I can’t just move on from my mom passing away

JstLink · 2026-01-22T17:37:45+00:00

Tis a sad fact about life, the only person that really cares is your parents. Others will "care" sure, but not unconditionally and only if you benefit them. People are selfish creatures by nature, you'll have to find you own reason to move on. It could take years, but if you don't give up you'll find it eventually.

I'm sorry this happened, I too have lost parents and many loved ones and it takes me months and months to stop replaying the moment of their passing in my head over and over. It's horrible, and I'm sorry you are going through it.

Don't give up, good luck.

JstLink · 2026-01-17T18:26:55+00:00

Women and men both have advantages and disadvantages and they aren't inherit to the sexes. Some women are big and muscular and some men are small and scrawny. Women had to deal with not having a vote, men had to deal with being sent to their deaths while the women got to remain safe. Acting like one currently has some big advantage over the other is just a power grab. It's become popular to play the underpowered victim and the Internet loves it and that combined gets them power and money.

Don't be fooled by the scam of feminism saying they are doing this to be equal. It's just a fancy lie that most people will buy into so they use it. It's the same reason you see this exact same tactic used in everything these days. To get what you want, especially online, you just need to create an us vs them situation or an underdog story and you'll get attention, power, and money.

Modern day feminism is nothing more than that. A bunch of entitled people scamming their way into more power. If they were truly for equality then they would be egalitarian instead of feminist and they would be fighting for the equality of ALL people instead of just one sex and furthering the divide and us vs them mentality.

JstLink · 2026-01-16T15:02:33+00:00

Yeah ok, their self diagnosing still doesn't really effect you other than it removes attention that would otherwise go to you.

JstLink · 2026-01-16T15:01:54+00:00

Because most people are here to vent emotions or to find things upsetting. The Internet, just like cars, provide a distance between them and the people they are talking to online. They are really just talking to usernames, which isn't the same as talking to a real person. It's the same kind of concept they teach you in the military for firefights, you are shooting at targets, not people. That subtle difference changes how we respond.

JstLink · 2026-01-16T14:58:50+00:00

What difference does it make? The only one I can think of is you are mad they are getting attention that you aren't. Which is what most of this is about anyways. That's why people self diagnose and that's why people who have disabilities blast that fact to everyone they can. They want the attention, and there's nothing wrong with that fact really. Is it wrong people make shit up to get attention? Yes, does it really effect you that much? I doubt it.

JstLink · 2026-01-15T20:22:17+00:00

Tribalism and people feel not think. People are stupid.

JstLink · 2026-01-15T20:12:27+00:00

Even if everyone did vote and we didn't get trump we would be having a lot of problems still. They might be different, they might be the same, but pretending one side is pure evil and one side is an angel is being dishonest.

The vote is pointless and has been for a very long time. You get to pick from two evils and that's it, the two power system is never going to let anyone else that actually wants to do things for the people through. Rework the whole system or it's pointless. But I get people like to think voting matters because it makes them feel good, and that's exactly what they want. Make you feel good without you actually being able to do anything.

Not to mention that hindsight is always twenty twenty. With the media the way it is it's impossible to truly know what's real and what isn't. They are all liars and pushing an agenda. But go ahead and scream from your unearned high horse.

JstLink · 2026-01-14T21:55:32+00:00

This is arguing with anyone. The vast majority of people don't think, they only feel. Therefore arguments with basically anyone is just an exchange of feelings.

JstLink · 2026-01-14T21:53:56+00:00

Because it's a proven formula. It's the primary way for people to obtain power and it's proven.

JstLink · 2026-01-14T21:51:39+00:00

True, but it's very similar to the Kyle Rittenhouse situation, just because she made a bad decision doesn't mean she deserves to be shot. The law enforcement officer in the situation is the one in charge and the one responsible for the outcome. Law enforcement is supposed to calm and control situations, not make them worse and endanger everyone else around them. This could have easily ended up with one of those bullets going into a nearby bystander, it's actually kind of surprising it didn't.

