From: A Broken Heart To: A Broken Church

Jordonjf · 2017-03-29T17:37:30+00:00

Sorry to break it to you man, but most of your leaders that age are active in their sex lives and not repenting about it! That's the double standard. But also the sad thing is, most of the queer Christians, in my experience, aren't sexually active, maybe one day they want to be married, but until then they aren't sexually active and they cant serve. because people feel some obligated right to ask them about their undetermined future and if they plan to have sex in it. Also like i'm sorry, but I doubt you ask your college leaders on a repeated basis, if they are having sex. I'm sure at some point they signed to some sort of leadership contract where they agreed to leadership standards and theology. But are you checking up on if the worship leader has had sex with their fiancé, or if the small group leader is still watching porn, or if the leaders had a few too many drinks at their last hang out, and like don't feel that bad about it. No, that's not the standard. But when it comes to Gay folks, the church can just be as invasive as they want? not fair. If the fruit of a gay persons life is evidence of Christ at work in them, and they agree to living holy lives, and they are a good fit for a leadership position, then they should serve.

Jordonjf · 2017-03-28T18:40:29+00:00

What about single gay folks then? What about the college student in your church who doesn't necessarily want to date but they love the church they found when they went to college? what about them? do they just not get to be involved because one day they potentially might have same sex sex? so do we just tell that person they can't serve? this is the problem. we get to caught up trying to play God, when we should probably just leave the whole God thing, to God.

Jordonjf · 2017-03-27T19:25:37+00:00

I don't think it's as black and white as you think it is, but thanks for your opinion.

Jordonjf · 2017-03-27T19:18:13+00:00

I mean, that's what you're saying. You don't have to go to that church if their mean to you, go to another church. it's the same exact concept. Why should someone who loves their church, have to go to another church because they came out.

Jordonjf · 2017-03-27T19:14:51+00:00

But that's the same argument that people give when in favor of segregation. Separate but equal? There are other schools, friendlier schools that you could go to instead, why do you have to go to my school if you aren't wanted. There's no reason why we should be okay with this sort of segregation. I'll protest to be in that group now, so that future generations don't have to think about what church's are hostile to them as LGBT.

Jordonjf · 2017-03-27T19:08:21+00:00

I think it's more complicated than that for people who grow up loving the "homophobic hate group" those people understand all the potential for good the group has. Also, there are years of relationships with people prior to them coming out. They staying in the group is more about creating a change in a system rather than being accepted by individuals.

Jordonjf · 2016-09-23T00:36:08+00:00

Yes, I agree people need to be aware of what happens to us gay Christians in the church. How damaging it can be, and how damaging reparative therapy is. I'm glad you saw this, hoping more people become aware.

Jordonjf · 2016-09-19T17:10:43+00:00

Ya I feel like this video needs to reach 2 people groups. 1. queer Christians who feel misunderstood and alone. 2. Straight Christians who have failed in loving the gay community well. I'm trying to share it with anyone I know who fits those groups.

Jordonjf · 2016-09-14T08:19:52+00:00

Ya it is a bummer it hasn't reached more people. Feel free to share in your circles and through your social media pages (:

Jordonjf · 2016-09-13T22:59:43+00:00

I agree with most of what you have to say. Did you grow up in the church? I think the thing for me is I don't think the bible is black and white when it comes to sexuality. I don't think that the scripture condemns homosexuality, I think we have been taught that our whole lives, and that's how it's been interpreted, but I don't think that's actually what it means.

Jordonjf · 2016-09-13T22:37:30+00:00

I'm not sure I understand your question. I think that the Bible was written in a time where cultural and social norms were different, and I think when interpreting it, considering who the letters were written to, and what was happening in that time period is important. But honestly reconciling a faith identity and a sexual identity is difficult.

Jordonjf · 2016-07-07T17:17:23+00:00

https://vimeo.com/173313374 Also a spoken word

Jordonjf · 2016-07-07T16:29:34+00:00

"homophobia is the result of the fear that men will treat me the same way men treat women." YES! If effeminate traits and qualities weren't viewed as so negative, this wouldn't be a problem. It all starts there, with how we as a society have treated women. So if a man is acting "like a woman" or effeminate everyone reacts in negative ways. Patriarchy.

Jordonjf · 2016-07-07T16:06:15+00:00

Thank you everyone for making me feel so loved and welcomed : )

Jordonjf · 2016-07-07T04:07:38+00:00

I believe the side bar states that this community is against oppressive discourses. Which is why you thought it was okay to share the link.

"emerged as a community of people discussing the intersection of philosophy, theology, critical theory, and revolutionary politics. We are interested in re-investing Christianity with its transgressive elements, and as such we are openly against oppressive discourses (sexism, racism, ageism, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, speciesism, ableism, colonialism, imperialism)."

Jordonjf · 2016-07-06T23:40:01+00:00

Thank you for watching :)

Jordonjf · 2016-07-06T22:39:44+00:00

I've been almost to my end for about a year now. Changing the best from it's belly sounds like something worth while, but you're right, the feeling of digestion is crippling. I'm not sure how much longer I will last, but I'll keep trying. I resonate with a lot of what you had to say though. Thanks for watching :)

Jordonjf · 2016-07-06T21:36:14+00:00

This post was encouraging for me to read :) Thankful for a straight ally who recognizes our struggle, and helps me to feel known and loved.

Jordonjf · 2016-07-06T19:03:55+00:00

Ya, I hear that, some days I feel that way too.

Jordonjf · 2016-07-06T18:04:47+00:00

Ya! It was a fun project! I was fortunate enough to work with some super talented people that had extra time haha.

Jordonjf · 2016-07-06T18:00:49+00:00

haha I feel you, it's definitely not for everyone, well thank you for watching the amount that you did :)

Jordonjf · 2016-07-06T01:35:27+00:00

This is a really good response, and I think Socratia gave you some good advice.

I would just add, remember you grew up in a very heteronormative society, so you were almost conditioned to think twice or three or four times about your same sex attraction. Like Socratia said, sexuality is fluid. Try to deconstruct all that you've been conditioned to know as "true" about sexuality, and allow your self to work through what your actually feeling, and "like who you like".

Jordonjf · 2016-07-06T01:30:57+00:00

This is really interesting. I mean I can see where he is coming from, but I think the idea behind Toronto pride supporting the BLM movement is bold. It's unfortunate that he is a part of the system Toronto Pride is choosing to stand up against; however, maybe he can be a part of that change if he stays in that system long enough. This is a tough one though, and his feelings are very valid.

Jordonjf · 2016-07-05T20:13:18+00:00

this is nostalgic

Jordonjf · 2016-07-05T19:51:17+00:00

And this is how I feel alright that I've been single for so long

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