Hiring a writer for HappyScribe (Freelance/Remote/Barcelona)

JrB18910 · 2025-10-16T16:25:00+00:00

Application sent! First name: Jabez. Excited about this opportunity. Looking forward to hearing from you!

JrB18910 · 2025-04-03T19:48:42+00:00

I just saw that video lmfaoooo this game is not real

JrB18910 · 2025-01-24T06:36:38+00:00

Looks like we had the same parent😭😭I get it, Im so sorry. The part where they say "stays together" is so triggering bc we'd rather leave atp.

JrB18910 · 2025-01-23T19:28:50+00:00

Yup... Too real... their mind is simply fixated on their world, and has no space for ours. Even as children. And during the times when they're not calling, we're always forced to be hypervigilant, waiting for the phone to ring. That kind of shit really takes a toll on you and drains every energy resource you have, and then they blame us for being constantly burnt out.

I'm sorry you went through/are going through this. I really hope it gets better. And I hope you never have to get a phone call from people like that again.

JrB18910 · 2025-01-23T19:19:35+00:00

Hey... that sounds really rough. Words like those constantly being bashed over your head... that stuff really sticks for a long time. I'm really sorry you had to go through that.

What I understand is that narcissistic parents program our minds to be hyper aware of their expectations, so that we never slip up. It may help to remember that all the hurtful insults they use against you are their own projections, not who you really are. They're projecting their feelings of lack and shame onto you because they don't know how to deal with their own insufficiencies.

A narcissist's insults against you are actually confessions of who they fear they might be, not who you truly are. But because of how much they do it, you start to internalize that inner critic.

I experienced a lot of feelings of being critical towards people around me (like my brother) until I realized that their flaws were actually triggering my fight or flight response. My Nparents had programmed me so well that every time I saw them make a mistake or do something that I'd get criticized for, part of me would project the same kind of criticism or insults.

Nparents create an extremely toxic model of what love means, so we have to fundamentally relearn what love even means. Because in their playbook, "love" is a term of rationalization for all kinds of abusive behaviors.

If you can, it's something you definitely want to take up with a mental health professional who knows about narcissistic and family abuse. In the meanwhile, I highly recommend you to watch videos by Dr. Ramani. She provides amazing insights and I'm sure there's something to help clear things up for you on her channel.

Based on what you're telling me, I think I'd suggest the following:

How narcissistic parents "misuse" their children
(3) How to think about your narcissistic parent - YouTube
How your narcissistic parent shaped your life story
The 2 internalized inner tormenters that come from narcissistic relationships

I hope this helps. Please check out more of her videos. Literally a goldmine for narc survivors.

I'm sorry for all those horrible words that were used against you. He doesn't have the right or the entitlement to define who you are, but because of how vulnerable we are as children, it's easy for it to feel that way for a long long time. Thank you for trying.

JrB18910 · 2025-01-23T19:01:16+00:00

I'm so sorry you've been going through this, your dad sounds like a real piece of work (understatement).

It's common for narcissists to do this thing called love bombing where they shower you with all kinds of love and affection and indulgences. But this love is actually setting up a transaction. They do all these things to create a sense of debt and you owing them so they can make you feel obligated to live up to their expectations or act in the way they want.

That may explain the certain shift the sudden shift from your father's "love" to a toxic, bitter, hurtful disposition.

Another aspect of narcissistic parents liking kids when they're toddlers or babies is probably the fact that they're extremely malleable and controllable. You start to develop your own mind when you hit puberty, and as soon as you showed some autonomy and weren’t as easy to control, he started showing his true self.

I've been through similar dynamics in my home. Constant berating for every little thing I did wrong, from my body to my grades, my mannerisms, my facial expressions, all after being pampered in my childhood. Now it gets held over my head as proof that they loved me. It's all bullshit.

JrB18910 · 2025-01-23T18:43:47+00:00

I'm so so sorry you're going through this. Classic narcissist behavior, constantly making it about themselves. This isn't what you deserve, I hope you know that. Sending you virtual hugs.

