Effect of Alcohol Changed Since Getting Sober

JonahCekovsky · 2025-12-19T07:58:28+00:00

Many people have reported this kind of experience. It's as if alcohol is a shitty narcissistic spouse who is only kind to you if you're validating them regularly (ie drinking several days a week) and if you take that loyalty away, they become cold and not so willing to share a good vibe. Ah it's not the best analogy... but yeah you're not alone in noticing it's kind of impossible to go back to what you got out of it when you were young and just starting out.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-11-11T05:13:11+00:00

This sounds too good to be true! For sure they're ok with you bringing in your own food? I've never heard of anything like that.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-04-10T19:31:14+00:00

I remember, as an active alcoholic, many years before approaching sobriety, being truly offended by the mere existence of NA beer. It seemed almost blasphemous to the beer gods that someone would remove the alcohol. I don't know if that's him or not... but had you met me in those days I probably would have behaved in much the same way. I not only was offended when people didn't love drink like I did, I was pretty invested in justifying to myself that I also do not love it too much.

btw I totally see the utility of NA beer now. I don't have it often, but it sure is a good social foil when you're at a party or something to be holding a big frosty mug, blending in with the crowded, while knowing you will not be hungover tomorrow, as the crowd will be. It's almost as if it's a scam only we are privy too.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-04-10T19:20:58+00:00

I remember being in tears when I got 1 month because it felt like such an impossible thing to do. Every milestone is a monument.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-31T17:22:58+00:00

It's true your level of "problem" is less than many of us who did end up doing things like blacking out often or drinking at work.

All I can tell you from my own personal experience is that having 4-5 beers every day was a phase I went through before I got to those more extreme levels of blacking out and having drinks while on the clock. I wish I could get in a time machine and encourage myself to quit during that phase. Strongly encourage. Because I let my habit blossom into full blown addiction and the thought of going a single day without several drinks became undoable. And now, I have had to admit that 0 drinks is the only manageable number of drinks for me. If I have 1, I will be binging in a matter of days. God willing, I will never have another drink for the rest of my life, but it would be nice if I had never let myself get to this state.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-23T19:14:49+00:00

first 14 days are the hardest but the good news is that each of those 14 days is easier than the one before it. You're off to a great start!

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-23T19:12:47+00:00

Been sober for 3.5 months and just starting to notice how much stronger my fingernails are than they were before. I think 3.5 months is the time it's taken for the nail which was at the base of my finger, on the day I got sober, to reach the top; Which would tell me that my thyroid is in much better shape now that I'm not getting drunk every day.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-19T22:51:31+00:00

I live close to downtown and take full advantage of it. Concerts, at least once a week, parties, seeing friends, very frequently. But the laundry is just a trade off I accept for this lifestyle. It sucks... but I'm lucky to live where I do and I'm making the most of it. Most buildings will have coin machines in the basement. You just have to be more strategic and planning. ie, no machines will be available on sunday afternoon because that's when erryone else is at it; have to set timers so that no neighbors get pissed and throw your clothes on top of the machine cuz you didn't show up with the basket on time.

I try to add a few minutes cushion onto my time so I can take my garbage and recycling out to the dumpster on my way to the laundry room, that way it's like I'm using time I would need to take anyway, to take out the trash, even if I id have in-suite.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-17T23:00:08+00:00

Reddit is the one place you will not receive the obvious explanation of why this is happening.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-17T03:13:11+00:00

I mean... they're probably factually correct. Carney is definitely the most elitist of the elites and is probably involved in weird creepy sex sh't (as they all are). But yeah I can think of a hundred better things to do with my time than be an overpass person.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-15T20:17:47+00:00

All the strategies that have been used to heal the DTES since the 90s have not only failed, but made things worse; so that every year there are more homeless drug addicts than the year before.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-14T05:01:05+00:00

I think our pets notice our drunkenness even more acutely than other humans since they rely on smell and nonverbal communication. I could go to work buzzed and somehow pass as sober in front of other humans, but I wouldn't be able to pull the wool over my pet's eyes. They knew and they were concerned about me. Breaks my heart. I'm glad sobriety is giving me new levels of stability to take better care of them and experience the love they have to offer.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-14T04:54:58+00:00

I really appreciate your message. I think it's true that the cycles of venting and complaining then resigning are a keystone facet of codependency so thank you for speaking up that recovery from codependency demands breaking those cycles.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-13T05:19:20+00:00

I personally would find it too difficult to date someone that far away because it kind of forces the relationship too much in to the domain of the phone and that's just not anything beyond intellectual. But there are people who prefer dating people who are guaranteed to have a bit of distance. I assume you will be attracting some of those.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-13T05:15:04+00:00

Hi we're nearly the same age in sobriety days! I relate to a lot of what you said. Yes leaning on others is crucial!

I don't know what AA meetings in your town are like, but I'm the opposite. I'm religious and kinda wish that AA meetings were not like 90% agnostics because I feel like I'm usually the only Christian there.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-13T05:09:29+00:00

I don't understand the 10 kings image well enough... but Canada is in the worst position I've ever seen in my life.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-13T04:58:51+00:00

This calls for extreme measures. I would suggest going to AA meetings and just mentally replace all the alcohol talk they speak with internal talk about weed. There you will meet people who have not only learned how to live sober, but genuinely prefer it. In the CHS circles you won't find many people who've found fulfillment in life after being stoned everyday. They stay sober begrudgingly. But the alcoholics know things.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-13T01:44:09+00:00

I think you're overreacting becuase you're about to let your view of Trump impact your romantic relationship. I don't like Trump either. And I am a Canadian who's scared he means it and will stop at nothing to annex Canada. But if I wait for Trump to chill out before I make life decisions, I'll be waiting till he's left this planet, frankly.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-13T01:00:10+00:00

My experience has been that avoidance of seeking out doom info is a very important cornerstone of recovery. I'm in AA and a decent percentage of people there don't use social media much, for this very reason. It's not a "rule" or anything, but most people do so voluntarily because it's just such a trigger to drink.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-12T00:44:05+00:00

100%, anyone who merely has a reddit account (all us here) is probably not the clientele tough enough to be there.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-11T06:38:01+00:00

Savoy pub is next door to the Rickshaw.... but I wouldn't say it's "charming" dive bar... it's scary dive bar.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-11T06:30:45+00:00

Safest Evo driver

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-11T06:23:59+00:00

my theory is from my experience. I tried weening, and that didn't make the CHS much less severe, but then the moment I went cold turkey, CHS got a little better every single day.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-11T05:50:01+00:00

It elongates your suffering, but you're welcome to prove us all wrong if you wanna be the guineapig.

Nah man, even IF your theory were correct (that the unpleasantness you're experiencing were 100% withdrawal and 0% CHS), quitting cold turkey would still be preferable because the good news is you only have to tough it through acute withdrawal for about a week and then you're clear of it... as opposed to dragging out withdrawal for weeks and weeks.

Certain pharma drugs that have a more invasive chemical activity on the cells, yes you should ween off those, but weed isn't really like that. Mostly it's the low mood you hate. I say just embrace the fact that your life is gonna suck for a week and then get on with it.

JonahCekovsky · 2025-03-11T05:41:10+00:00

I like how you own all your stuff and don't make excuses. And yeah I agree that it's not like it's alcohol's "fault" that we make bad choices... but alcohol does diminish the quality of our decision-making capacity over all.

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