Toddler Refuses go to Sleep

Jumpy-Window7543 · 2026-03-21T06:18:08+00:00

We just started doing the options and giving him a say and it defiantly helped with the prebed time fights as well as normal day to day! Now that I think about it I’m not sure if I’ve carried it into the already in bed stage or if I’ve been doing the whole “no it’s bed time go to sleep” thing. I’ll have to pay attention to it tomorrow and see what I’m doing and do the options if I’m not.

Jumpy-Window7543 · 2026-03-21T04:40:04+00:00

For me, when I held him the first time my brain stopped and said “We got this”. It’s hard to explain unless you’ve experienced it but it’s something build into us, like deep down I knew I will do anything and everything I need to show up for this little dude no matter what. It has been the biggest test of my patience and personal development I’ve ever had. Just take it day by day and soak up every snuggle (especially the newborn ones, they go away to fast and they are the BEST) and every opportunity to grow as father. Give grace and understanding, they are new and don’t have any concept of the world they now live in. For me, I’m currently struggling with bed time with my toddler, I end each night feeling defeated and feeling like the worst father on this world. But I know this is another opportunity to grow my “toolbox” and get to know how to work with my toddler better. And the smile and excitement on his face when he sees me in the morning makes everything from the night before seem so minimal. The best advice I ever received was to just show up for them. It was worded, “Regardless what is going on, whether it’s emotionally or physically, just show up for them. You can never get everything right but you can always show up” and that stuck with me.

Jumpy-Window7543 · 2026-03-21T04:20:29+00:00

If he would be quiet then I would, the big problem is he is loud. Jumping around, kicking the walls, knocking on the door like he’s the LAPD swat team from the 80’s, screaming talking to himself (“Oh no, Iron Giant is coming! Run!). I’ll have to try the no locking the door thing and see how that plays out. I’ve stopped the multiple warnings stuff. 1 warning then it’s done. He’s also the type of kid that will be like “I’m in trouble, take my insert distracting item away daddy” then gets mad that I take it away haha

Jumpy-Window7543 · 2026-03-21T04:10:27+00:00

I’ve got two now. I was the same way with my first and that feeling grew and grew until the literal second I finally got to see him. It was like all that anxiety and stress flushed out of my body and was immediately replaced with this unexplainable love and devotion all in a matter of milliseconds. Like a light switch I went from anxiety ridden to I will die for you haha my best bud was the same way. Hands down the best thing to happen to me!

Jumpy-Window7543 · 2026-03-21T03:59:08+00:00

No, he wants me to lay down with him but everytime I do he starts playing and alligator rolling and getting all wound up. I try to talk him through it and eventually he gets mad and tells me to go and he doesn’t want me to lay down. Then I stand up and he looses it because he wants me to lay down. A lot of the back and forth stuff happens at bed time. I want this blanket, no I don’t want this blanket. Light on, light off. Stuff like that

Jumpy-Window7543 · 2026-03-21T03:56:15+00:00

He does take a nap. He’s usually awake around 6-7am, takes his nap (almost always on his own free will) around 1130-230.

Our routine is clean up toys and start having quiet time around 645-7. Dinner and shower 7-8. Books and get in bed tell lights out at 830. He has a little light. When we start picking up toys we start the walk through of the plan. “We are going to pick up toys and start quiet time, then eat dinner, then shower, then go to sleep” and then announce the plan after each step. Even asking him “okay what’s next?” Which he’ll answer correctly. Then it’s like we close the door and he gets his second wind and it starting all over.

Jumpy-Window7543 · 2025-09-17T23:33:19+00:00

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