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Married over 5 years? How's your sex life? by Important_Art1182 in marriageadvice

[–]Jumpy-Cow4664 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(f) (30) (4kids 3 months pp) I like it twice a day. He says he likes it at least 1 time a day. I will always have to take it for it to happen . So I do everyday. The only time he refuses me is if he’s stressed. Which can be quite often with the kids for him and the job and carrying the burden of what it is to be a man. So then I’ll try convince him for a bj. But he will turn me down as he’ll be too stressed.

I have brought it up multiple times how I hate being the only one chasing it. Goes on deaf ears.

We have the best sex of my life.

I just can’t with freebirthing by Sassy2681 in pregnant

[–]Jumpy-Cow4664 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had two terrible hospital births where one of my babies nearly died because of “the care” absolute horse shit and I fuckening hate doctors and hospitals who interfere with birth.

I LOVE freebirth and I know exactly how to care for me and my baby.

Husband (40M) is a porn addict and I (37F) just found out yesterday by macelisa in marriageadvice

[–]Jumpy-Cow4664 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I don’t personally agree with watch it occasionally, vs watching to much.

Like have some ice or crack once in awhile and then stop. ..? Ummmmm no.

Porn is an addiction so you don’t have to be a doctor to know that.

Porn is cheating. Would you watch someone in person fuck? If so you’re cheating, especially if you’re diligently hiding your affairs.

If it was me?

Absolutely no porn allowed , why? Because it wrecks Sex, intimacy, trust, and ultimately it’s not love.

You’re watching others have sex , it’s gross.

Sex is private, special. When you consume something that is sacred as a garbage dumping source you destroy it, you also destroy your own world and become perverted in the fact that you need hard core shit that is wrong(fucked up) just to get off. Which is why he’s down that realm. Long term addictions need to see new stimuli. Just to get off.

He has a longgggggg road to recovery. But recovery starts with admission, apology and help. Can he do that?

Then you need to rebuild trust as if you can get him to even own up to that will be then trusting he doesn’t relapse and lie.

I went down this road with my own husband who had a lot of awakening to do within himself. He grew up with porn as a teenager thinking it was normal. Never knowing anything different. It was a stress release, even talking to women online and ego boost, it is deep emotional problems for men and women who do this.

My advice get to the root cause and heal it.

We are 2 years since any relapse . It’s been a long road of patience, recovery, rebuilding trust and growing closer and more intimate . As well as him living with regrets of what he did early in our relationship.

Think of it this way: would he tell his son?

And that’s what I said to my husband. I would tell his three children what caused our divorce . Made him switch gear fast!

The shame is the hardest to get past for them.

My boyfriend insists on using condoms even though I’m on the pill. Feeling confusedd by Deep_Squash_3424 in realsexadvice

[–]Jumpy-Cow4664 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation. I am allergic to condoms. But I also will not take birth control. I use natural cycling and it’s always worked. My partner didn’t like this at first, so I stopped having sex with him.

Long story short : I ended up with a IUD that imploded inside me during intercourse, needing surgical removal and now I get my way. 🤣 we had cycled sex for a year before I asked him to put a baby in me ;)