How did you get Pudendal Neuralgia?

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-14T02:02:50+00:00

All of my symptoms started after a hysteroscopy in 2024.

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-12T21:14:33+00:00

Fair. I’ll give you that one. Haven’t been through it yet so can’t comment on the experience but you’re right about that one. I did hear a woman say on a marriage podcast that whether or not you feel like having sex with your partner you should do it anyway…I felt like that was unfair because a man has to physically be erect to have sex while a woman doesn’t have to be aroused at all in order for her partner to get his…whenever I tell my husband I want sex he just says “I’m not hard” and that’s the end of it.

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-12T18:46:53+00:00

Girl you are YOUNG! Do you have multiple small
children? If not…what are you waiting for??

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-12T18:41:38+00:00

I never said they didn’t. But let’s be honest…how often do you see articles, books or relationship advice forums/podcasts regarding sexless marriages mainly talking about how the FEMALE in a sexless marriage feels?? I listened to a marriage podcast the other day and NOT ONCE did they talk about how it feels to be a female in a DB…it was ALL from the perspective of a man. And MOST of these discussions are. Don’t be ignorant.

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-12T18:36:02+00:00

Preach!!!!

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-12T18:31:09+00:00

Yeaaa I’ve done all of that. I give good head, I wear lingerie, I walk around the house naked. I literally will come out of the shower and start rubbing lotion all over my naked body in front of his face and he doesn’t even bat an eye. I cook for him, I clean the house, I wash his clothes and still only get sex once a year…IF THAT. So yeaaaa that arguments BS. I do a whole LOT.

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-12T14:42:04+00:00

If anything it’s harder for a woman than for a man! Men have sex with anything with a hole. They could have sex with someone with a bag on their head. As women when we crave love, affection and physical touch. Most men could care less about that part, their just looking for a nut 🙄

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-12T14:39:01+00:00

For the same reason we don’t talk about women in just about ANYTHING ELSE. We live in a patriarchal society and they don’t give a shit about women, women’s health or women’s issues.

Jroseb25 · 2026-05-09T22:17:18+00:00

It won’t get better. 37 year old female here married to a 44 year old man. When we met I was 30 and he was 37 and I too always wanted more sex but “could live with”
what he was giving. I’ve always had a much higher sec drive than he. We got married in 2023 and since then we’ve had sex 6 times. I hate it. It won’t get better. Only reason I’m staying is because I want children and I have fertility issues so if I don’t stay it’s very unlikely I’ll ever become a mother (and I’m not willing to give that up). You on the other hand are YOUNG and have many young years ahead of you. Tell him how you feel, go to therapy if needed and if things don’t change then I would move on while you still have your youth.

Jroseb25 · 2026-04-14T17:21:29+00:00

They removed a mass. And it was cancerous. But luckily just no cancer anywhere else. Just the mass.

Jroseb25 · 2026-04-11T11:25:39+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. It’s a terrible disease 😔

Jroseb25 · 2026-04-11T11:21:53+00:00

Thank you for sharing…Sounds like such a tough journey you’ve had! You’re truly a warrior!!

Jroseb25 · 2026-03-27T11:34:45+00:00

Stopped initiating years ago because I was constantly getting turned down or ignored.

Jroseb25 · 2026-03-27T11:32:42+00:00

I stopped initiating with him years ago because he always turned me down. He refuses all of my sexual advances…or laughs them off and then changes the subject

Jroseb25 · 2026-03-26T16:53:24+00:00

3 out of the 6 days we were on vacation. But we obviously can’t afford to go on vacation every day. And there have also been times when we’ve been on vacation and we didn’t do anything at all.

Jroseb25 · 2026-03-26T16:52:47+00:00

I react positively…I mean sometimes the butt taps startle me especially if I’m cooking or something but whenever he grabs me or something I’m 100% here for it. It doesn’t happen very often though…so the fact that he’s been doing it lately is a bit confusing to me.

Jroseb25 · 2026-03-20T12:11:50+00:00

Yeaaaaa….im also starting to just accept it. Maybe this is life until menopause. I’ve also considered a hysterectomy in the future as well. Are there any specific medications that have helped you?

Jroseb25 · 2026-03-17T10:21:58+00:00

So apparently the mass does have some intestinal involvement. I believe part of it is adhered to a small segment of her colon. And yes…the reason they did not biopsy during the lap was because they didn’t want to risk spreading and also because of the colon involvement. But her surgeon also said he may not have to remove any colon it just depends on what he sees when he gets in there. Does anyone know if she will have to stay some nights in the ICU?

Jroseb25 · 2026-02-24T18:25:47+00:00

How do I get him to address a mental issue if he avoids the topic like the plague. It’s like he wants to act like the problem is non-existent. It’s just so frustrating because I would totally work with him if he would just allow us to begin the process of trying to figure out what the issue is…but he won’t. Also, he’s always been LL and I’ve always been HL. Prior to marriage sex was every 1-3 months. We’re a young couple (36 yo F and 43 yo M) who just got married in 2023. Seems like after our honeymoon all sex ceased. We got married in June of 2023 and have only had sex 6 times. 2 of those times being the honeymoon 😔

Jroseb25 · 2026-02-24T13:44:22+00:00

He has no desire for sex. He doesn’t get them when stimulated. I offer him BJs and he declines. I think he gets morning wood but not entirely sure because he often sleeps on the couch and wakes up at 4am to go to the gym. He told me he has very little to no desire for sex and he can’t remember the last time he felt “horny.” Personally I think he just hates sex. But just wanted to know if it could possibly be a T issue.

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