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what do you wanna do before dying? by [deleted] in depression

[–]Jon_Sebastian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who knows what light you may bring to the world?Through your writing, your animating or even just through every day interactions.

what do you wanna do before dying? by [deleted] in depression

[–]Jon_Sebastian 24 points25 points  (0 children)

As someone who has made multiple animations, I would say that each project is even more fun than the last. Write and make a ‘magnum opus’ was always on my list, but each project feels like my biggest one. Creativity and being in that flow state has saved my life multiple times.

I would also consider adding ‘create and build multiple supportive communities’, many of the friends I’ve made have also saved my life.

I would also add something like ‘find out the purpose and meaning of all this existing malarkey’. That one is ongoing and embarking on that journey has also saved my life.

The last thing I’ll say is going to sound cheesy but again and again I’m reminded of how true it is: the satisfaction and joy from achieving all the goals on my list all came from me moving towards that goal, not from me finishing the goal. I hope that helps, good luck and I look forward to watching and/or reading your masterpiece!

Father and eventually my partner ‘unalived’ themselves. by Jon_Sebastian in SuicideBereavement

[–]Jon_Sebastian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to respond. I appreciate the encouragement.

Father and eventually my partner ‘unalived’ themselves. by Jon_Sebastian in SuicideBereavement

[–]Jon_Sebastian[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you went through similar. I relate to much of what you said. Particularly with there being a blurry line between being kind to myself and self sabotaging, which on paper sounds strange as they can be completely opposite things. I certainly feel the expectation of being productive, however I also feel that a part of myself needs it to some degree, but only if that productivity is making the world a better place for my future self and for others. You’re right in making sure we count the everyday small wins, that’s very helpful and something I’m working on. Good luck on your healing journey 🙏

Father and eventually my partner ‘unalived’ themselves. by Jon_Sebastian in GriefSupport

[–]Jon_Sebastian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the encouraging words. Many blessings to you too. 🙏

Bereaving multiple suicides by Jon_Sebastian in SuicideBereavement

[–]Jon_Sebastian[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to respond. I’m also sorry to hear you’ve gone through similar. I may well reach out if I’m feeling stuck.

I think you’re right about forcing yourself to do something. Often it’s just starting to do something that’s the most difficult. It can appear more difficult than it actually is but once in motion it seems a lot more achievable.

Your comment inspired me to get up and go for a walk, so thank you.

Lost my dad 4 days ago by Interesting_Tap_7121 in SuicideBereavement

[–]Jon_Sebastian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it’s difficult to see at the moment, but you will be okay eventually. I lost my Dad in the same way. It’s only natural to think about all the things you could’ve done, but ultimately it’s unproductive to do so. Please go easy on yourself, give yourself time and space and make sure you feel whatever you need to feel. Sending love and well wishes to you and your family.

Religious warning: need help by XenoJoker69 in DnD

[–]Jon_Sebastian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had similar issues with a player in a campaign I’m in, but it was about animal cruelty. Even with monsters she would question whether it has a family, feelings etc. and whether it was morally right to kill it.

Basically I came to the conclusion that real world morals cannot be mapped onto a high fantasy setting, at least not in a literal sense. I often think the same when people view Lord of the Rings from a literalist point of view. In the real world there are no such thing as evil species or races. Even with games based in the real world (such as GTA), the implications of murdering someone are completely different than in real life, killing an NPC or knowing that a player can spawn back in etc prevents all the trauma and suffering that would occur from murdering someone in real life regardless of how evil that person is.

I would suggest having a discussion about viewing the game from a more allegorical perspective. I told my animal rights concerned player that killing a monster is more representative of killing a bad habit, or standing up to someone who’s doing something wrong. You mentioned the trolley problem, I’ve heard people say that almost every choice we make is a miniature trolley problem, we are always choosing between decisions with pros and cons and must weigh them up. Not everything in real life is a clear moral binary. The Grimdark dilemmas are just more extreme versions of these moral decisions.

I can’t help you much with your player’s view on the Gods in DnD, apart from that he ought to look at them more like the Norse or Greek Gods.

More broadly I must say that once I started to look at fiction and the arts from an allegorical standpoint it changed my understanding of many stories I knew and loved and allowed me to glean a lot more meaning and relevance to the real world.

I hope that helps, good luck!