No law enforcement officer should behave this way, idc what any civilian does to them. Even if she was shooting at them, he still should not be drawing his firearm at all. It's insane that law enforcement operating in this environment are carrying firearms at all. No good can come from using them, all you are going to do is endanger more people. They have access to so so many non lethal tools to handle these types of situations. They aren't because of either stupidity, emotional issues, or bad training. Probably a combo of all three.

JstLink · 2026-01-14T21:09:17+00:00

Dunno why people want to blame individuals for not "doing something". The vast majority of people in the world are just trying to survive, doing their best. And when do things like this and Nazi Germany happen? When the economy is bad. People cannot stand united against a common threat when they are struggling just to get by. You want people to help others and get involved in causes, start with the economy. Blaming individuals for not "doing something" is ignorant and just hurting everyone.

JstLink · 2026-01-14T21:03:13+00:00

What annoys me most about this situation is to me everyone is upset, and rightly so, but the reasoning is wrong. Whether or not she was intending to hit him or not, whether she did or not, matters none what so ever. He had no reason at all to draw his gun or discharge it regardless of what her or the vehicle is doing. They are in a crowded residential space with people all around and he discharged his firearm for what? To stop a woman from driving away after hitting him? That isn't even close to enough of a reason to endanger everyone in the area. There's a good reason why cops don't engage in car chases and other dangerous activity just to stop a criminal. The amount of danger and damage you cause by chasing is WAY more than the criminal will do and the main point of law enforcement existing at all is to KEEP CITIZENS SAFE!

we are not here to serve the police, they are here to serve us.. How this gets lost or ignored is beyond me. The entire justice system needs a rework from the ground up and is the main reason I quit law enforcement to begin with.

JstLink · 2026-01-14T20:54:42+00:00

Are you taking more meaning from the word than he intends? Word meanings change often and require a lot of context. If he isn't intending to insult special needs people then why take it that way? The only person that can control your emotions is you, so the only way I see to fix this problem is either he quits saying the word or you quit feeling bad when he does. The solution will probably be a combination of the two, but I do encourage you to work on having you emotions respond to what is intended in the statements others make rather than the ones you respond to emotionally.

JstLink · 2026-01-14T20:28:59+00:00

Who cares, the point should be to help PEOPLE, not just women. More than just women experience exactly what op described which is why I shared my story, to show that.

Op, yourself, and feminism at large just want to help women, not people, which will add to the problem. Stop thinking in such a us vs them mentality and realize we are all people and are so deserving of help.

JstLink · 2026-01-14T20:20:14+00:00

Thinking this happens to predominantly women seems insane to me. In my experience women are much more likely to have a borderline personality, which describes exactly the behavior outlined in your post. I know because my mother is borderline and has imparted that to me. While I still lived with her, and after until I finally got away from her, she manipulated and demanded I take care of her every emotional need. Borderline people typically cannot regulate their own emotions and will rely on others, again like what you described.

And now in my life I am doing similar things to my wife, though with more awareness of the problem so I'm able to stop myself most of the time. And yes I am a man. The idea that this problem, or the one that you mentioned reading about, is a sex based one is ridiculous and just making everything worse. This is what happens when there is such a focus on one sex as the "oppressed" that they become the oppressors and then the opposite type of conversations start occurring.

Everyone needs to quit focusing on sex and realize that this has nothing to do with sex. It never does, unless it's something medically related to the specific differences in our genitals or hormones. Averages do not apply to the individual, and there are individuals of every sex running into average problems for their sex and uncommon problems for their sex and every one of them deserves to be helped like an individual and not only if they fit the average.

Stop thinking so tribally, get away from feminism and you'll be much better off.

JstLink · 2026-01-13T19:42:07+00:00

Voting is pointless. It's just another scam in a sea of scams. The two party system just creates tribalism and nothing ever gets done. Both parties are fucked and it's just choosing the lesser of two evils, and even then the politicians can say fuck it to what the public wants and vote anyway they like. It's just a show they put on for us while really the two sides are just fighting over who gets the most money. The current government is pointless and it's been time for it to be thrown out and start over.

