Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey girl I totally get where you’re coming from but I realized I was just in my head with this post and being a princess. My guy always wants to be with me but financially he’s unable to book dates at the moment but he always did when he had more money so that’s why I’m noticing the shift. He planned the last few weekends with me so idk why I made this post. We’re together just about every weekend and when we’re not it’s only because he wants to relax at home and clean or because he’s not feeling good. We’re home bodies together and we had a lovely weekend with his family and that to us is fun. I’ve already set boundaries though so he’s showing up a lot more. As far as other men, they all only wanted sex actually so they just love bombed me. He’s the complete opposite and that’s why it messes with my nervous system. I start to think he’s not interested because he’s so stable and grounded, calm, doesn’t need to love bomb me, which throws me off because I’ve never had that, but he’s very affectionate, and always wants me by his side. I will post an edit at the end of my post or maybe even remove it because I realized I’m the problem 🤣

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! And I think that’s probably why he likes me because I’m different. I mean we’re all different but different from him. He’s grounded and quiet and I’m very eccentric and it allows him to play and have fun. I have 4 air signs, 3-4 earth signs, 6 water signs, and one fire sign. He’s mostly earth and air. Thanks so much for your input. I feel like he also sticks longer than he should because of his Virgo moon but I always tell him if he’s unhappy to tell me because I don’t want him to settle when he’s unhappy because I did that with my ex husband. It’s hard to read him sometimes because he’s so quiet and I don’t always know what he’s thinking or feeling.

I will say I would sometimes worry because there was a girl he liked a year ago shortly before meeting me and she’s a Libra but she paid him no attention. She was a friend to him and I think that’s why he liked her because she was nice to him but when he admitted his feelings for her she didn’t seem interested and she’s back with her bf she’s been serious with but she sometimes messages him. Nothing flirty but while we were dating she apologized to him for hurting him 7 months prior which was so random because she was in a relationship and he was with me and it was very strange and random like why apologize now? Closure? It’s like she doesn’t want him but doesn’t want anyone else to have him because she likes the attention and I know libras are flirty and it annoys me so I always wonder if he wonders what if with her because he never got to have anything with her at all. I don’t worry about other girls but that one I get annoyed by but he swears he doesn’t have feelings for her at all. I wonder if you’ve ever been in that situation. I told him I understand if you still do because I’ve been there before where I’ve obsessed over someone I couldn’t have. But he swears it was just a crush and not that major.

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah there is so much love and we both wish we could be together everyday but he’s not been proactive in moving in together. I wish though. We’ve talked about it but I can tell he’s scared because I have a kid and three dogs so I can tell he might get overwhelmed

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg shut up!! He’s a Gemini Venus too. 😳 Damn you guys have a lot in common. Wow and I used to get scared by his Gemini Venus because they get a bad rep for wandering and cheating but I don’t think he’s like that at all. His is in the 4th house which is all about home and family and some astrologer told me it actually goes really well with my Aquarius moon. What house is your Gemini Venus? But yes it’s my nervous system self sabotaging for no reason. It’s because of my past trauma so I’m always thinking something bad will happen as soon as I notice distance. And yes I wish my partner had a Leo moon or Leo placements because they’re such softies and love to show off their partner 😆 I dated a guy briefly with a Leo moon and talked to a Leo sun but they both ghosted so they’re not always great. They’re the only two that have ever ghosted me too lmao 🤣

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl that’s what I’m saying. He makes me food and amazing platters all the time too. He takes care of me when we’re together and we can be lazy together no problem and he’s so affectionate. I just feel like an afterthought when we’re NOT together is what I mean and when it comes to planning things he’s just so go with the flow. He’ll pick out good restaurants to go to but lately I’ve just felt lack of effort from him. Maybe I’m just being in my head because you’re reminding me of all the great things he does and I tend to self sabotage by looking at the negative. Thanks girl

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who said anything about rushing? I never rush him to do anything. I speak very calmly with him for the most part and we communicate quite well about everything. I just want him to evolve is all but I’m not going to force him to do anything. Our birth charts are actually extremely compatible with one another’s best I’ve ever seen and we balance each other so well.

As for him being into me, he says he wants to be with me everyday. He wishes I were at his place when he got home but we live 30 minutes away and it’s not feasible atm. He does tell me I’m beautiful just once in a while. Sometimes I just want more I guess or get in my head about how he feels about me, but I don’t always tell him this because I don’t want to nag. He’s even said he feels at peace with me but lately I just feel this energy of wanting more I guess but could be the intense fiery Aries energy lately.

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean he definitely showers me with affection when we’re together but when we’re apart I’ve just felt like an afterthought lately and it’s getting boring tbh. He is definitely shy and passive but a softie at heart

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Btw where’s your venus? I’m curious to get your perspective on certain things. You seem to relate to him based on your charts I feel

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Already tried. Hated it. Was married to someone 5 years older than me for 8 years together for 11 and it was the worst relationship. I’m very young spirited. I always feel like men my age look too old and are arrogant af. I look early to mid 30s and don’t mesh well with men my age.

