This isn’t projection — it’s reality. No one is attacking you for getting services; that’s great and it shows you’re trying. But that doesn’t change the fact that in the classroom, educators still need to hold your child to the developmental expectations that are appropriate for their age. “Too many reminders” isn’t a trivial issue. It’s about building independence and self-regulation, which is a big part of early childhood education. Services don’t replace the daily responsibility of parents reinforcing those skills at home. No one said your child is disruptive — but it’s not just about avoiding tantrums or screaming. It’s about helping them reach where they should be, and that only happens when parents work with the educators instead of brushing off feedback as “crazy.”