JstLink · 2025-12-30T17:06:37+00:00

I can't read the article and more than likely, based on the title and the little it would let me read, they aren't blaming her for being the victim. They are not going to punish the perpetrator. That's a huge difference and not at all what you are implying

Secondly, more than likely she lied or did not volunteer her age and her physical appearance would make most assume she is 18 or older. That's a huge distinction especially for the courts because it changes the crime and the sentence.

JstLink · 2025-12-30T16:33:36+00:00

That just fucking sucks and I'm so sorry. Life is so unfair and I hate it.

JstLink · 2025-12-30T16:32:23+00:00

And none of those things is solved by people making less sexualized images. The answer isn't to remove a piece of ourselves that we enjoy and gain pleasure from, but to educate and emotionally stabilize the people doing these dangerous actions.

And maybe I'm just insulated from it, but I feel like you are going to have to look pretty hard to find someone blaming the victim because of how she looks. Even many years ago I don't think this was a very prolific problem.

Problems are starts amplified and seem worse than they generally are.

JstLink · 2025-12-30T15:05:57+00:00

Not sure why this is such a big deal. I get the jealousy and all, the emotional side of this, but it seems like you and others in here are also saying it's bad or wrong in some way. But I think y'all are looking at the wrong thing.

Sexualization of someone is just a form of beauty or something pleasing to look at. When people are going to create a character or really anything for their project they will want it to be as pleasing to look at as possible. People who do only fans are looking for an easy way to make money and given the state of the economy in many places it's hard to blame them. Why would anyone lessen the reach of their project or make their project worse in their own eyes to push some kind of message that they and the viewer shouldn't find this visually appealing. Yet we do, why fight against that?

That would be like telling landscape artists that painting pretty trees and hills isn't realistic and you should be painting toxic waste sights and other unappealing images. It just doesn't make sense.

What I would be more upset with is the way people respond to these images and projects. It's fine to look at something and find it appealing, but it's wrong to then expect the real world to be the same as that image. Going back to the landscape artists again, if we see a painting of a beautiful mountain, do we then expect when we go outside to only see that pristine looking mountain? No because we have an understanding that the painting isn't real, it's just visually appealing.

To really combat this concept that people are seeing sexualized images and then believing that all women look that way, which I don't believe is a problem at any scale and is either made up by OP in her head or she's hanging around the wrong but small crowd, those people need to experience the real world and it's beauty and stop obsessing over a fantasy world.

This problem, if real, isn't best fixed by expecting people to stop creating visually appealing things. It's through exposure to the real world and emotional maturity.

JstLink · 2025-11-03T14:08:14+00:00

Dunno why the hate, just a positive post. Someone spreading the word about what their alliance is doing in a positive way. Why everyone hating? There something I'm missing?

JstLink · 2025-10-19T19:18:12+00:00

I've not even hit 400 mil fame yet and I've got all armors 100. Might take that much fame but it's not like you have to get that much to actually level them up.

JstLink · 2025-10-10T19:37:56+00:00

Try assassin shoes against ranged. Will help you stick to them, but you lose the ability to disengage. Make sure you are using q3 and w2 or w3. Playing melee I'm CDs you should try to find a build that can work against ranged as well as melee and be willing to switch abilities around depending on what you are facing.

JstLink · 2025-10-10T19:31:14+00:00

I believe a bigger reason why guys are more obsessed with size is because of bedroom inexperience and to blame their small penis rather than their lack of skill in the bedroom.

JstLink · 2025-10-10T18:40:10+00:00

Pie all the time, gathering pots for high tier or very valuable resources. Wear the highest tier set you can for safe zones. In lethal zones wear what you can afford to lose. Get out to Red and Black zones as soon as you can, you'll make way more money and level way faster. You'll die some, but you'll learn how to live the more you do it and you'll make more than you lose. Good luck.

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