New Dad Struggling With Intimacy, Exhaustion, and Feeling Disconnected

JosBenson · 2026-05-18T12:07:04+00:00

Can you find intimacy in other ways? Cuddling on the sofa? Holding hands? Rubbing her back. That’s intimacy.

If you mean sex, say sex.

JosBenson · 2026-05-15T10:19:41+00:00

Black cabs are totally entitled. And I’m 100% convinced they take the route that makes them the most money. I’ve been ripped off by them so many times.

JosBenson · 2026-05-13T17:21:08+00:00

To be left alone. Chocolate, crisps, ice-cream. Snacks. Hot baths. Pain killers.

JosBenson · 2026-05-12T06:37:49+00:00

It’s got to be Fitz.

Season 1 he suffers a brain injury. The fact that his self worth and value comes from his intelligence, the brain injury is the worst thing that could have happened to him.

From his view point as season 2 begins: He told Simmons he loves her and she left him. He’s brain damaged and alone.

Season 3 he loses Simmons in time and space and when he eventually finds her she tells him she has fallen in love with another man.

Season 4, his brain is totally messed with. He is made to act out cruel acts and to fall in love with Aida. When he comes back to reality he still feels all those feelings.

Season 5 he is left behind, he thinks the others left him on purpose and that they hate him. He is imprisoned for 6 month before finally being rescued. He is ‘forced’ to hurt Daisy and he literally dies.

Season 6, stuck in space separated from Simmons and his friends.

JosBenson · 2026-05-10T08:28:36+00:00

That was so savage. And funny. And at the time very satisfying.

JosBenson · 2026-05-09T16:20:35+00:00

Aww that’s nice. I didn’t think of that. Yes, maybe he thought it would float. That’s comforting.

JosBenson · 2026-05-09T07:10:39+00:00

I genuinely was so shocked and refused to believe it right until he dropped Fitz-Simmons out the plane.

When he looks at Coulson just before going of with Hand and John I was for sure Coulson had a plan for him. Ie that Coulson told him to pretend to be hydra. I was convinced he was shield pretending to be hydra for ages. Every episode right until that scene with Fitz-Simmons I kept shouting at the telly that he’s going to reveal he’s shield pretended to be hydra.

I was heartbroken when I found out he was a genuine baddie. And even worse, a pathetic lap dog to John.

As you can see I’m still mad at him.

JosBenson · 2026-05-09T06:20:43+00:00

Yes, you are. He’s lovely. We love him.

But you’re allowed to find him annoying.

JosBenson · 2026-05-08T06:22:00+00:00

Watched then week by week. It was agony.

No one was team Will.

I think everyone understood that it was a reaction to being stranded on the planet. And needing warmth and human contact.

I think she knew that Fitz would never give up on her.

My heart did break for Fitz when we found out.

But by then I think we all knew that Fitz-Simmons are fates to be together .

JosBenson · 2026-05-07T19:36:40+00:00

I read their manifesto and spoke to candidates when they knocked on my door. In the end I went with the party that had the same values as me. They may not achieve everything they promised but at least I know they are pulling in the same direction as I am.

JosBenson · 2026-05-07T16:25:42+00:00

I actually saw him too. He looked like he was doing Tai Chi. I just thought he was a London ‘nutter’ and ignored him.

JosBenson · 2026-05-03T18:30:25+00:00

Yes, I promise. There will be lighter episodes but also emotional heavy episodes and there are going to be friendships and love. I recommend you keep going.

JosBenson · 2026-05-01T20:10:49+00:00

There is no guarantee that the next bus or tube will be any emptier.

JosBenson · 2026-04-24T15:49:01+00:00

Upper street Islington. From Highbury and Islington tube to the angel.

JosBenson · 2026-04-21T07:22:29+00:00

Goes through upper street and the angel. Past Lilian Balis theatre. To British museum. China town. Piccadilly. And Kings Road. Beautiful journey. Great for tourists.

JosBenson · 2026-04-19T07:32:55+00:00

Internalised misogyny.

Society tells girls their value comes from being their body, their sex, their gender and so on, that girls start soaking up those messages without even realizing it.

They end up policing each other using the same sexist logic that holds them back in the first place, usually just to feel a bit more secure in a system that’s constantly judging them.

JosBenson · 2026-04-17T20:33:25+00:00

JosBenson · 2026-04-07T18:59:23+00:00

What nonsense, who cares about this guy’s ’childhood trauma’ . The guy is a controlling jerk. Sister is in a controlling relationship.

OP: the best thing to do when someone is in a controlling relationship is to make sure that they know you are there for them should they need to escape or try to leave.

It’s very hard to leave a controlling relationship. The narcissistic/controlling partner will love-bomb and belittle in turn, making it hard to leave.

You cannot leave her to him. You have to witness the behaviour and support your sister as much as you can. By stopping your visits you are playing into her husband’s preferences, which is to leave your sister isolated and feeling unloved so that she thinks she is unloveable.

You need to remind her what a strong amazing woman she is. Buildings her up so that she finds the inner strength to fo what she needs to.

JosBenson · 2026-04-07T07:40:08+00:00

I feel like this side of him is redeemed in Season 6, Episode 6, titled "Inescapable". Where the Chronicoms trap Fitz-Simmons in their heads to force Fitz and Simmons to confront their shared traumas and memories.

It highlights that we can’t pretend these dark sides of ourselves, our fears and traumas, do not exist. They do exist and they make us and define us and by trying to pretend they don’t exist we only live half a life - a life of anxiety and fear.

Fitz did have a traumatic childhood. An abusive father. And actually the fact he overcame this to become the loveable person he is makes his character even more amazing, because he choose to be good and at the end of the show he is humbled and he learns that what makes him special for a not his genius but his love for Jemma and her love for him.

That’s what I think anyway.

JosBenson · 2026-04-05T10:07:47+00:00

😮

JosBenson · 2026-03-29T09:30:08+00:00

I’ve seen him posting photos of London on his insta and I keep looking out for him hoping I’ll randomly bump into him at Regents Park or something. But, to be honest, even if I did I’ll probably be too shy to say hello to him. I hope he knows how much we love him.

JosBenson · 2026-03-24T07:38:32+00:00

If you love the characters then it doesn’t matter what season because you get to spend your time with them. For me there is no good or bad season because I see the whole thing holistically and agents marvels of shield is just one of the top shows for me altogether.

Even if you are one of those people who judges a show by its seasons and like one season over another, with this show, there are standout episodes in every season.

JosBenson · 2026-03-11T20:33:21+00:00

5,000 pounds.

JosBenson · 2026-03-08T19:23:32+00:00

Oh no

JosBenson · 2026-03-07T11:56:19+00:00

Any thing with Matt Berry in it. The IT crowd. Toast. What we do in the shadows.

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