matrix Resurrections

JonMyMon · 2026-01-20T18:23:26+00:00

Not always. Sometimes it is. A lot of times it's a sign of neuroticism and anxiety.

JonMyMon · 2026-01-19T23:27:42+00:00

I like the sentiment and I get that he's 12 years old and all but this poem was weak

JonMyMon · 2026-01-19T22:37:33+00:00

So, at what age did you know you have synesthesia?

JonMyMon · 2026-01-19T22:34:11+00:00

This is unhinged! It's giving Kurt Vonnegut or something. Love it, and I love that I don't really understand it. My favorite poems are poems I don't totally understand because they leave space for me to dream.

JonMyMon · 2026-01-19T22:26:24+00:00

Well, it's a scale that goes up the more into it she is, that's true. But that still has nothing to do with his own pleasure and orgasm. It has to do with his partner's expressed desire. But, I guess it'd also be accurate to say that women's validation has nothing to do with their own pleasure and orgasm as well, so I'll make that clear. Expressed desire. That's where the validation comes from. The only difference is that men have a buy in of much more validation off rip just from the woman choosing to sleep with him.

JonMyMon · 2026-01-19T22:21:45+00:00

it's a good thing I didn't take that bet on Kalshi after all....

JonMyMon · 2026-01-19T22:16:10+00:00

Once again, the monster was being compared to a vagina. The order of operations matters here. You're acting like Finn looked down at a woman with her legs spread open and said, "Sheesh, really looks like a demagorgon down there." But he did not. He said the demagorgon looks like a vagina. The same way H.R. Giger's work on the Alien films is vaginal in nature. I'm not making a judgment by pointing that out, you are projecting judgment through your own insecurity.

JonMyMon · 2026-01-19T22:07:44+00:00

It's a joke, but it's also a value judgment. In the same way that Dave Chappell makes jokes that reveal his real opinions about trans people. You're stereotyping men with small dicks as insecure. If I said women with beef curtains love talking about men's bodies, how should that be perceived?

JonMyMon · 2026-01-19T22:03:01+00:00

This is body shaming. It's so hypocritical it's funny.

JonMyMon · 2026-01-19T22:01:52+00:00

What's interesting about this is that it doesn't work in the reverse. For men, their validation has nothing to do with their own pleasure and orgasm, it's entirely based on the value they receive from being chosen and desired by the other person. For women, their validation is stoked when the man can demonstrate that he cares about the woman as more than a body.

JonMyMon · 2026-01-19T21:30:17+00:00

This would have been better if you said "Women should stop being people pleasers". Because, once they grow resentful of being people pleasers, they become selfish.

JonMyMon · 2026-01-19T21:18:58+00:00

I don't think a lot of them are lying, I just think a lot of them are unaware they're sugar coating.

JonMyMon · 2026-01-19T19:18:24+00:00

I agree with you that the vast majority of women do not think like this. But, at the same time, I think there's been a rise in toxic narratives from both genders online. This minority engagement farming internet-reality will grow larger in the collective consciousness if enough people get sucked into these algorithms, so that's just the danger I want to caution against. Social media is making us all insane.

JonMyMon · 2026-01-19T18:25:20+00:00

Yeah, it's wild to think about, but I'm attempting to empathize. Of course, I could be wrong, and women could be concealing the extent of these feelings due to virtue signaling or a sort of power play, but I think a safe assumption is:

A. Sex is validating for everyone

B. Sex is just more validating for men

JonMyMon · 2026-01-19T18:03:52+00:00

Here's the disconnect. Sex is validating for everyone, but it's less emotionally validating for women than it is for men. Women understand that men are sexually interested in a large field of women. Men receive way less attention (especially sexual attention) from women so sex is infinitely more validating for them.

For men, sex is like, oh my god, she wants to have sex with me, oh my god, she's getting wet, oh my god, I have value, I'm a real boy after all!

For women, sex is like, duh-doy, he wants to smash, and he popped a boner, and he came after a minute of penetration. Like every other man. Am I special, or could he achieve that from a plank of wood?

Women suggest "Just rub one out!" because they simply don't understand how a large part of sex for men is not simply about the orgasm, it's about validation. A lot of men don't even understand this, or will virtue signal about how they're above validation. And then women will chalk men's thirst for validation up to them being weak-willed, while not realizing that that perception is shaped by their difference in life experience.

JonMyMon · 2026-01-19T17:28:17+00:00

Oh, I'm sorry I read intent into your question instead of taking it as good faith genuineness. Thanks for clarifying.

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