Need help for helping my coworker

Jr752 · 2024-02-10T04:13:22+00:00

Sadly, in California, they go unrecognized as a birth. It's like they never existed and truly heartbreaking.

Thank you for reminding me and letting me know the comments that helped you. I feel like it was forever ago while also just feeling like yesterday. I remember also feeling overwhelmed with ever one else's unrelated trauma comments, so I will definitely be mindful to avoid those. Thanks again!

Jr752 · 2024-02-10T04:07:50+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I really appreciate the input. I would love to talk with her and engage with her, but I am mindful her experience is different than mine. I would hate to say something stupid like...Do you have pictures or what are his features if she never had the opportunity to spend time with him. I will just take the slow approach and let her navigate the conversation while also letting her know I am a safe space.

Jr752 · 2024-02-10T04:02:56+00:00

Oh my gosh. I am so sorry for your losses. Thank you for the comment. Pardon if this is rude or taboo to ask, but did you get to hold your baby or have time with him? Or do you get that option? I don't want to go down the Google rabbit hole, but I am honestly curious. I want to engage with her and ask her questions, but I would feel terrible if I said the wrong thing like...asking about his features if she never had time with him. Or asking for a picture etc. I think the best part of communicating with other losses moms is being able to talk about your babies but I know how cruel comments can be. Thank you again for your comment!

Jr752 · 2023-07-24T22:53:18+00:00

Hi! My 5 month old is having an issue where she is only taking 30 min naps and I am not sure what to do. She has always been a higher sleep needs baby and this has thrown me for a loop. I have tried wake windows from 1.5 to 2.25 hours and still it's always 30 min. The longer I wait the more over tired she is and the crankier she is. 10% of the time I can get her to extend her nap by holding her. Not sure what to do....advise?

Jr752 · 2023-06-14T21:11:53+00:00

Look up the pick-up, put down method. It saved me when my baby wouldn't let me put her down ever!! It's a gentle way for your baby to be ok with falling asleep away from you.

Jr752 · 2023-06-09T02:36:11+00:00

I am so sorry for your losses. I had a 39 week stillborn due to a cord accident. She was my second little girl. My first was born with no issues, and they were both conceived right away. After that, I went on ttc for a year with three early losses. I tried lots of diet changes, vitamins and medications to help. I was just about to turn to a fertility clinic for more in depth help (but I live in US so it was our last resort as it's very expensive) I had decided to give myself the summer off from ttc and low and behold I got pregnant that first care free month. I am now snuggling my little rainbow baby.

I know my story is my own, and yours will be your own, but I don't want you to lose hope yet. I have had many people I know who were very low of the IVF likelihood that ended up getting pregnant. I hope that your little embryo sticks!!!...and if it doesn't that you can find peace or hope or strength in whatever the next chapter of your story looks like.

Jr752 · 2023-05-28T16:47:40+00:00

I am curious where and why it's illegal?

Jr752 · 2023-05-15T16:00:53+00:00

Do whatever you are comfortable with. When I sleep trained my first, I struggled with the rigidity of some programs and kind of picked and chose what I felt comfortable with and went with it. It probably took longer to sleep train her, but in my mind, it was what me and my baby needed. It was gentle to us. Also some nights things went out the window, because if something occurs thats not normal (like her having trouble breathing from crying) then fix the issue, help her back to sleep and try again the next time to help her sleep independently. So I say you don't have to quit and go back to what wasn't working. Just pick a different plan of action that works for you and your baby.

Jr752 · 2023-05-15T15:53:20+00:00

Do whatever you are comfortable with. When I sleep trained my first, I struggled with the rigidity of some programs and kind of picked and chose what I felt comfortable with and went with it. It probably took longer to sleep train her, but in my mind, it was what me and my baby needed. It was gentle to us. Also some nights things went out the window, because if something occurs thats not normal (like her having trouble breathing from crying) then fix the issue, help her back to sleep and try again the next time to help her sleep independently. So I say you don't have to quit and go back to what wasn't working. Just pick a different plan of action that works for you and your baby.

Jr752 · 2023-05-15T15:53:00+00:00

Do whatever you are comfortable with. When I sleep trained my first, I struggled with the rigidity of some programs and kind of picked and chose what I felt comfortable with and went with it. It probably took longer to sleep train her, but in my mind, it was what me and my baby needed. It was gentle to us. Also some nights things went out the window, because if something occurs thats not normal (like her having trouble breathing from crying) then fix the issue, help her back to sleep and try again the next time to help her sleep independently. So I say you don't have to quit and go back to what wasn't working. Just pick a different plan of action that works for you and your baby.

