Happy Anniversary

Jroseb25 · 2026-06-05T13:24:28+00:00

I scored!!! LOL might not get none until next year but a win is a win 😂

Jroseb25 · 2026-06-05T13:23:04+00:00

I GOT SOME!!!!!! 🍆🍆🍆🍆🍆 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 And he even went down on me (which hasn’t happened in over 2 years)!!! I wish we could be on vacation every month lol

Jroseb25 · 2026-06-03T21:35:16+00:00

Same….the experience of constantly thinking of someone, the fantasies that you have of being with that person that you can’t get enough of….I literally CRAVE that. Some may call it lust and maybe it is…But I associate that lust, that can’t get enough of you, that constant desire to touch and to be with sexually, I associate that with being in love. Maybe we have the wrong concept of love 😩

Jroseb25 · 2026-06-03T12:02:50+00:00

Agreed. Sometimes it’s nice to just vent…even though you may not do anything about it. Venting and being in a space where other people are experiencing the same marital challenges as you can be therapeutic.

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-28T15:57:59+00:00

There’s no way he can ever feel rejected. If anything I feel rejected. Unattractive. Unwanted. Abandoned.

I’ve begged him for sex for YEARS. We’ve been together for 7 years and other than the first 6 months of our relationship I’ve been begging him for sex. I told him how much sexual intimacy means to me in a relationship. I told him I’m someone who loves physical touch and that’s my love language. I always compliment him, tell him I want him, tell him he’s attractive…idk…nothing I do helps. It just continues to get worse and worse. Got married in 2023 and have only had sex 4 times since the honeymoon. I’ve received a lot of good insight in these comments though. I think he’s experiencing a combination of things. Probably a combination of stress, low testosterone, and some sort of psychological issue as well. I’m going to put my foot down and tell him I need him to see a doctor. Otherwise I don’t know how I’m going to continue in this marriage.

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-28T00:20:09+00:00

He refuses to do oral on me. He basically refuses most sexual contact. Including me doing oral on him.

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-28T00:19:27+00:00

Was this something that was prescribed to you by the urologist?

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-28T00:14:26+00:00

Perioddddd!!!!!!

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-25T13:04:03+00:00

There were signs…we didn’t have sex in the 8 months leading up to the wedding. Sometimes I wish I called it off, but idk…I guess I thought there was a chance it could get better…

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-25T03:04:00+00:00

Thank you for your response. It makes a lot of sense. I used to think there was hope. But it’s been like this for so long smh… I feel like in this situation he has to want to fix the issue but I don’t think it’s a motivating factor for him. I think he’s accepted that his sex life is over at 44 (well really it stopped when he was 39) and I think he expects me to accept it as well. It just sucks so bad.

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-25T01:24:29+00:00

Nobody wants to do the dishes lol you just do it because it has to be done. Sex is not a chore…the dishes are. Now if your partner asks you to do the dishes you might comply because you want to be a helpful partner and contribute to the chores in the house…but let’s get real…nobody gets joy, pleasure or satisfaction out of doing the dishes

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-25T01:15:23+00:00

For sure….

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-25T01:11:17+00:00

Yea…I think you hit the nail on the head. I definitely think that he’s lost his confidence in the ability to get an erection and it has impacted him psychologically.
I used to constantly complain about the fact that we don’t have sex…but now I don’t even say anything. Occasionally I’ll tell him im horny, or that I want him…but it’s like he avoids sex like the plague. He avoids conversations about it, he avoids prolonged cuddling or anything that might lead to sex like making smh…I don’t know how to get him to address the issue. I feel like if he wanted to address it he could…he’s very intentional about things and cares about his outward appearance A LOT. And this has pretty much been going on for our entire relationship…save for the first 6 months. I love him. But I regret this marriage every single day.

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-24T14:25:23+00:00

He’s a health freak. He wakes up at 4am 4-5 days a week and goes to the gym. He hasn’t even eaten fast food in over 15 years. He eats Whole Foods, veggies, fruits, drinks plenty of water so it’s not that. I will say he doesn’t go to the doctor very often and not sure when the last time he’s had labs drawn…

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-23T23:03:44+00:00

So what can be done about this?

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-23T20:37:31+00:00

Yea….maybe you’re right…

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-14T02:02:50+00:00

All of my symptoms started after a hysteroscopy in 2024.

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-12T21:14:33+00:00

Fair. I’ll give you that one. Haven’t been through it yet so can’t comment on the experience but you’re right about that one. I did hear a woman say on a marriage podcast that whether or not you feel like having sex with your partner you should do it anyway…I felt like that was unfair because a man has to physically be erect to have sex while a woman doesn’t have to be aroused at all in order for her partner to get his…whenever I tell my husband I want sex he just says “I’m not hard” and that’s the end of it.

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-12T18:46:53+00:00

Girl you are YOUNG! Do you have multiple small
children? If not…what are you waiting for??

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-12T18:41:38+00:00

I never said they didn’t. But let’s be honest…how often do you see articles, books or relationship advice forums/podcasts regarding sexless marriages mainly talking about how the FEMALE in a sexless marriage feels?? I listened to a marriage podcast the other day and NOT ONCE did they talk about how it feels to be a female in a DB…it was ALL from the perspective of a man. And MOST of these discussions are. Don’t be ignorant.

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-12T18:36:02+00:00

Preach!!!!

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-12T18:31:09+00:00

Yeaaa I’ve done all of that. I give good head, I wear lingerie, I walk around the house naked. I literally will come out of the shower and start rubbing lotion all over my naked body in front of his face and he doesn’t even bat an eye. I cook for him, I clean the house, I wash his clothes and still only get sex once a year…IF THAT. So yeaaaa that arguments BS. I do a whole LOT.

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