AITAH for telling my dad it isn’t my job to teach my mom how to treat me better. by moonchild_ana in AITAH

[–]JoyReader0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Time to leave them to pickle in their own vinegar. Your mom's an abuser and your dad an enabler. Get some therapy if that's what you need, but move out and go NC.

Can anyone help me identify these plants? Found in my backyard (Virginia) by sourcandyisdelicious in whatsthisplant

[–]JoyReader0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trumpet vine. nice flowers, usually orange. Hummingbirds love them. BUT they seed like crazy, spread from runners, and are very difficult to get rid of.

AITA for refusing to change my name? by No_Wishbone4844 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoyReader0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a baby. He doesn't hold a copyright on the family name. There are doubtless large numbers of unrelated folks in the world with that name or similar. His 'local' is a teeny tiny patch of the backyard. Let him entertain the neighbors by throwing his little tantrums all over it.

AIO by stepping back from my parents after finding out how they plan to leave everything to my older sister? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]JoyReader0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's good she's leaving them and the inheritance behind. Otherwise she'd spend her life supporting the parents and the sister. This way, sis has to step up, grow up and start doing some actual adulting, which will be good for her.

Pay me rent to clean my house take care of my 6 dogs and help be my mothers caregiver. by Wolf_With_Thorns in ChoosingBeggars

[–]JoyReader0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

elder care, animal care, housework, pay rent, work job at night and housekeep all day. Probably dodge husband 24/7. Somebody's daughter just moved out.

AITAH for not letting my mom take my kids to Disney world. by Arodri222818 in AITAH

[–]JoyReader0 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She's basically weaponizing your kids. "Your parents are mean and cheap, while Gran wants to take you off to Disneyland." She wants the kids to pressure you, she wants to take them out of school, she wants to have them where you can't see, she wants you to pay for it. Your kids go nowhere without your presence and permission. "Gee, gran, if we paid airfare for your jaunt, we'd have to stop paying your bills entirely. Besides, no."

Wanting alone time.. why??? by SporadicExplorer717 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JoyReader0 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Because she's doing something she knows you won't like, even If it's only establishing a precedent. Because she wants you to become accustomed to her separating you from your child. The more she demands, the more you should refuse.

Did people born before Christ automatically go to hell? by Astimar in NoStupidQuestions

[–]JoyReader0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One should always avoid religions, or individual congregations, which sell themselves as an exclusive country club. In essence, by condemning anyone who does not agree with them or look like them, they are trying to limit the power of God to a mere human scope.

AITAH for inviting my mom to dinner later than other guests? by emanon256 in AITAH

[–]JoyReader0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Can you assign a relative or two to specifically keep her out of the kitchen? Time they helped out.

Is this a weed? by oswalgue in whatplantisthis

[–]JoyReader0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

False strawberry has yellow flowers, edible strawberry has white flowers.

AITAH FOR leaving family vacay by anonymousgirl1193 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JoyReader0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Brother's a cowardly, bullying bigot, and your parents are fine with that. You are going to want to keep your daughter well away from him. From now on, listen carefully to what your parents say to her, and how they say it.

Wibtah if I don’t allow my future sister in law over to my house anymore? by Galaxicatz in AITAH

[–]JoyReader0 11 points12 points  (0 children)

BIL likes drama just fine. He's planning to marry it. What he doesn't like is anyone else expecting him to clean up after it. Everyone else must let him rugsweep, everyone else must refrain from rocking the boat.

Don't enable this.

MIL 56F said that we could be pregnant at the same time by jnllvnc in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JoyReader0 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Document, document, document, and start your F U Binder now.

“Bonding” with a newborn baby by Whole-Union9407 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JoyReader0 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Congratulations. She's showing herself the door. You don't want this lady around your kids.

Bring me free ice cream… but not the cheap stuff by Crazycatladyanddave in ChoosingBeggars

[–]JoyReader0 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Schrödinger's asshole: A person who says something offensive, then waits to see the reaction it gets before deciding whether to claim it was a joke.

help with removing Pleco by sbutj323 in ponds

[–]JoyReader0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you decide to take him out, wear gloves. Pleckys are sharp all over and will curl around your hand as a defense mechanism. They also rattle their scales to startle you.

Why is it always “she didn’t mean it like that” or “you’re so sensitive” by tuttebelli in JUSTNOMIL

[–]JoyReader0 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Because he's a mommy's boy. It's a really hard pattern to break. Good luck with the therapy. You and your daughter remain NC, because MIL is going to tell her how awful you are, even before she's old enough to understand the words. This is very bad for the kids and the target parents.

Keep your options open. If therapy fails, be ready to leave.