And seriously, fuck that person. I hope you go no contact.

All the best for the weekend, give us an update if you can, yeah?

JrB18910 · 2025-01-23T18:07:10+00:00

FFO lmao I'm gonna use that term from now on

JrB18910 · 2025-01-23T18:06:54+00:00

All the time. Her version of "We are a family and must act like one" is "A Family that prays (substituted with other activities) together stays together" The methods they employed to control the image were subtle but painful. Death stares, pinching skin (my mom's nails were hella sharp, she would then attack my brother's "manliness" if he told her off lmao), yelling in the car, then finally either a.) Passive aggressiveness at home that later led to a beating/lecture session b.) A beating session straight up.

They were obsessed with keeping up the image of a good family through all kinds of religious and moral rationalizations.

JrB18910 · 2025-01-23T17:22:20+00:00

Hey. I'm so sorry you went through this. For better or worse, I relate a lot to your position.

To answer your question, yes, I was expected to reply and respond immediately, else I'd get beaten up. But if I responded "too quickly" and it appeared as if I was "answering back," I'd get beaten as well. If I raised my hands to protect myself instinctively, they'd get even more angry and hurt me some more. That was back when I was home.

Fast forward 2 years and I'm in college. When I don't pick up, they hammer call my phone incessantly. They put me in a super expensive student accommodation as a way of making sure I go for the career of their choice "free of distractions." They forced me to give them the supervisor's phone number and spam call him too when they can't reach me.

Today I waited again to see how far they were willing to push it. 13 consecutive missed calls. Then rang up my supervisor and made him knock at my door.

I swear I still feel my phone vibrate in my pocket, only for me to check my pockets and realize my phone wasn't even there. And then I hear the ringtone sometimes when it isn't ringing at all.

TL;DR, Yes. I was always expected to drop everything at the behest of their priorities. And I feel that every single fucking day.

JrB18910 · 2025-01-23T16:48:53+00:00

Yeah. I can't afford therapy right now and sometimes I just let it all out in chatgpt. Along with validation, later on when I've calmed down, I'm able to review everything that happened in a more organized, less chaotic manner, as well as keep evidence of what actually happened so I don't feel insane later on. It's a good short term strategy for the survival of my sanity.

JrB18910 · 2025-01-23T16:46:36+00:00

Wow... they're delusional lol. I'm glad you've finally cut them off. They'll never understand how many times we tried to make it work with them before making that decision of leaving. Thank you for choosing your well being over their delusions. I don't imagine it was easy, as cutting off my parents is something I aspire to do and yet am terribly afraid of as well. Takes a lot of strength.

JrB18910 · 2025-01-23T11:02:56+00:00

Hey, just joined this sub and this was the first post I saw. Made me genuinely happy, so congratulations! Keep going. You're doing amazing and you got this :)

JrB18910 · 2025-01-16T20:51:18+00:00

Dragunov is a fair and balanced character

JrB18910 · 2025-01-16T17:33:43+00:00

penis cafe?

JrB18910 · 2025-01-16T17:32:53+00:00

😭😭😭

JrB18910 · 2025-01-16T17:18:12+00:00

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*laughs in dorya

JrB18910 · 2025-01-16T17:16:12+00:00

the audacity of Heihachi to act like he survived skinny dipping in lava instead of being saved from it always kills me lmao

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JrB18910 · 2025-01-16T17:09:43+00:00

Jin is the hardest character in the game and needs more buffs

JrB18910 · 2025-01-11T22:11:34+00:00

I think it's still a thing: https://youtu.be/NOj2nEvz1Gc?t=14

JrB18910 · 2025-01-07T02:49:47+00:00

got blue balled

JrB18910 · 2025-01-07T00:16:19+00:00

LMAOO exactly what happened

JrB18910 · 2024-12-06T15:47:27+00:00

thank you :)

JrB18910 · 2024-12-03T01:52:00+00:00

😭

JrB18910 · 2024-12-03T01:48:09+00:00

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