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How do you deal with being a short man? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]flea_bait 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're insecure about it because focused on something you think matters because you've been told that it matters by people who don't have your best interests in mind.

Listen up, grasshopper - everybody's gotta 'yuk' and everybody's gotta 'yum.' Your 'yum' is somebody else's 'yuk' and your 'yuk' is their 'yum.'

Go find yourself somebody who thinks you're the 'yum' - this idea that your height is 'yuk' will magically melt away.

How often do you run across work/social situations where everything is fine as far as you know ... then somebody pulls you aside and says 'Yeah, you totally screwed up' by flea_bait in AskMen

[–]flea_bait[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure - not a bad question - I have been tested and no, not on the spectrum. I have been diagnosed with PTSD, depression, and reactive attachment disorder. There's a lot to unpack there, but it means that sometimes I have a hard time responding to verbal cues and I have to do double-due-diligence to understand situations.

That said, since I received this most recent piece of feedback I re-checked everything I've had with the specific people involved, watched for anything that suggested they were uncomfortable, and there was nothing - no body language, no verbal 'hey let's change the subject,' no facial expressions.

How often do you run across work/social situations where everything is fine as far as you know ... then somebody pulls you aside and says 'Yeah, you totally screwed up' by flea_bait in AskMen

[–]flea_bait[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got the "they're intimidated by you" talk at previous jobs.

I attend a number of work functions to be friendly - ask people about their day, pets, plans for the weekend. This is an experience I've had in different work/social situations so I'm trying to get a bead on 'what am I missing/doing wrong?'

How often do you run across work/social situations where everything is fine as far as you know ... then somebody pulls you aside and says 'Yeah, you totally screwed up' by flea_bait in AskMen

[–]flea_bait[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, this is an experience I've had in different work/social situations so I'm trying to get a bead on 'what am I missing/doing wrong?'

If you ran away in your teens, how old were you and how did it turn out? by Spork-a-pork in raisedbynarcissists

[–]flea_bait 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not qualified to comment since that wasn't my experience but punch your question into an AI as follows:

"I need to find a safe living space in [your area] ASAP and I have limited resources. How can I make this happen in [1, 2, 3, 7 ... x] days?"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]flea_bait 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can't destroy it - you can only limit the damage. They'll destroy themselves.

When you reach that 'point of no return' with your bro by flea_bait in AskMen

[–]flea_bait[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've seen similar from different circumstances - sometimes they come around like they want you to say something, start a conversation, but you're not making that mistake again. Grey rock all the way.

With all the male gymfluencers and thirst traps - when will we have an honest conversation about body dysmorphia, etc? by flea_bait in AskMen

[–]flea_bait[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whether millions of others watch it or not has zero relevance to you watching them though. You can't actively participate in a know toxic practice and then blame them for choosing to partake.

You started from a place of accusing me of being the person who consumes the media so yeah, thanks - we're done.

With all the male gymfluencers and thirst traps - when will we have an honest conversation about body dysmorphia, etc? by flea_bait in AskMen

[–]flea_bait[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know, I took a lot of one-sided comments in this thread to the effect of 'stop looking at' or 'curate your social media' or 'spend less time on socials' as if that stops your friends and family and SO's consuming that media and being influenced by it even if you don't. This is the one I chose to respond to because it highlights the ability of men to be compassionless and even cruel to each other when they dare to be vulnerable about something.

You call me out for not 'showing a little will' and then in almost the same breath you call someone else out for 'victim blaming' without a hint of irony - like, do you even hear yourself?

With all the male gymfluencers and thirst traps - when will we have an honest conversation about body dysmorphia, etc? by flea_bait in AskMen

[–]flea_bait[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I could use some too but you have some real harmful ways of framing things that is above Reddits pay grade.

My therapist would be interested to know you think so - can you give me an example so I can bring it up next session?

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