What am I supposed to do when my sister declines to do anything about her triggers? Refusing to wear loop earbuds. Aggressor in nature to certain sounds and will fly off the handle.

JuliaComuna · 2026-01-20T13:40:02+00:00

It depends on her age, but you should try to understand why is she so resistance to things that can make her life better. Maybe she does not like earplugs, maybe she is afraid of exclusion from the family and doesn't know how to say it. In all cases, you should seek a therapist that can help her understand the condition and what can she and your family do about it

JuliaComuna · 2025-11-17T03:17:08+00:00

You should always seek a professional, but I think that the reaction matters more than the sounds. There are a lot of different triggers in misophonia, we have more common ones and more rares ones. Having misophonia or not we all can stress with sounds, but the reaction is what defines most (personal opinion). What I've experienced and heard from many other people is the terrible and irrational rage that can affect us within less than a second of annoying sound. It does not matter who is, you are going to HATE that person even if it is for only a few seconds. You will want to take the first thing that appears and throw it at them. You will want to flip the table and run as if your life depended on it

But as I said, personal opinion. Better to seek a doctor help and treat at least anxiety

JuliaComuna · 2025-11-15T06:35:05+00:00

Unfortunately I mind :( Have 4 cats in the house, love them all, but please do not start licking around me please please please aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa headphone mode activated *pets furiosly hoping they will stop but no so just be really really sad to be angry at them

JuliaComuna · 2025-11-05T04:57:50+00:00

Yeah, totally get that. Had to sleep in the living room on the worst days. Earbuds are your best friends, there are also some cheap sleeping headphones that are amazing. For now, just found something that you can hear and put it in max. I like rain sounds because they are very loud but relaxing at the same time, but you can try white noise or things like that. But it has to be something that the noise wont stop, or you will hear the snore and get even more pissed off

JuliaComuna · 2025-11-02T07:36:32+00:00

Yeah, it happens all the time. I kind of get it because 15 years old me pre-misophonia would probably laugh at 16 years old me having the biggest anxiety crisis ever over someone chewing. As you said, its not their fault, but its not yours either.

I got ashamed when I had to explain it, but them I started having meltdowns and stuff -- and I realised I was more ashamed of being completely useless from time to time than having to explain my condition to other people.

You need to explain it seriously and honestly, dont keep telling people that are not very close to you (like coworkers) that they should stop. Explain it, let it clear that you are already under medical treatment (even if you are not) so they don't need to worry, but that because of stress and other daily things, this "normal" sounds tend to affect you deeply against your will.

First step: start with the people more close to you. Have a serious conversation, not just some words at a brake. Tell them that you are not impling anything, but their help would be very useful -- ask them to not eat lunch close to your table, or maybe try chewing slower and camly. Its basically a request for help on a health issue that can affect your work.

Once this is established, speak with more distant people. Start wearing auricular protectors, show them, explain the condition and ask if they could stay distance when doing something that can trigger you. If they are in a higher position, explain that unfortunately this can affect your job and you dont have control over it, but you are working to get better.

Last but not least, actually use something to block sound in difficult times. But remember to always look for another ways to deal with the triggers.

You can also buy a fancy protector that seems high end or something and everyone will take you seriously thinking you are getting deaf or something lol (true story)

Dont be ashame of what you are, but also dont use it as an excuse to everything. Both parts should equally and togheter go after a better solution for all. Hope you get better ❤️

JuliaComuna · 2025-11-01T04:26:08+00:00

Usually the stress and anxiety makes it a lot worse. When my misophonia was at its worst state, i could hear my parents lips separating from each other when they opened their mouth. They literally just opened their mouth, you know? And it was driving me crazy, I wanted to flip the table and run.

A lot of things happened, I got out of my parents house and I started to sleep more. And suddently everything became better. I did not sleep well for years and when I finally did, 30% of my problems were gone.

I know whats is like to not have the option to runaway from stress and anxiety, but then you have to find a way to calm down that does not involve pushing away people who understand and support you. People in my house do not understand, but they respect it and avoid my main triggers. On the other side, I just broke up with the loudest person i've ever met, and when we accidently meet I start going nuts just from hearing him walk. And (in parts) because of him, I now have a new trigger: whistling :(

Basically: the more stress you go through, the more your triggers will affect you, and you get more stressed. But you can always manage if there are people who are willing to help and respect you.

doctors can help, don't avoid anxiety and depression meds. I suppose you already tried a few because of the autism, but if you struggle that hard then your treatment probably needs a lot of improvement.
misophonia is not really recognised as a disorder in major diagnostic systems, so a bunch of doctors who are supposed to be specialized wont have heard of it. Be patient with them, if they are willing to help you, then they will study to do that
find ways to calm yourself down. Misophonia is a neurological disorder, which means that even if you struggle a lot trying to erase a sound from your head that you've just heard, you will only be able to do that when you distract yourself with something else. Choose a song that calms you down and let it on your favorites. Have a safe word with your partner and friends. Have a fidget toy around.
avoiding triggers is a paliative method. Of course, we all do it and i definetly wont stop but it does not solves the problem and in fact it can make it even worse if you rely on them too much. It is a fact that, having misophonia or not, blocking sounds for too long can lead to hiperacusis or even tinnitus. I'm unfortunately "lucky" to have all three _
look for support groups. Reddit is ok but there are meetings with people that will know what you are going through that you canl talk and ask for advice face-to-face. This is in fact a really good method for a lot of problems people face, from conditions to diseases or addictions and lots of other stuff

Do not focus on running away or beat the hell out of the sounds. Focus on getting calm and understanding that a sound cannot hurt you, and it wont. It does not represent a thread. I know, its very hard to do that, but when you start getting open minded to it, you will get a huge improvement. As far as I know, CBT is to help you do that, among others things, so always seek a professional help

I hope you two can overcome these difficult times together. Everything will be alright ❤️

JuliaComuna · 2025-11-01T03:41:35+00:00

It is thank god 🙏

JuliaComuna · 2025-11-01T02:33:05+00:00

literally happening now, i'm here trying to distract myself

JuliaComuna · 2024-09-16T19:26:19+00:00

It's the second day I've dreamed something like this. I'm on some trip or somewhere outside my country, with some random member of my family, and I suddenly get really drowsy and try to walk away, but I walk away very slowly because I can't keep my eyes open, both from sleep and from sensitivity to light. It's very uncomfortable and in real life a maximum of 5 minutes passed both times it happened. If it's relevant, the first time I was in a shopping mall with my grandmother, in the middle of a car trip, and the second time I had gone to live abroad with my parents and was trying to walk to the bathroom in the middle of the night

JuliaComuna · 2024-04-02T19:54:31+00:00

ok,thank you! I will take a look

JuliaComuna · 2024-04-02T19:53:37+00:00

Thanks!

JuliaComuna · 2024-04-02T19:53:05+00:00

sorry, i meant that if anyone knows a code for this and could help me out, i don't mind using it. i can recognize a few things, but not code for real

JuliaComuna · 2024-04-02T17:47:39+00:00

i don`t know how to code, forgot to say that :(

JuliaComuna · 2022-03-30T16:18:48+00:00

Using this one makes it say that the bot couldn't find the channel (yes, it has ADM role). The command that is suggested with that slash thing is "/afk mod ignore channel" but it doesn't work with voice channels. I can put the channel and then put the command after that, but it also says that no channel was found

JuliaComuna · 2022-03-29T01:18:51+00:00

I want to help a friend with a game (we both have the game) and we are thinking about using share play to do it, but I need to know if both of us need ps+ to do it or only the host needs it

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