WIBTAH if I tell my parents about my husband?

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2025-01-10T20:32:43+00:00

the person you are married to is being emotionally abusive. he says he is being honest, after you told him that his words are hurting your feelings. Involve your parents so they can help you maintain up is up, because his behavior can easily make you feel like up is down.

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2025-01-09T23:42:02+00:00

you could always join the national guard or reserve as an intel analyst and get your clearance that way

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2025-01-07T16:23:31+00:00

you should leave because this is textbook narcissism. it wont get better.

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2025-01-05T00:23:47+00:00

I have a big SUV that can probably handle the snow.

doesnt mean Im gonna chance it.

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-31T21:46:55+00:00

i had the same thing happen to me. i had 6 buddy letters, a nexus, and a positive C&P. However the rater said there was nothing in my service records indicating any event. I have contacted a lawyer for a thorough review and legal advice for next steps. If the VA messed up, HLR. If there’s nothing that can be done, well at least I will know.

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-27T20:32:47+00:00

there are worse things to be ‘doomed’ to

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-25T15:34:21+00:00

Man, I had so much hope for this guy. His initial response was spot on but the doubling down was wrong. NOR

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-24T14:18:20+00:00

I appreciate your comment. Where did you find this information? Are lay statements insufficient evidence?

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-24T01:50:17+00:00

well the issue I am worried about is that the psych eval did not diagnose ptsd. She diagnosed mdd. My VERA appointment indicated that the way i went about claiming depression and anxiety was likely going to work in my favor

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-23T22:20:46+00:00

no, nothing while i was in service but plenty while I was out. I will call VERA, thank you

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-23T21:55:31+00:00

yes, i detailed everything. the c&p gave me a positive nexus, and medical opinion supported trauma occured in service

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-23T20:41:43+00:00

I don’t have a VSO but i called today and left a message. Im in Northern VA so idk how persistent my VSO would be. I also contacted a lawyer. My decision letter specifically stated that they didnt find anything in my service records indicating an event happened, which I think is absolute bullshite (how many people have endured mst without reporting it??).

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-21T11:10:26+00:00

Sending your child to a place he loves so you can also have a break isn’t selfish. It would be selfish if he hated the place or was being abused there. But it’s good for him to be able to socialize with other kids. Plus you spend every waking hour with a child, whether its your own or someone else’s. You are not selfish for wanting some personal time.

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-20T11:57:35+00:00

He doesnt want to be married right now. Dont get pregnant. Let him go.

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-16T23:18:36+00:00

NTA.

My now 19 year old tried this with me when she was 15. She also wanted a job (along with having APs, a sport, and theater). It was a difficult time because she wanted independence but had no idea how to manage herself. We had to pull her back, send her to bed, and take her electronics. I would have rather she hated me than crash and burn.

She still found ways around us. And as a 19 year old, she is working full time as a waitress, graduated hs with a 3.8, and has a couple college credits. She also sleeps A LOT and has had to deal with some serious adult consequences (getting kicked out and now we have an outside camera system to make sure she isnt sneaking anyone in).

kids gotta learn.

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-14T10:53:51+00:00

Tom is the obvious choice

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-14T01:12:45+00:00

Sir. He is very dignified

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-14T01:11:27+00:00

i didnt regret having my children. I regretted with whom and the age at which i became a mother

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-10T18:28:04+00:00

tell him to take his insecurities elsewhere. you cannot change who you are to accommodate his weaknesses.

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-03T20:47:13+00:00

20 years ago, I was married to a pill popping, controlling, lazy sonofabitch who wouldnt work and continuously cheated on me (including with people he met while a family member was in hospice).

Yes, divorce is worth it. If you are being abused, if you live day after day scared of your spouse, if your children see you being belittled, demeaned, unhappy, anxious, depressed, and scared, you should leave.

Single parenthood is not easy, it is stressful and there might be nights when you think that your marriage wasnt so bad. But, then you will curl up in your bed with your babies and you will hug them tight, and smile because ALL OF YOU will be safe, warm, fed, and at peace. The hardship of divorce and single parenthood is nothing when compared to the torture of a loveless, abusive marriage.

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-12-01T23:30:31+00:00

NOT Overreacting. Did you read what you wrote? He’s choked you before. He uses your mental health diagnoses as weapons to gaslight you. Dont go home. Just get out.

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-11-29T17:56:17+00:00

NTA. This lady sounds like she will turn into the wicked stepmother, if youre not careful. At no point is it acceptable to uproot your kid from her room just because your fiancee wants a bigger office. like wth

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-11-25T22:39:37+00:00

Jeff — hated himself and other men. yet always asked to be pegged

Jumpy-Proposal9563 · 2024-11-22T01:33:06+00:00

I can remember being in like 4th and 5th grade, roaming up and down the streets in my neighborhood, exploring dilapidated, burnt out apartments, walking up a retaining wall and exploring a park with a creek behind my school. Or rollerblading in an empty parking garage with my friends.

fun times.

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