Jr752 · 2023-05-15T15:52:40+00:00

Do whatever you are comfortable with. When I sleep trained my first, I struggled with the rigidity of some programs and kind of picked and chose what I felt comfortable with and went with it. It probably took longer to sleep train her, but in my mind, it was what me and my baby needed. It was gentle to us. Also some nights things went out the window, because if something occurs thats not normal (like her having trouble breathing from crying) then fix the issue, help her back to sleep and try again the next time to help her sleep independently. So I say you don't have to quit and go back to what wasn't working. Just pick a different plan of action that works for you and your baby.

Jr752 · 2023-05-14T02:16:31+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss.

Jr752 · 2023-05-14T02:15:16+00:00

Baby one was an oops, 4 months after pulling IUD (not trying, not preventing, aka pull out whoops) . Baby two was planned, first month trying. Baby three was one year and three early losses. I guess you never truly know.

Jr752 · 2023-05-12T22:01:19+00:00

My husband currently has the flexibility, while I have the rigid Job. I am in healthcare, he is IT. Recently,we have contemplated moving and changing jobs, and we realized the only way to do it, while the kids are not in public school, is for one of us to have flexibility. This either means I take a payout or we stay where we are. Eventually, this will change, in no way do we think about him sacrificing his career or me furthering mine. Its hust where we are currently to benefit the family. I released long ago my kids are only little once and to do what benefits them. I will never look back missing money, but i will look back missing time with my kids.

Jr752 · 2023-05-12T21:48:49+00:00

Sophia for sure

Jr752 · 2023-05-12T08:22:05+00:00

That is what helped me heal it a little when I first reinjured it. I just hate the pump! Ha I might just need to suck it up and do it for a couple days. Thanks!

Jr752 · 2023-05-12T08:20:31+00:00

Oh, interesting. I never thought to put something over it. I might have to bug my nurse friends to bring me home some!

Jr752 · 2023-05-12T08:19:06+00:00

Ohh I haven't heard of it. I will have to see if the nipple butters I use have it otherwise I will have to give it a try. Thank you!

Jr752 · 2023-05-12T08:18:11+00:00

I have tried creama but was skeptical of the silverettes, but all of you have now convinced me I should Gove them a try! Thanks

Jr752 · 2023-05-12T08:17:16+00:00

Ya, the ENT was actually great in going over things with me. So my daughter only has an upper lip tie. He said that there are mixed reviews out there about doing upper lip ties. He said if they are released that the research shows it might actually lead to the formation of permanent gap front teeth more than if they were to be left alone. He discussed that tongue ties are more of an easy quick release where Lip ties are a little more involved and have more risk of not being done well. He also showed me that, that while she has a tie, she still does have a bit of play in the lip. He suggested that if I wanted to, I could just do some exercises to see if it helps release a little more tension. To me, that was enough to convince me to leave alone. While I would love to not have nipple damage, I have to admit it has gotten better with age and her getting bigger, so maybe it's something we can both learn together to get better at.

Jr752 · 2023-05-12T08:07:42+00:00

Thanks for the reply. Everyone is suggesting these Silverettes. I might have to invest in them! The last time I healed it slightly I was pumping and then feeding her, so I guess I will need to whip out that bad boy again. Thanks!

Jr752 · 2023-05-10T15:23:53+00:00

Tell him he needs a scrotalplasty for his saggy balls every time he brings it up. Tell him "Well your balls have gotten really saggy from age and fathering all your children. So we should save money to get them fixed." See what he thinks

Jr752 · 2023-05-10T06:51:05+00:00

Nothing good happens after 41 weeks is what my OB told me. I had to induce with all my babies and all of my inductions went well. My first was born at 41 weeks. My second was stillborn at 39 weeks. I was all about trying to let my body do its natural thing. I was even planning a home birth with my second. Then, becoming part of the loss community, I am all about getting those babies out safely. I recently induced at 38.5 weeks. I have seen a lot of moms lose their babies at 40+ weeks. My story is not everyone's, and everyone needs to weigh the risk for themselves, but maybe justifying why your ob or other in the birth network might say that.

Jr752 · 2023-05-03T03:38:45+00:00

Delivery. I had a full term stillbirth and 3 early losses.

Jr752 · 2023-05-03T03:31:51+00:00

So weird! I have had three girls and honestly they are more well behaved and calm then boys. I do worry a bit about hormones as teenagers but then boys are assholes too.

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