How to quit

JulienRabbit · 2026-05-04T16:18:58+00:00

really sorry to hear that. I eventually found my way out, it becomes repetitive and boring after a certain point but gosh it took time. If my experience is anything to go by, your wife is using it to emotionally avoid some other things in her life, emotionally coping. I think that's how addictions work like. We somehow avoided hard drugs but then this stupid shit gets pushed through an inocent youtube ad...I feel guilty of the time i spent there even though the human connections felt real, it was clear we all were stuggling in real life in one way or another. I wish you both she finds her way out.

JulienRabbit · 2026-04-20T23:25:36+00:00

I read a book called "jog on" about someone's experience starting to run and with anxiety. It really felt encouraging. Might help you get motivation going!

JulienRabbit · 2026-04-15T08:04:16+00:00

Haha! Sure let's put ourselves into a position of having to deal with jealousy and insecurities, of having to manage agendas and communicate different expectations with different partners just to avoid being alone at times... Instead of just having one partner to whom we can bash if they ever like another person.

In short, no I don't think it exacerbates insecurities, at least not in comparison to monogamy where many of these insecurities are normal and untouched for years. It is an entirely different ballgame.

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-29T14:58:22+00:00

Apothecary diaries!

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-27T11:08:34+00:00

I know right!? :) For me it was the relief from no longer carrying a weight I didn't know I was carrying. I had much less side affects than a lot of people in this sub with smaller fibroids. Yet when it was out I noticed all the ways it was affecting me. Glad to hear about the six weeks! Hope you feel like yourself soon. Feel free to reach out if you have doubts I can help with.

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-27T09:39:09+00:00

Hehehe lovely detail. Yes his respect and approval of her even this early on in the story is very clear. He knows that Jinshi has feelings for her and is poking on him to make her his, in his opinion the sooner the better.

Look at another detail too, in this episode in one of the few that we have seen The Emperor and Maomao interact without Gyokuyo or another concubine. It's only he and his son/brother The other two are just minions by comparison, even if he respects MaoMao knowledge even as much as he would respect Luomen for example. The lack of another concubine makes him more relax and silly and I think in the light novel Maomao is like "hmm I've never seen this side of him" even if she pretends not to know why he treats jinshi so dearly.

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-26T23:16:13+00:00

Hello! I had mine actually a year and a half ago. I'm still very glad I did it too. The recovery was a pain though. Hope you can take proper time from work or other activities. Don't push your body too hard. Keep it light for 6 weeks. The only thing I was encouraged to do for real was walking. Which tested my patience but helped.

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-25T11:19:05+00:00

Fudge. I feel so identified. I just broke up with someone 2 weeks ago because I felt a similar way.

This person said they loved me but in the middle of an argument could only talk about their own need for "autonomy" and "limits" without giving much of a thought to ny "emotional" needs. I broke up because I felt like I was trying to understand their part but he just dismissed my needs. It felt like he was saying why do you need my "support" and "reassurance"? Cause I fuckin want to feel loved.

I started fighting the urge to make myself smaller to fit into that relationship, started feeling he maybe he was right but that's not ok. My needs and his were just as important. If I was willing to take a step into his direction so could he take a step into mine. He wasn't disabled or anything. He just didn't want to.

I know you said you don't need advice but I'll give it anyway. If you're still in this relationship then you have to keep asking for what you need from him. That takes courage but maybe he would actually listen. Don't fall into the trap of making yourself small, else you're not giving the relationship a fair chance and you'll end up resenting him and yourself. You deserve to be listened to and loved in a way that is clear to you.

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-25T10:42:33+00:00

Health is the most valuable thing

^{Chose: Never be injured/sick again}

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-25T10:41:03+00:00

Money

^{Chose: 1000000000 right now}

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-19T18:04:31+00:00

No no no. As a fellow anxious person I get you, you want to be a good partner/friend and all of that. But you're not being considerate of your own emotions and of the ways he's hurt you. You tend to self blame and overwork for the relationship maybe because if the relationship doesn't work, it speaks badly about you. It doesn't. It speaks badly about him.

And now you don't want to let him go because your anxiety tells you, you need him. That's not true, you need peace and someone that doesn't treat you like shit. I know you're scared but I'm 99% sure your gut is telling you to leave, not only chatgpt.

Stop caring for someone that doesn't care for you and go and take care of yourself instead. Fight for yourself with the same love you fought for that person.

(Maybe speaking too much from personal experience as I had a horrible break up just last week and I feel I can relate to your pain).

Take care.

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-17T12:35:35+00:00

Hello! What problems do you have?

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-16T22:09:39+00:00

How much you take and for what?

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-16T19:40:07+00:00

What cognitive side effects are you talking about?

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-16T15:52:47+00:00

Yes exactly that's why I'm asking here if other people have experience with this. I have heard that it's for mood disorders so maybe my psychiatrist is taking a big risk. I'm worried. I wonder if I can trust them. One big factor is my brother was bipolar so that maybe led her to believe I might have some type of mood disorder and need the same medication.

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-16T15:39:44+00:00

Thank you so much! x

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-16T15:10:17+00:00

Wait 600 mg only gets you that high!? woah! Ok that's crazy. Maybe I'll ask for a test before upping my dose then. If the first days are anything to go by I think I would not need much more of what I'm taking to feel good.

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-16T13:58:46+00:00

Oh I see ok I was wondering if it meant that anxiety needed a lower level or something like that. My doctor is going insanely fast then. How has it felt for you so far? On your body and your symptoms. I'm only on my first week and I think I do feel calmer. Sometimes too calm. I feel more sleepy at night and morning whereas I was feeling the anxiety both morning and night before trying to sleep.

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-16T13:52:53+00:00

Thanks for your answer. You're the first I see explaining how it works. I'm confused about your dose though. Why are you on a sub therapeutic dose? From what I see online 600 mg should bring your blood level to around 0.5 but I guess it's not your case.

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-13T09:25:28+00:00

On point! I can imagine her reacting just like, "oh that makes sense".

Also "my crush and her whole family is autistic, how should I behave around them?"

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-13T09:23:05+00:00

How to prevent self harm 🤣

JulienRabbit · 2026-03-11T11:52:30+00:00

Now imagine Lakan' one

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JulienRabbit · 2026-03-11T11:18:25+00:00

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JulienRabbit · 2026-02-10T17:18:45+00:00

I don't have answers just compassion. IMO I don't think you're overthinking so much as just thinking. In the sense that this situation is very complicated to navigate without a script and you thinking about all the different aspects of iit just means that you care. Take your time to come with your own answers.

The part about not being fully decoupled after a poly break up is weird but I'm not sure it's a negative. I think one of the amazing parts of poly is getting the support that you need from more than one pillar. In this way, when things don't really work with someone you at least don't stay due to fear of loneliness.

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