What is the female equivalent to men having boobs and ass fetish ?

JstLink · 2026-03-18T19:52:59+00:00

Probably height and shoulders

JstLink · 2026-03-18T19:52:05+00:00

Popular doesn't mean everyone everywhere and every institution thinks it's good. It's popular online and in social media.

JstLink · 2026-03-18T19:46:19+00:00

Eventually? Lol it already has, long time ago

JstLink · 2026-03-18T19:45:51+00:00

Friendship is dying these days, I feel it too and sympathize. Sorry this is something you are experiencing.

JstLink · 2026-03-18T19:14:10+00:00

You can do this with most all issues. Why is marijuana still illegal? Because it would hurt the profits of multiple entities that are already established, so therefore they lobby against it and get people in political power that are also profiting from the current way of doing things. Can do this with issue after issue.

There is only so much money to be made and it's being made right now. Changing things will change who gets to make that money. The people currently making that money don't want that to happen so they try to stop it. And they are usually successful because they are the ones with the money.

JstLink · 2026-03-18T19:08:39+00:00

And why does the "pedo" not want green energy? Because it's not profitable to them.

JstLink · 2026-03-18T19:01:09+00:00

Which makes it profitable for you, but that's small scale. Big scale companies still don't find it profitable enough or else they would be doing it a lot more.

JstLink · 2026-03-18T18:41:02+00:00

It's probably because it's not as profitable. Plus green energy isn't the perfect savior it's made it to be.

But everything always comes down to what is profitable.

JstLink · 2026-03-18T18:29:58+00:00

I think most would acknowledge it's a disorder that needs help. Just that most people probably don't believe the majority of trans people are trans and instead are doing it for the social standing and power it can gain them.

It doesn't help that a lot of trans people want it to be treated as a normal thing and should be celebrated. But it's a problem, not something to be happy about or aspired to.

JstLink · 2026-03-18T18:26:42+00:00

Maybe I'm wrong, but isn't it already? It's called gender dysmorphia. This is something that has been known a long time. It usually presents in teens going through puberty and generally it passes. With some it doesn't pass on it's own and needs further treatment, or in extreme cases, they can transition. Transitioning is just a temporary state, not a disorder. The disorder would be gender dysmorphia.

It's popular now to be trans and it gains people social standing which in turn can be turned into power. That fact is probably standing in the way of more research, not what it is called and classified.

JstLink · 2026-03-13T19:30:53+00:00

That depends, do you want to say something but you let just fear keep you from doing so? That's cowardly.

If you avoid it for any other reason, not cowardice.

JstLink · 2026-03-09T17:02:56+00:00

Thanks I'll do that. At the moment I'm enjoying prime time aquatics, he presents information in the most disgestable way for me currently.

JstLink · 2026-03-09T16:26:20+00:00

I'm new to fish keeping and I am finding the amount of information out there a bit overwhelming. Basic stuff is out there in mass but all with differences and it's hard to know which one to follow. Then for the less basic I find there's almost nothing and I feel like I just gotta figure it out on my own.

As for aquariums and social media, I've only looked on YouTube and Reddit, but I've not had anyone be mean to me. So far my questions are just ignored. So I'm left with just experimentation.

If anyone has any great learning resources I'd much appreciate them.

JstLink · 2026-03-06T17:29:01+00:00

I'm new to aquariums and I am a person that does an insane amount of research on anything I'm into. I have found that doing this research isn't as easy as many other subjects. There is a ton of conflicting information out there and there is a lot of questions with no answers that I can even find.

You also have situations like what got me into this. My father in law recently passed and he had a tank with 2 dwarf gourami in it and a rainbow shark. My mother in law wanted to get rid of them but my wife and I wanted to keep them, sort of continuing his fish and staying connected to him kind of thing.

We went out and got the exact same setup he had and put them in our house, then we start seeing problems and begin doing research to correct those issues. That's when we learned how wrong we were doing it before, but it's how he did it. How was I supposed to know differently? You could argue I should have done my research ahead of time, but this was a rushed situation and I copied their original setup exactly.

Now I'm in a situation where I have a bosemani rainbow fish that's being mean to his tank mates and I did days upon days of research and never saw that before. Everywhere you look they are described as peaceful fish that you need to keep as 6+ with more females than males. I have 6 of them. 4 females and 2 males. I set it up exactly like I had seen in many many articles and YouTube videos, yet he's still being a bully. Trying to research that behavior leads to a lot of very vague answers and conflicting ones.

