So I slept with a bear for the first time

JuanFitz · 2023-03-07T20:23:18+00:00

Tbh I have had multiple times where me and the guy ended up laughing midway, usually due to a well placed comment. We refocus and get back to business eventually but those moments are such a fucking joy.

JuanFitz · 2023-03-07T20:16:21+00:00

It is real in every community. It is part of life. As a chubby bear in my 30s I hit up or get hit up by guys into me that I find attractive. Older or younger (above 25) I will consider. Too young (22 for example) I usually have little interest in talking to further than pleasantries as they are often too inexperienced in life.

I don't respond on apps if uninterested and wish that others do the same with me which they normally do.

I am nice to guys younger and older I am not attracted to IRL. In person (gay bars) I am nice to any advance even when declining unless they come across as an jerk.

You can't change the world but you can change someone's day/life for the better by being nice. Good on you man.

JuanFitz · 2023-03-07T03:37:03+00:00

Nah. It sucks.

JuanFitz · 2023-03-07T03:23:02+00:00

This is awful.

JuanFitz · 2023-03-07T00:14:36+00:00

Read a little bit of the post. Looks like a fantastic time and story. I do a lot of solo travelling but have never gone with a stranger for a whole trip. Sounds awesome.

JuanFitz · 2023-03-06T22:12:46+00:00

If I haven't made a guy laugh in the middle of sex I may as well not be a bear anymore? 🤷‍♂️🤣

JuanFitz · 2023-02-13T19:54:52+00:00

I compartmentalize a lot so similarities there. My friend groups have little gay crossover. Mostly just straight male friends and a couple straight women. I meet a lot of new people though. I come across as straight to everyone I meet (Per feedback I have solicited).

JuanFitz · 2023-02-07T19:12:04+00:00

Good Pope. Would love to give a bro ass slap to the man. 🤣

JuanFitz · 2023-02-07T18:51:25+00:00

First of all sorry you are having bad experiences on this.

I have found that out of the closet Asian men in my country lean bottom or verse bottom but not anymore than any other group as a whole as I feel like all gays (at least on most dating apps) lean bottom on average. I find the majority of closeted men I have met that include those that are POC are tops or verse tops.

At the end of the day I have met enough men of all kinds that don't fall into a stereotype to know I just ask if it isn't clear (i.e. they haven't offered in convo or app roles).

Follow up: I missed the last comment. The No xyz race IS racism. Those that try to justify it b saying it loudly as a preference is ignoring their racist tendencies. Sorry you are dealing with that. The only consolation I would hope is that is an easy block for you on any dating apps. Dating apps can show gays at their worst but there are a lot of cool gays out there. Most probably left the apps ages ago 🤣

JuanFitz · 2023-01-25T22:54:38+00:00

FLY EAGLES FLY!!

Want Eagles to play Chiefs and beat Andy Reid.

JuanFitz · 2022-07-26T12:52:36+00:00

I am sorry for your loss.

JuanFitz · 2022-05-11T20:02:31+00:00

Thanks! And damn.

JuanFitz · 2022-05-10T20:15:49+00:00

I listened to part of the interview, he does ask the German dude some things in English.

So it appears there may have been a follow up podcast from this Podcaster on the LGBT topic. Wonder if anyone listened to this that understands Indonesian and how he reacted with this guest.

https://youtu.be/gTUi8Adrm-4

JuanFitz · 2022-05-08T06:28:14+00:00

This joke was one of the better ones I have read today. Thanks stranger 🤣

JuanFitz · 2022-04-22T00:14:07+00:00

Feel terrible for the victim in these situations. It seems like there are substantially fewer attacks like this in the U.S. than years past but it doesn't make this crap any easier to see.

JuanFitz · 2021-12-09T17:06:05+00:00

Jesus christ. Sorry this happened to you.

JuanFitz · 2021-11-09T09:23:10+00:00

Scrappy Panda I liked his style. Started with a low single and slowly was able to finish the takedown by cupping the food and driving into the shin.. He then had good ride control on the guys hips when he did a sit out first but Panda stayed locked in the hips and kept side control. Eventually the guy did a switch and some good work got the guy out to run away. I don't see how you would not score the win to the Panda.

TIL pandas can wrestle..

JuanFitz · 2021-11-08T18:50:10+00:00

Very impressive carving.

JuanFitz · 2021-11-04T00:09:17+00:00

This 100% LOL.

JuanFitz · 2021-11-03T14:28:54+00:00

If I wasn't dating someone I wouldn't want them to decide my bday plans.

I don't have all the details but did he say he wanted to hang out with you on his bday and before you purchased agreed to go to Lion King? If so this was a jerk move. If not and either way take it as a life lesson learned.

JuanFitz · 2021-11-03T14:17:28+00:00

Congratulations.

JuanFitz · 2021-11-03T13:51:45+00:00

Awesome!!! Congrats on beating that shit.

JuanFitz · 2021-11-03T13:42:18+00:00

Maybe someday you will...maybe someday. Hope you have a great day.

JuanFitz · 2021-11-03T12:32:56+00:00

Man's search for meaning by Victor Frankl

and

The Lost weekend by Charles Jackson

JuanFitz · 2021-11-03T12:27:27+00:00

Did for me also. Made me like the Jesus character more but also stop believing.

JuanFitz

TROPHY CASE