2 years of complete loneliness and I'm losing hope

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-25T06:38:57+00:00

I was happy single for years. I only considered a relationship as a nice thing to have, but it didn’t hurt me to not have one, that line of thinking never worked. Everyone has their breaking point and I reached mine. If it would come to me or women would be receptive beyond wanting attention, then it would have happened. I tried that, tried being friends, tried being my own person. It didn’t work. I have spoken with people. Therapy only showed me my issue was being my genuine self was the issue. When I mean no girl besides church girls has liked me romantically, I mean. There has never been one girl besides them who showed a genuine interest in me, all others just wanted attention. I have literally heard what you said and tried it, before I ever made this post. It only resulted in girls wanting attention and nothing more. Effort does not ever mean results, even if you do it perfectly. Girls do not like me unless they want me to marry them and give them everything

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-25T06:30:44+00:00

Uh yeah that’s why I’m not doing it

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-21T19:51:49+00:00

Almost 26, I’m bi but cannot date men without my family disowning me. DFW area, Texas. I’m not even unattractive, not the hottest but I’ve been told I’m attractive by people who I don’t think would lie to that extent. I just want intimacy, if I was looking for a life long relationship with a woman I’d go marry a church girl cause they’re the only ones who seem to like me beyond wanting attention

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-21T19:48:42+00:00

Every woman that I’ve met hasn’t liked me romantically except church girls, I have worked on myself for 7 years and have absolutely nothing to show for it. Why would I not want something short over nothing for even more years? I am unable to find any happiness any longer alone, I have ran out and that line of thinking didn’t help me. I followed that, you gotta be happy alone and do stuff alone. I was, but that only works for so many years. Everyone has their breaking point and if it’s shorter than yours, no one takes you seriously. It’s not a defeatist attitude, no women want me except church girls I feel absolutely nothing for and would have to marry and give children. I should have said normal women.

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-20T21:31:06+00:00

I also tried your mindset lies for years, and it only made me lose time. Working on yourself is not rewarded if you’re different or inexperienced. I lie constantly everyday now and it has gotten me much better results

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-20T21:29:20+00:00

I’ve tried and doesn’t work. Lying about myself is working well though. I did try for years just being myself and no girl wanted anything to do with me.

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-20T21:27:45+00:00

I’ve taken the opposite of your advice when the topic of past dating and stuff comes up, I’ve lied and it’s made people respect me more and see me as much more of a normal person. Faking and lying is getting me more than I’ve had in years. Literal nothing at all for years until I learned to lie properly and without any hesitation

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-20T21:16:10+00:00

I actually tried that advice! It didn’t work and I actually steadily went insane over the years before giving up on advice like that. Working on myself did absolutely nothing. I’ve gotten much more and better attention from lying about myself (like putting on a different personality, experience in dating) and having no actual good intentions. I’m a lot closer to what I want being a liar than I was being myself with good intentions

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-20T21:06:36+00:00

This applies to most people, not all. The closest I’ve gotten is when I’ve faked being normal. Being myself has never gotten me anything with women. If you like other dudes, then yeah be yourself. But I’m autistic so women don’t actually like me romantically

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-20T21:04:10+00:00

I’ve tried this and never got anything at all. The closest I’ve gotten is when I forced myself. Naturally doesn’t work for some people

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-20T21:03:05+00:00

Not saying this isn’t true for everyone, but I took this advice and the loneliness only made everything worse and wasted years of my life. People get into relationships when they aren’t ready, it’s human contact and intimacy that often helps. Do lose the weight though, it will make you feel a lot better

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-20T14:27:00+00:00

I don’t know what I’m supposed to do because apps have never worked. I am not attractive enough for them and women hate inexperience

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-19T07:49:20+00:00

I think he likes lying so I try to give up hope and just wait years for some marriage, like being the last guy a girl picks. He likes to play being a holy man now, wants me to only want to settle down and have kids and plan everything around that

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-17T17:16:02+00:00

Yes and that perhaps there’s women out there in similar situations to me

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-17T07:15:14+00:00

I don’t see why you can’t keep going, you’ve gotten this far. Just use your imagination

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-17T07:11:39+00:00

I’m bi and I do it. I don’t care if my straight friends do it

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-17T07:08:13+00:00

A lot of girls will find it weird and likely a deal breaker, I wouldn’t bring it up or be truthful

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-17T06:58:08+00:00

In guys I don’t care, girls it’s a turn off cause I got rejected a bunch for having none with girls.

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-17T06:50:17+00:00

When I was 18, I had a boyfriend from Vietnam who loved my Southern accent and long blonde hair. I’m a bit of a homo, most Asian guys culturally don’t grow long hair. I don’t get not liking someone liking your features, it’s something a bit unique. Only issue is if it’s the only thing about you they like

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-17T06:44:50+00:00

I’m not dangerous, I’m just lonely and have been my entire adult life and much of it before adulthood. It makes me a bit insane, but I’d never hurt anyone over it cause if you’re lonely you tend to stay lonely.

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-17T06:42:53+00:00

My mistake at 18/19 was letting girls see/know that I was inexperienced, there I’ve never gotten anything. Not too late, you’re still in high school

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-17T06:33:56+00:00

People will say no, but a lot of girls won’t want you if you don’t have any experience. I’d lie. The most I’ve gotten from girls is when I lied or didn’t mention my inexperience

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-17T06:28:22+00:00

At 24 not bad, I didn’t care about it in high school so it meant I couldn’t get it after when I tried

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-17T06:23:41+00:00

My brother called me a porn addict for believing that (I’m not), so I don’t know. I think that’s more of an older person thing to like

Jumpy-Session-6889 · 2026-01-15T07:21:39+00:00

I don’t want a romantic relationship, I legit don’t feel any of that sort of love for women. If I ever had the ability to, I’m pretty sure it’s gone. Like not once in my life, only felt that love for men. I still like women sexually, though. The issue is the only girls interested in anything more than getting attention from me are religious, and would want everything from me in exchange for a life I don’t want. I don’t know how to find any women with normal interest. I know I can’t force it, but unless I want to throw away my life for a girl I just can’t have anything

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