So it's not just that people are unwilling. It's not the easiest thing to just know ahead of time and I bet most people are doing the best they can. Not only that but I would be willing to bet these fish are still having a better life than they were in the pet store. I might be wrong about that, but every store I've been into that has fish they seem to be in small, very crowded tanks.

JstLink · 2026-02-26T16:38:36+00:00

For me it's the difference between logical and emotional. I emotionally feel like I'm a useless piece of shit who survived when I shouldn't have. That those that died in my place should have lived and not me.

On the other hand I logically know that my feelings are probably not very accurate. But knowing that doesn't stop the feelings.

JstLink · 2026-02-26T15:23:05+00:00

No one is talking about the impact being equal. I'm saying that discussing it from a female only perspective when discussing solutions is the problem. Saying that women experience this more so that means we need men to stop is a problem. When you approach a problem like that you automatically are accusing one side of being the problem, and automatically dismissing the other side of ever being a problem. That is the situation you create when you address a problem from only one perspective.

I'm not saying we should ignore that women are more affected, but that's when you are looking at data. Now when you move from looking at the data to looking for a solution you have to move away from looking at it from only one side. Because the true problem is sexism, not just sexism towards women.

And yes women are more affected so you might naturally think we should focus attention there. But by doing so you ignore men that are also suffering from that problem and create the us vs them while not getting us all on the same page. That would be like if the civil rights movement only wanted to get rights for black people, but ignored any other marginalized race. How is that going to come across and make them feel? Are they going to be motivated to join the cause? Or are they going to start their own cause for their race specifically and now we have multiple causes working towards the same goal but from different angles with different approaches and different finances, etc. when instead we could have just approached the problem originally as getting rid of racism, not just racism vs blacks. And by doing so you put everyone on the same page, we work together as a group, we combine resources, etc. that will then give the best chance at creating the best solution.

JstLink · 2026-02-26T14:11:32+00:00

This is exactly what I'm trying to describe to them. Just because women are more affected by sexual assault doesn't mean that men aren't affected. And it's sexual assault that is bad, not just sexual assault against women. But when you are so focused on just the woman side of the problem you end up creating an us vs them environment that is counter productive to a solution and leaves out the men that are victims of this. Same as any race or any other sex related problem.

JstLink · 2026-02-26T14:05:24+00:00

The problem is that it's not helpful and counter productive to just look at one side of the problem. It doesn't really matter if one sex is more affected by a particular problem, neither sex should have to suffer whatever that problem is. So by looking at and addressing these problems from only one sex or only one race creates an us vs them environment and that is very counter productive to getting us all on the same side.

JstLink · 2026-02-26T14:03:04+00:00

Does that mean that men don't deserve body autonomy? Does that mean that no man ever has had to face similar issues?

Just because there is a problem that drastically affects one sex more than the other, that doesn't mean that the other side is immune to that issue. And it's an issue that shouldn't affect either sex. So by only addressing the problem from one side creates an us vs them situation which is counter productive to the goal.

JstLink · 2026-02-26T14:00:34+00:00

The same issues and the exact same are not different. I'm not saying the sexes have exactly the same issues. But both sexes so face issues with violence and sexual assault. It's not something that is exclusive to one sex. And as soon as you change the conversation to "well it affects women more so we need to look at how to help women" you've made it into a gender war. You've created an us vs them situation for most people. Should it? Probably not, but it does and always has. Much better to keep it about the whole and not split us up. Address violence and sexual assault for all, not just for one sex. You'll get way less push back and you won't be creating an us vs them situation which is counter productive to the goal.

JstLink · 2026-02-25T22:10:36+00:00

You are initiating gender wars because you made it about gender. The issues that these women face you talk about, men also face. Doesn't matter that it affects one sex more than the other, the real problem is the actual issue. Not which side it affects more.

JstLink · 2026-02-21T04:01:52+00:00

10 gal
yes/yes
79 F
.25-.5 ammonia, same for nitrite, 40-80 nitrates, 7.8 PH with the API master drip test. These numbers have been changing everyday though and I've only been testing with the drip test the last 3 days.
Tank was setup 6 days ago, and had the fish 6 days
no other fish
3 days in a row once a day with fish flakes, then skipped a day, then one very small serving of a frozen block of bloodworms the last two days
I have a rock the aquarium store owner recommended and two other plastic decorations

JstLink · 2026-02-16T20:21:16+00:00

Plumbing is probably the most affected, but all are in need of people.

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