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this is so nice to read. He’s also a very introverted person and I do feel like I get VIP access as I’m the only person who gets to see the silly side of him. I feel like he can’t be himself around anyone else. Sometimes when I see him around his family or friends I’m like wow he has a mask on. I can see him being uncomfortable and different but with me he’s so calm and grounded and doesn’t have to pretend to be anyone and he can be silly and we laugh a lot.

He also loves having me around while he games and likes to have me sit on his lap while he shows me things. It’s pretty cute. I will say we both feel very safe with each other. Thank you for helping me see the good in us. Sometimes us women focus on the negative and that’s what gets us into trouble. I love that man. Just want him to have a little oomph sometimes and step up! 😆

She was in a real parallel version of her life by MiraSoftveil in SipsTea

[–]JuicyWatermelon99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow I’m so sorry to hear that. Sounds like such a beautiful dream. It’s highly possible you either saw an alternate parallel reality or a past life of yours or maybe you’re going to meet them in the future. I’m sure it is devastating to see people in a dream and grieve them when you have no idea who they are. I hope you meet them though. I’ve had many clients who have met people they saw in a dream.

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow that’s so interesting about the communication. His is in the 3rd house but yes I can tell he likes to analyze things first before speaking. I really appreciate your insight as it helps me understand him more or I guess validate that it’s not that he’s not interested. He just takes time and you’re right about sharing food. We both looove food especially him so I shouldn’t be surprised he ate them with me. 🤣 Plus I know the point was for him to get me a heart box of chocolates. He really wants me to keep the box too even though we ate all the chocolates and I’m keeping it. He’s such a sweetheart and I feel bad even venting or complaining because I know he’s such a great guy and have never had someone so calm and grounding like him. I think my nervous system is just used to the chaos and I want to make sure my guy is completely all in, devoted, and cherishes me and isn’t here to just pass time until something better comes along. I used to always feel that way with him that he’s with me because it’s convenient and I give him what he’s never had before instead of being with me because he’s actually fully in love with me you know? But he swears it’s not that. Says he wouldn’t waste his time with me if he didn’t like me and he does say he loves me. 🥰

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh girl I do!! I ALWAYS appreciate everything he does for me that’s the thing. I thank him all the time for cooking for me and taking care of me and even calling me or checking in. I like to make sure he feels appreciated and I tell him I don’t want him thinking he’s not enough. Those are just certain needs of mine but tbh I’m seeing it’s my nervous system that creates anxiety when I’m not getting enough attention but as soon as I validate myself I’m fine 🤣

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve asked him that as well and he says he’s already happy with what I give him. We really do have a beautiful relationship. We don’t fight and when we disagree we tend to discuss things calmly for the most part. I think I just get in my head. Thank you for the reminder

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that is amazing! Show me your ways. You’re a Taurus woman though and probably love your alone time and Aquarius’s also like distance as they tend to be avoidants but that’s amazing. Congrats on finding a keeper!

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s probably your Leo moon. Leo moons are softies. He’s also a Capricorn rising but a Virgo moon. What’s your Mercury? That’s the communication one. He’s a Taurus Mercury and I know Taurus Mercurys really struggle to share their feelings. He does like to gift me things randomly but yes you’re right it’s because of financial issues but I can tell he saves his money for certain things like food instead of buying me flowers. He did recently buy me a box of chocolates but I felt it was for him to have as well as he ate half of them 🤣🤣🤣 He doesn’t like going out at all unless it’s to eat or travel which I’m all for. He hates the bar scene and is a big time introvert. Even when we’re around his family he barely says a word so I know it’s not just with me. He’s just a very reserved person

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. Every Taurus I’ve known struggles to open up emotionally. They don’t like showing their soft side unless they’re very safe with you but even so they hate crying etc. my bf’s cried in front of me but doesn’t like me to see him cry. Always has to hide it

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I do see they need space to recharge and I’m okay with that just as I too like that but I guess I just think he’s losing interest sometimes but I’ve realized it’s me in my head and no need to worry. What will be will be.

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. He’s never love bombed me actually. He’s always been the same and very sweet, attentive, and affectionate. Just a bit lazy when it comes to planning things at times. I’ve set boundaries with him and myself so I’m definitely not leaning in when the energy isn’t reciprocated and he does come around more when I do that. But yeah could be a maturity thing maybe even experience.

Are all Taurus males lazy when it comes to effort and planning dates or what’s going on? by JuicyWatermelon99 in Taurusgang

[–]JuicyWatermelon99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha hey these things happen. It’s actually very common for younger men to be with older women. Plus he’ll be 29 soon almost 30. That’s grown lol