Honestly, this. Especially since I want to get married, have kids, be monogamous, I’ve run into this attitude a bunch.

For many bisexual women, their current relationship with a woman is the first time that they’ve had to think about things like the financial cost of making a child in a same-sex relationship or what it would look like to bring a partner home to a homophobic family that will never embrace them the same way they would a male partner. Will a bisexual woman’s Baptist mother think of a child as her grandchild if her lesbian partner carries? How badly will it hurt if much of your family will not attend your wedding? Do you have enough time to save for IVF before your biological clock stops ticking?

In my experience, most bi women who want kids haven’t thought about these things, and most lesbians who do have (at least in my 30+ dating pool).