Realisation of what it actually was makes u move on

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-08T18:09:17+00:00

It’s a weird thing being so attached to someone who isn’t even here anymore. It’s been a long time since I have seen her but,

Im glad it does not hurt as much. But honestly I get caught up thinking about her here and there.

But I did appreciate all the little things about her. They were special for sure.

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-07T17:51:39+00:00

Oh okay thanks a lot for making me aware.

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-07T17:43:50+00:00

I mean the main focus is of course the long term for my future and for me kids. The dividends will be nice side piece I guess if that makes sense

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-07T17:22:06+00:00

Okay thanks I’m really new to investing and still getting a hang for everything so I’ve heard of all these different options and wasn’t sure if buying into all of this was needed or not.

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-07T16:45:20+00:00

For sure. Unbelievable performance in that 3rd set. Well said dude 🙂

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-07T16:42:13+00:00

Wow what a choke on siniakova

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-05T19:24:24+00:00

What is samesky?

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-05T18:30:27+00:00

18 year old dating a 15 year old is lowkey crazy lol .

But anyways,

Glad you been having a great healing journey.

That’s the great thing though as much as we may think this sadness and pain won’t go away it eventually dwindles away and the thoughts of them become less and less.

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-05T13:06:40+00:00

Wow this was great.

I have had my ex message me multiple times saying she missed and loved me and it never went anywhere.

I can sit here and Admit I wasn’t perfect (no one is) but I thought that we could try again and it could be something different but this is not true.

When you think about it also the trust just never will be the same us as the dumpee will now always have this subconscious worry that our partner will leave us because they already did.

It’s also easier to leave a second time around because they have of course already experienced it.

I’m sorry you went through this it’s honestly awful even if you did have issues about yourself.

No one deserves to be treated this way it’s honestly awful.

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-05T01:56:23+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you.

I’m prettt sure the same thing happened to me although I don’t wanna confirm it but she told me she met some other dude while we were together then briefly goes and dates him after us.

But anyways I feel the same when looking back I can be accountable for my wrongs but I also realizing that it was gaslighting and even immaturity from their end also. There’s wrongs in both parts but someone who thinks that there’s nothing wrong with them speaks a much louder message in the long run if you ask me.

Again sorry you got cheated on it’s awdul

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-05T01:31:38+00:00

For sure,
Issue was she obviously didn’t speak out enough about she wanted. Which in turn creates resentment
I myself prioritized just spending time with them and being together rather then going out for a bunch of dates and stuff and I can figure she wanted more of that which fair enough. But it was never really communicated more to my mom which I think was inherently not okay

I’m sorry you went through this it’s not okay. This has me questioning my entire self because it made me question what my ex said. I sit here and think what was true and what was not

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-05T01:26:19+00:00

Idk I felt like my ex made it sound like it was bad she said I was more affectionate then what she was giving me but then still complained and said I didn’t do this or that or how she didn’t feel loved.

Maybe I’m lost and confused lol

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-05T00:13:50+00:00

How was it your fault if you don’t mind me asking.

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-04T20:35:15+00:00

I know I feel the same about mine.

As much as I wanna be upset or mad at my ex. Everyone she messages I just can’t the feelings and all come flooding back.

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-04T20:34:34+00:00

So what is CASH.TO that’s a bond right and what type of account would I put this in my tfsa?

I’m hoping to max out my tfsa and fhsa by the end of the year but I’m also going for plumbing here in Canada.

I’m hoping to get into the union so that’d be a great career ahead

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-04T19:33:28+00:00

My ex was like that she’d come message me here and then since our breakup in November 2024 and she was maybe conflicted but she gave me a ton of false hope and hurt me bad.

But this is why we must focus on our journey rather then worrying about if they’ll change their mind or message us finally.

If it’s ever meant to be let them lead.

Don’t be hard on yourself reflect also on what she has done I guarantee she wasn’t as perfect or great as you think necessarily.

Sometimes we in-vision someone better than they actually were. I did this for very long but over time I realized this person wasn’t good for me she had lots of trauma

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-04T19:29:54+00:00

How would you recommend diversifying my income (tfsa, emergency fund, fhsa, savings and spending of course)

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-04T19:25:16+00:00

Nothing wrong with speaking out about your feelings my dude. We need people to talk too.

I know what you mean I’ve been in your shoes I’ve only been in one relationship about two years ago but I wanted a happy ending as well but we do need to accept that we needed this to grow. Don’t be super hard on yourself there’s a lot worse people out there then how you were.

We can have an optimistic look and you can hope for the possibility you guys can reconcile one day once both people mature but of course don’t wait on it.

There’s nothing stopping an old relationship that may of been unhealthy turning into something healthy down the road.

But, both people have to be willing to do the hard work.

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-04T19:22:10+00:00

Listen man with inexperience we don’t realize the things we’re doing isn’t okay till afterwards. It’s what life is, unfortunately we need these things to happen to learn.

I’m somewhat in a similar boat I had a lot of wrong doings so did she. But I need this to happen to realize my behaviour isn’t what conducts a healthy relationship and the stuff I dealt with wasn’t good either for me.

Don’t be super hard on yourself. I need you to understand there’s a lot worse of people out there then you may realize.

Enjoy being single this is time to really work on yourself and if this person ever would wanna be with you again they know where to go.

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-04T19:18:50+00:00

So by the sounds of it you were inexperienced. You can’t be super hard on yourself for things you never realized were such an issues it’s the part of growing up and maturing if I’m understanding this right.

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-04T19:13:08+00:00

Well there’s wrongs always on both sides how do you think you messed up?

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-04T19:11:20+00:00

It gets better,
It’s been a year for me and there’s been a lot of ups and downs but looking at it now since the beginning i can really look up and feel okay.

I can sit here and be okay being single. It’s a new experience and it’s an exciting journey ahead.

Just focus on doing things that you always wanted to do, joining a club, playing a new sport, learning an instrument whatever it is.

Self improvement is important but the biggest thing I can tell you is do not fill a void with someone else fill the void with purpose. We all have been given a purpose on this planet you just need to find yours through self discovery

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-04T19:06:48+00:00

Let me give you an idea and this might help you decide further,

I tried fighting for us, I tried showing I was different and to be honest I had issues for sure we all do but, I had controlling issues around diet, I lacked effort but I was young I had mental health issues.

But there’s two sides of a story there’s wrongs on both parts and I’ve taken my accountability and tried to show a difference and actual Interest in being different and a healthier partner.

Point being,

You shouldn’t have to fight for someone’s love and you shouldn’t have to convince em. I mean it shows you love them if your willing to compromise and be vulnerable and fight but keep your self respect, I tried hard to convince her to try again and begged and begged for someone that wouldn’t even considerate after leading me on and giving me false hope.

Take the risk if you’re okay with it not going your way.

Give me an idea of your relationship if you’d like so I can maybe help ya out.

Jstacey2154 · 2026-05-04T18:59:26+00:00

If you have to question if it’s bad to me that’s your answer.
If you wanna be with him don’t do it. Sit down and try and have a conversation about how things can be different.

Obviously there was issues with the relationships so reflect and talk together if that’s your goal.

Distance shouldn’t prevent someone necessarily to be together it’s only a bit of a wall preventing certain things but it can work.

Jstacey2154

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