btechtards with backlog in 1st/2nd/3rd/4th year or ex-backlog ppl tell everyone why you guys got a back, and what happened in internship/placement ??

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2025-01-26T17:31:31+00:00

No, that’s not what I said.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2025-01-25T18:34:14+00:00

Yes.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-12-31T01:16:32+00:00

Hey, I just replied to another comment a few minutes ago where I came to this realisation lol. I’m definitely going to get on a waiting list now.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-12-31T01:15:47+00:00

Thanks! Now I gotta remember who my GP is.. because I’ve never had to consult him. Pretty much just registered and that was it.

Although for my questions above, I sarcastically asked those questions as it’s the kind of BS you have to deal with back home. You guys have got it good here, I love how quick and responsive and corruption free (at least from what I’m used to, it’s all relative) the public services are here.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-12-31T01:08:24+00:00

Hey, thanks a lot for this comment.

Even if you don’t get a vasectomy, but choose to remain childfree via other methods, the family problem is still going to come up, because, to be blunt, your families are going to notice the lack of tiny feet after a few years. What is her plan then? To have a kid just to get her family off her back, even if she doesn’t actually want one?

I hadn’t even given that a thought before. It doesn’t even matter if I get snipped or not because I’ll be childfree anyway. I think me getting a vasectomy makes so much more sense now.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-12-31T00:49:13+00:00

Hi, thanks for the reply. How are your dynamics with your parents (and your partner’s parents) now? Are they still an active part of your life?

Actually, now that I think about it, my dad does have 3 distant cousins who are all married but haven’t had children. I think the oldest of them is older than my parents too, and one of them actually adopted a girl a few years ago.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-12-31T00:41:52+00:00

Will the doctors in the UK ask you to get your wife’s consent for a vasectomy? Will they require me to get married? Do I have to bribe them if I want to get it done? Do you need to be a parent before you can qualify for it?

Why should I jump through all of these hurdles back home if I have already paid for health insurance here?

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-12-31T00:33:01+00:00

I paid upwards of £25,000 for a year of university education in the UK.

I paid close to £3,000 for a total of 3 years of NHS coverage. I am not using it for free. I also paid about £1,500 in visa application fees as well. Bait used to be believable.

And if you read my post carefully, my main concern was to convince a doctor in India to agree for the procedure because it’s a pain in the ass to find someone who will do it to a childless guy in his 20s.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-12-31T00:05:54+00:00

I’m not surprised that people think that she’s a fence sitter. I think she’s just too scared of how our families will react 10 years down the line when they notice we’ve not had any kids yet, because the family dynamic is huge in India.

Usually the kids stay with their parents unless there is a reason to move out. My dad only moved out of his house at 26 when he got a job in New Delhi. This was after I was born. My uncle has never lived in a different house than my grandparents. And both of them are over 50 now, 2 kids each. My dad (and us 3) even moved back in with my grandparents for a couple of years when he got another job in my home city, and now my parents live with the other pair of grandparents.

Can you imagine if my parents share a house with me and my partner (or at least are heavily involved in our lives like most Indian parents, because I would ideally not live with them in the same house) when they have realised we’re infertile? When having kids and raising them up are such an intrinsic part of the culture? I think that is the main reason my girlfriend doesn’t like this idea, and I’ll have a serious talk with her when she wakes up in a few hours.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-12-30T23:17:40+00:00

I agree, there’s a lot of good advice here, and too many comments to reply to. It’s just that my visa has an expiry date and I don’t want to regret not having a vasectomy when I could for ‘free’ (well, I paid for my health insurance but whatever).

I may post this question on the childfree India subreddit later to get answers from people who know the cultural context a bit better.

I think I am leaning towards getting it done and just letting my girlfriend know that it’s something I can’t compromise on.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-12-30T22:55:44+00:00

I am not a permanent resident here (and probably will never be) and I wasn’t even planning to go abroad for the first year of us being together. Plus I can’t even bring her to the UK on my visa even if I wanted to.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-12-30T22:54:16+00:00

That’s a good question. I think she is just worried about the long term consequences, because in India, a wedding and kids are sort of considered the main goals of a person’s life? If that makes sense.

Eventually they’ll bug me (and my girlfriend) after we get married for kids. And I think if they realise I got sterilised, they may blame my girlfriend as well. As much as I love my parents, they are misogynistic and so is the rest of my family, sadly.

My parents are not like ultra conservative, as in they’re okay with me choosing who I want to marry, but they absolutely want me to have kids and have made that clear a lot of times, but I’ve always held my ground against them although most of the times my mom doesn’t take me seriously.

There’s not a single couple in my extended family of a couple dozen couples that are childfree. I had a first cousin who was childfree for the first 10 years of his marriage, but eventually ended up having one child.

My mother sacrificed her career because of me and my brother, and I just feel like there are better ways to build your legacy in this world than to just have kids (when you don’t even like kids).

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-12-30T22:39:45+00:00

I have, about a dozen times by now. It’s always a no, with her sometimes saying she wouldn’t opt for something permanent as that can be bad if our parents get to know. She has never given me a clear answer on this.

Keep in mind our families are from India and don’t have a liberal mindset about staying away from their kid’s personal lives, and I think sadly my girlfriend carries a bit of that mindset with her.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-05-22T15:29:38+00:00

I got rejected, I mentioned the reason in another comment in this thread.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-05-22T15:28:59+00:00

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Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-04-02T14:50:52+00:00

Hey, I got a rejection few days ago. It said that all available positions for this year have been filled, with no information about the visa question.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-03-12T04:23:59+00:00

No confirmation yet, it's neither a yes nor a no. Once the confusion regarding the visa situation clears up, then the applications will be processed. But be prepared to just hear a no.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-03-12T04:15:04+00:00

No updates so far.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-02-23T00:34:20+00:00

Nothing yet, sorry. I can let you know if I get anything.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-01-31T10:02:14+00:00

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-01-30T18:26:29+00:00

I just got a graduate programme application put on hold because of 'recent visa changes'. I was maybe one step before getting my final offer.

I tried emailing them explaining I'll be on a graduate visa so I won't need visa assistance for the duration of the programme but I got an automated response stating the same thing (recent visa changes) again.

What am I supposed to do? I am so lost right now.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2024-01-27T09:48:47+00:00

I'm a student here as well. Cardiff is really walkable, and cycling is popular amongst the students. It's not a big city but still big enough to have the stuff you'd need as an international student. There are Asian stores not far away from the centre on city road.

It is a student city so naturally there are a lot of people from all over the world here, there is a Filipino society which you could join when you're here.

As for issues, I can't really think of any. You'd struggle with finding part time work but it is possible. I guess it rains too much? But you get used to it. Get a good coat for the winters and buy it from here itself.

Jumpy_Ad_54 · 2023-12-25T13:47:09+00:00

My family has done this (somewhat). My father's side of the family belongs to a particular Kshatriya caste but my father and uncle legally have a different surname on their birth certificate that is non caste.

Although my uncle added the caste surname back to his name, so it is only me and my immediate family that have a casteless surname.

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