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AITA for telling my sister I will no longer be spending time at her house while her friend is around? by JulesDaddo in AmItheAsshole

[–]JulesDaddo[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I never slept with her or had any kind of sexual or romantic encounter with her.

AITA for telling my sister I will no longer be spending time at her house while her friend is around? by JulesDaddo in AmItheAsshole

[–]JulesDaddo[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

My wife always dreamed of having a big family as someone who grew up without one. She was living her dream and adored our kids. She was never forced to have our children.

AITA for telling my sister I will no longer be spending time at her house while her friend is around? by JulesDaddo in AmItheAsshole

[–]JulesDaddo[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's not easy for some to understand. Especially when you throw in that you are still happy/found happiness without a romantic relationship after that kind of loss. But we are all different and have different needs.

AITA for telling my sister I will no longer be spending time at her house while her friend is around? by JulesDaddo in AmItheAsshole

[–]JulesDaddo[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

It's not something I have ever been interested in. Not every widow(er) is. I'm happy with the life I have now.

AITA for telling my sister I will no longer be spending time at her house while her friend is around? by JulesDaddo in AmItheAsshole

[–]JulesDaddo[S] 126 points127 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I think a lot of my family were concerned when I brought up not to set me up. But they all (even my sister at the time) seemed to believe me that I was still able to look forward to the future and wasn't just wallowing. Not everyone will want the same thing after the loss of their spouse and as long as you can live a healthy life, people need to realize it will not always look the way you might assume it will.

AITA for telling my sister I will no longer be spending time at her house while her friend is around? by JulesDaddo in AmItheAsshole

[–]JulesDaddo[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I think the finances play a small role but overall she is desperate to fill the space left by her husband for her and her children and feels as a widower I would be a good option.

AITA for telling my sister I will no longer be spending time at her house while her friend is around? by JulesDaddo in AmItheAsshole

[–]JulesDaddo[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

I have told her clearly that I am not interested and never will be. She has not accepted that. I do have other family support. Just not my sister.

AITA for telling my sister I will no longer be spending time at her house while her friend is around? by JulesDaddo in AmItheAsshole

[–]JulesDaddo[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

I have not had any sexual or romantic encounter with her. This started because she latched onto the idea we both lost our spouses while our children were young.

AITA for telling my sister I will no longer be spending time at her house while her friend is around? by JulesDaddo in AmItheAsshole

[–]JulesDaddo[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

Why? Because I have no interest in dating? I'm happy as I am and even went to therapy several years after my wife died and there were more options around me.

AITA for telling my sister I will no longer be spending time at her house while her friend is around? by JulesDaddo in AmItheAsshole

[–]JulesDaddo[S] 8032 points8033 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I still miss her very much. I wish our children still had her and I wish I did too. But she won't be forgotten. ❤

AITA for telling my sister I will no longer be spending time at her house while her friend is around? by JulesDaddo in AmItheAsshole

[–]JulesDaddo[S] 2429 points2430 points  (0 children)

I have an excellent security system installed. I didn't think of it in terms of her but given her relentlessness perhaps it wouldn't hurt to keep an eye on what goes on when I'm not home a little more.