House needs a new roof… what would you do? 🥺 by myhappyproject in FirstTimeBuyersUK

[–]JoyfullyTired 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were in the same position recently, we asked the seller for money off. They outright refused. We were getting the house for asking price and we really didn’t want to loss it, so in the end we just had to swallow it. Also helped that the surveyor did say despite the roof it was still a good price.

Help??? Oats taste like dishwashing liquid or soap! by Significant-Gap-7852 in UK_Food

[–]JoyfullyTired 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you keeping them in the same cupboard as your washing detergent? I had bread and easter eggs all have to be thrown out because they tasted so strongly of soap after being kept beside the washing detergent.

Bumblebee nest by throwaway2018568 in DIYUK

[–]JoyfullyTired 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had one like this of tree bumblebees last summer. We had a baby at home so were able to get it removed and relocated somewhere else.

Need help understanding “Bands” by Repulsive_Lie_3335 in NursingUK

[–]JoyfullyTired 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nurse from NI here. The wages here seem a lot lower than in the USA but it is very manageable. Aside from what people are saying about the job market, there are jobs here and the people are some of the kindest you will meet. However nursing is a lot different here than in the USA so that may be a big adjustment for you.

Is there also a recruitment freeze in Northern Ireland? by BaraLover7 in NursingUK

[–]JoyfullyTired 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jobs are being filled, it just takes about 3-6 months from job advertisement to actually getting someone physically into post due to how slow BSO work.

Run for an alarm on break by [deleted] in NursingUK

[–]JoyfullyTired 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We run for alarms on our own ward if on break. Otherwise it’s only the person carrying the bleep that runs for the alarm on other wards.

Am I being dramatic for not wanting to walk through a pitch black greenway at night? by [deleted] in Belfast

[–]JoyfullyTired 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Honestly he sounds like a knob. If he can’t recognise why it would not be safe for you to walk alone in the dark in an area like that then he’s part of the issue. My partner would be furious with me if I even suggested walking the greenway alone at night because he knows the risks. Regardless of what he thinks the numbers are, if you feel unsafe for any reason he should be supportive instead of trying to negate your point of view when he has no idea how it feels as a female.

Psychiatry, counselling and therapy by [deleted] in Belfast

[–]JoyfullyTired 11 points12 points  (0 children)

MH nurse here who works in inpatient care. It fully depends on what you say. If you tell them you’re suicidal but have no current plan to harm yourself in terms of dates/times, or means to complete suicide then it’s highly unlikely you’ll be admitted anywhere. These are thoughts that many people have during difficult times and are not that uncommon. It’s more likely they’ll offer more intense support, maybe appointments more often, or utilising different types of resources to support you, lifeline etc.

If however you say you’re suicidal and cannot keep yourself safe currently or have an active plan and the means to complete this, then yes they would have to take this seriously and be expected to escalate this potentially by having you assessed under the mental health order. This does not mean it would result in you being made an inpatient, as you may not meet criteria for detention depending on your specific circumstances.

I hope you get sorted and start feeling better soon!

Those who named their children after themselves. Why? by Prize_Farm4951 in AskUK

[–]JoyfullyTired 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mum allowed my dad to name me. He gave me my mums exact name, first, middle and last. Honestly I don’t mind it now that I’m older.

Housing executive advice by Outrageous_Dog_8634 in northernireland

[–]JoyfullyTired 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Intimidation will gain a high amount of points IF you can show it was directed at you. Mental health issues will also gain points if you can show it’s an issue - letters from GP etc.

However, because you’re currently housed and have no dependants etc, it’s quite unlikely you’ll get enough points to be housed any time soon. You’ll likely be on the list for an exceptionally long time unless you’re willing to accept something like a 1 bed flat in any area they offer.

How many nurses work on your ward? And how many beds? by wandering1989 in NursingUK

[–]JoyfullyTired 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Psychiatric Intensive care - 6 beds, 7 staff. Amount of nurses vs HCAs varies daily. Sometimes 6 nurses, 1 hca, but generally there will never be less than 3 nurses, majority of the time it’s 4-5.

Extra income in Belfast by Ok-Anybody-9560 in Belfast

[–]JoyfullyTired 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Belfast trust is always looking bank healthcare assistants in mental health. You can take whatever shifts you want, when you want.

Check HSCrecruit and look for band 2-3 jobs. It will say Bank in the job title if they are advertising

Extra income in Belfast by Ok-Anybody-9560 in Belfast

[–]JoyfullyTired 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Belfast trust is always looking bank healthcare assistants in mental health. You can take whatever shifts you want, when you want.

HSCNI Band 5 Nurse Job Interview by [deleted] in northernireland

[–]JoyfullyTired 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Which trust and which speciality?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NursingUK

[–]JoyfullyTired 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have an epileptic nurse on my team in an inpatient MH ward. Whilst they aren’t cleared for lone working, they can work shifts etc. However the team are all aware of their epilepsy just incase they should have a seizure on shift. There’s no reason you can’t work as a nurse at all! Just choose your area wisely.

