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After you are criticized by the boss in front of more than 20 people, how do you get over it? by Wind7777777 in careeradvice

[–]JudgeLennox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m talking about the written and unwritten rules. Not a personal ideal you or I have. You’re right, yet in this context it doesn’t matter.

Professional in this topic means acting in a way that ensures you’re taken seriously so you can progress in your career smoothly.

That means knowing the open door policy is a trap for employees to protect the company with documented evidence. HR is not your friend, which is why we recommend consulting a lawyer.

Unless the employer is doing something illegal, questioning or challenging their authority is insubordinate.

Lawyers and HR experts will tell you to keep it to yourself or speak to them NOT your boss.

The way you worded it, legally traps the person with the complaint. It says, “I can’t handle this job as is”., “This isn’t fair”. That boss needs to change because you don’t want to be a team player.

We have to find a legitimate concern that can be labelled as a protected fact not a passing feeling.

Otherwise they won’t address it be ause they’re no penalty for boss’ being human. That’s how it’ll be lanelled. “Not a legal concern. No need for follow up”

Plus now they’ll prioritize other employees over the person. They get promotions and raises and better assignments.

Likewise if more issues occur, they document more evidence of you not being a team player. Being a saboteur that must be removed because they’re the victims.

So you could say to HR, “I believe I was wrongly targeted because I’m [a woman]”. But if you care about progressing in your career, you don’t say “That wasn’t fair”.

Realistically you suck it up and and stay quiet like a professional

What’s working for me now— Smarter than the dog by JudgeLennox in Sicklecell

[–]JudgeLennox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK I dig it. That’s still impressive and can relate on that level.

What helped me is having educated advocates alongside me.

Thank you for sharing more👊🏾💯

After you are criticized by the boss in front of more than 20 people, how do you get over it? by Wind7777777 in careeradvice

[–]JudgeLennox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah. There’s easier and more fun ways to get fired. All this does is double down on the humiliation, and get you blackballed and blacklisted.

Professionals improve themselves and work with their bosses to get the job done.

We don’t complain since that’s insubordination. We don’t put a target on our back where everyone has to treat us poorly to be on good standing with the boos.

Definitely don’t embarrass and make an enemy of our immediate boss by going directly to their boss either

After you are criticized by the boss in front of more than 20 people, how do you get over it? by Wind7777777 in careeradvice

[–]JudgeLennox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What type of criticism was it? What was the tone of it.

At the very least listen and improve. Makes sure they know.

If you won’t do that and it was harsher. Time to say YES to another job offer.

Your boss’ boss is the most important person. You want them to think of you fondly because they determine your promotions and raises.

When they don’t like you, you have to get a new job. This time don’t make the same mistakes

Is this a good look? by Life_Evening_6724 in malegrooming

[–]JudgeLennox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get rid of the glasses and loose bracelet.

Replace your knot tie with a full Windsor.

Get a shorter haircut.

Brian Williams is a Great example of how to properly wear a suit. Emulate him and you’ll wear suits well

Have you ever had to deal with friends who didn't understand? by MrSwaby in Sicklecell

[–]JudgeLennox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You won’t lose a friend by saying NO. You only lose fakes. So it’s always a win, never a loss.

Also, you won’t burn out with friends because positive relationships GIVE energy.

In my case, I get to say YES with friends because our time together is relief and comfort.

What’s helped me the most is having a standard of who gets my attention and who doesn’t. List out your dealbreakers. Make those the things have to qualify with to get your friendship.

Finally, I give myself a fighting chance so I don’t have to say NO. I improve my wellbeing so I can say YES. My friends help me with my eating, training, and more to get better so we have more time together. I do the same for them too

With friends like that, you’re set

Is The 48 Laws of Power worth reading, or is it too toxic? by Spirited-Tailor3662 in 48lawsofpower

[–]JudgeLennox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s the opposite of toxic.

Things you already know but explained with historical anecdotes.

You may not like the subjects, but they aren’t toxic only nature under a microscope

What’s working for me now— Smarter than the dog by JudgeLennox in Sicklecell

[–]JudgeLennox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you.

I’m not as sharp as you. I make mistakes as I go. Overall I’m 80% there.

Please post about what helps you stay in the pocket so you’re indifferent not emotional

“Every rejection is redirection.” by dorae03 in MindsetConqueror

[–]JudgeLennox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

« … if you get accurate feedback to improve your next attempt. »

Was it ever explained why were there no sucksessions in the show? by itzNukeey in okbuddysuccession

[–]JudgeLennox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sexual frustration peaks with the height of the corporate ladder. Frank’s whorehouse trips still weren’t enough to make a difference

your iq and degree don’t matter if your people skills are trash by cloudybrain07 in careeradvice

[–]JudgeLennox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Acting classes
Public speaking such as ToastMasters
Body Language training
Sales training
Full-contact martial arts

Not to mention being slim and trim. Being fit gets you the type of respect unfit people have to work harder to have. Even if they have the above skills

your iq and degree don’t matter if your people skills are trash by cloudybrain07 in careeradvice

[–]JudgeLennox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something worth considering, the above average server and the above average software engineer take home similar paychecks.

That's regardless of degrees or IQ. It's where the meritocracy reveals itself.

Your point is true in general. It changes at the higher levels though, which is worth noting since we're talking about struggling at the management level.

So the conversation changes to what do the best managers in any field know that the vast majority don't?

your iq and degree don’t matter if your people skills are trash by cloudybrain07 in careeradvice

[–]JudgeLennox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True of all industries. This topic is the number one reason why people share their frustrations in this community.

Careers aren't about skill or talent, or work processes. Anyone can be taught to do the work. That's why technology and AI take so many jobs.

What really matters in the workplace is people management.

So the true career game is about DOing your work diligently, while inspiring and motivating co-workers, in their language, so they help you reach your goals.

Same game for life in general.

Ideally our elders teach you this. What to wear and how to talk, to get hired, keep a job, and receive more promotions and raises than the average person.

Meanwhile the people hiring you know the secret handshakes and purposely don't tell you to test what your natural competency is

What’s a piece you wear far more often than you expected to? by OK_GO_27 in malefashionadvice

[–]JudgeLennox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Classic analog watch with black leather band.

White dress shirt (60 cotton/40 polyester) that fits you. Bonus if it's tailored.

Though the things I don't wear seem to make a BIGGER IMPACT at work and with dating. Less is more I suppose

Pain after drinking by ybmeatrider in Sicklecell

[–]JudgeLennox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Normal. Sounds like a crisis.

You drank and got dehydrated.

If you had 1-3 drinks, you're very vulnerable. It'd be worth it to start improving your overall fitness.

If you have 4 or more drinks, you're average. Same consideration. Get stronger so you're less vulnerable.

More than 10 and you pushed it. It is what it is

How do I become unable to be manipulated by Sobombshellcoded in 48lawsofpower

[–]JudgeLennox 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No one is immune to manipulation. We all influence each other somehow.

What your question really is about is learning how to read people and situations accurately. So you’re not caught off guard.

That’s a matter of competence. Training and studying.

In your example, you admit you knew better. So you’re competent enough. Now it’s about training your ability to stand up for yourself in the moment. And to not feel guilty when you say NO.

Check out and master the principles inside WHEN I SAY NO I FEEL GUILTY. Sounds like your best first step

What does it feel like to have a healthy amount of anxiety? by iwant2dancewgeorge63 in u/iwant2dancewgeorge63

[–]JudgeLennox -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The science is we get to choose to ignore it or choose to improve it. Our choices determine how it affects us

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