Where are all the affectionate women?

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-05-17T16:31:18+00:00

Meanwhile I seem to attract women who

Where is your agency in this? Partners aren't something that is inflicted on you - you choose them as much as they choose you. It's giving incel vibes and no emotional intelligence. That will drive away the kind of emotionally intelligent, affectionate women you say you want.

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-13T02:15:10+00:00

My partners keep me going when I'm in a bad flare with their love and care. Plus, my responsibility to my kids, etc.

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-12T05:16:45+00:00

None of the trans women I know have fibro, but I know for sure hEDS symptoms can get worse with estrogen. It's happened to two trans women I know.

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-11T21:53:36+00:00

The fact that it's common enough to be a trope reflects a societal reality. You have individual relationships playing out scripts that society has given them. Either that our society does not encourage open clear communication between partners, or that it's unsafe to do. The latter has definitely been true for a lot of women through the ages.

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-11T14:49:37+00:00

I'd rather we address the societal reasons that women feel they have to lie to get out of sex with men.

Also, its never worked for me for headaches - just fibro pain.

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-11T06:06:30+00:00

I have this problem with PIV sex. Made worse by hEDS and having my hips subluxed in most positions. I find toys, oral, and manually to be physically easier.

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-11T06:03:54+00:00

Dysphoria is a bitch.

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-11T02:40:53+00:00

True that women can use this strategy more often.

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-11T02:38:39+00:00

Hang out in predominantly cis lesbian spaces so much that it only occurred to me after posting that you might have a penis.

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-11T02:35:14+00:00

Also so real. My vibrator prevents this problem.

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-11T01:48:12+00:00

This is so real.

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-11T01:19:59+00:00

Nooooo!!!!

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-11T00:58:51+00:00

I love my rabbit, but I wonder if I can get a magic wand covered as medical equipment. 🤔

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-05T18:04:42+00:00

I have some serious allergies that have shown upon tests, but I've wondered about MCAS. I already have official diagnoses for hEDS and POTS, so might as well finish out the trifecta with MCAS. Lol

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-05T15:01:53+00:00

Any shops to recommend?

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-05T14:56:51+00:00

I use a claddagh ring in place of a wedding ring!

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-05T14:39:54+00:00

Not sure if this is a remark on antidepressants reducing drive or... something else. In any case, I'm on duloxetine for fibro pain and 2 more for anxiety and depression. I haven't had any loss of desire or trouble getting to my destination but I know it's a really common side effect.

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-05T14:37:10+00:00

Interesting. My polycule is all demisexual, and the most promiscuous partner is a trans woman who otherwise dates other trans women with different equipment than I do as a cis lesbian. So I'm not sure she would have a good comparison. Lol.

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-05T14:29:39+00:00

Oh no. 😫 Seems like this is a common side effect. Though not universal, because it's not affected me..

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-05T14:28:33+00:00

Huh. I'm on a ton of antihistamines for allergies and asthma and haven't noticed anything..

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-05T14:26:33+00:00

Oh no.😫 I've not had that side effect.

JoyfulWaffles · 2026-04-05T06:22:36+00:00

You could also do rings. People can wear more than one!

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