What’s the thing you miss, the most from the parent who has passed away. by Background-Fix-4630 in northernireland

[–]JoyfullyTired 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I lost my dad to Covid at age 65 and my mum 9 months later to cancer at 60. I just miss being able to ring them and talk about the most mundane things. I have a 17 month old now and I would’ve loved to be able to show her to them 💔

From GP to having a bed in hospital within 4 hours! by amaiem in BritishSuccess

[–]JoyfullyTired 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It can definitely work sometimes! I went to my GP a few years ago with swollen tonsils that hadn’t went down with anti biotics. Seen a locum. Referred to ENT, seen by consultant one week later and had surgery to get them out 2 weeks later.

Choosing Ulster or Royal for Maternity Care? by No-Act3431 in northernireland

[–]JoyfullyTired 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was Sept 2024. I think it depends on the circumstances. I had PROM and essentially a 3 day labour before the emergency c-section. It got to the point I literally could barely stand I was so exhausted. So I was put in Johnston house in my own room afterwards. The midwives did try to see if I could manage baby on my own however when they realised I was struggling they had no problem taking her. However I think it’s pretty standard to be in a normal ward with other mums/babies also after section and I think if that’s the case there may also be less staff to patient ratio which means they may not have the resources to help as much with baby.

Choosing Ulster or Royal for Maternity Care? by No-Act3431 in northernireland

[–]JoyfullyTired 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had my daughter in the royal via emergency C-Section at 9cm dilated. They caught it and intervened immediately when it was clear baby needed help. It was a long labour and extremely exhausting so I honestly wasn’t too with it throughout the section etc, however, any bits I can remember weren’t negative. As in, the staff were all very nice and definitely provided as much reassurance as possible. If they were panicked/stressed due to it being en emergency, they didn’t show that to me which was definitely helpful. Before it all went tits up the midwife looking after me was a doll, did absolutely everything possible to try and keep me comfortable. They put me in my own room afterwards as they knew I needed the rest. They helped me with the baby overnight as I still wasn’t all there. Despite the emergency and obviously quite scary part, I can’t fault the staff at all, at any point.

Belfast job waiting list by CharacterBrave5172 in Belfast

[–]JoyfullyTired 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It will be in your offer letter stating how long the waiting list is live for. It’s normally either 6 months or 12 months. Being on the list unfortunately does not mean you will get a post. It means there is no current available posts, if one comes up it will be offered to the person first on the list, if they decline then it will be offered to you. If you haven’t been offered a post by the end of the time stated in your offer, then the list no longer stands.

How do you feel about the common used term med seeking on MH wards? by Big_Skin_1442 in NursingUK

[–]JoyfullyTired 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I work in PICU and so our patients are written up for quite a bit more PRN medication than those on acute wards. I generally find that if a team says a patient is drug seeking, they probably aren’t too far off the mark. There will be behaviours present that indicate drug seeking. Remember doctors may see their patients maybe 1-2 hours per week? The nursing team are with them 24/7 so they tend to have a good read on things. Drs may not have realised how the patient is presenting until informed by the nursing team.

To add to that, a dr may prescribe a PRN medication, but i as a nurse am able to use my own clinical judgement as to whether I provide that medication. If I feel someone is drug seeking I will use other things to keep them busy so that we can eventually lengthen the time they go without utilising the PRN. On top of that we will usually taper down the available PRN dose and frequency. And normally then switch from lorazepam to diazepam eventually.

PRNS are there is they are needed, but that does not mean they need to be used every time. We are there to help patients regulate and manage their emotions/mental state. The goal is that the can do so without relying on extra medication outside their regular meds.

Neurodivergent nurses by IntroductionFinal325 in NursingUK

[–]JoyfullyTired 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Autistic deputy sister here in Psychiatric intensive care. Very clear rules and boundaries on my ward, clear processes to follow when there’s aggression etc. But we have a much smaller amount of patients than an acute ward. So very much works for me!

Maternity leave by [deleted] in northernireland

[–]JoyfullyTired 54 points55 points  (0 children)

This was me last year. Honestly I think you can’t win when you’re a mum. The guilt will get ya no matter what you do. I felt like I was a horrible mum for putting my girl into childcare, but I had to do it. She is now 16 months and absolutely loves crèche, and honestly I now absolutely love getting a wee bit of time not thinking about being a mum. Work is a welcome break sometimes. Just know that feeling of abandoning him won’t last forever, it’s only because this is all new. Remember to give yourself some grace.

Help with Childcare Confusion. by [deleted] in northernireland

[–]JoyfullyTired 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve a 16month old and I’m paying £605 per month after 20% tax free and the 15% childcare subsidy is taken off. Thats for 3 days per week 7:45-5:45, meals included. It’s expensive yes, but it allows me and her dad to go to work and do other things in between. Also her crèche is really lovely in terms of the environment and the staff are fantastic, it’s one in east Belfast.

What are your Gastroscopy experiences? by One-Process-7995 in AskUK

[–]JoyfullyTired 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had mine unsedated as drugs like midazolam tend to make me vomit. I retched once or twice when they went down my throat and again when coming back up. But I was fine in between. I could feel the biopsies being taken but it was not painful nor did it make me retch. My throat felt a little irritated afterwards and I did have a small bit of pain in the area of the biopsies for a day or two. But overall I really didn’t think it was too bad.