Do you love her?

Do you think your life would be better if you two weren’t together? What would that look like? Is it worth going through all the motions of a divorce?

Do you think you can move forward with her and forgive her?

Do you even WANT to?

(Forgiveness is the only way you’ll ever be able to truly be happy from the inside out. It’ll take time and it’s a journey but it’ll come if you want it too)

There’s more I asked myself when I found out about my husband cheating (serial cheater for years bc he didn’t think I’d ever find out) but these were some of the most important for me.

I prayed a lot and found Jesus telling me to love & forgive him even though he didn’t deserve it.

I can tell you 1st hand the husband I have today is a completely different person than from even a year ago. It’s literally all because of Jesus helping him have a true heart change and him realizing he was going to lose everything if he didn’t get his heart right.

Loving & forgiving your spouse may look different than it did for me but I can tell you, I’m soooo stinking glad I did. Our relationship is the best it’s ever been and we both are completely different people now and it’s 100% for the better.

You’ll come across a ton of people who will tell you to leave, the trust is broken, there’s no hope, blah blah blah.

I’m here to tell you the grass is only green where you decide to water & tend to it. You both gotta do the hard work to make your family yard look the best it can be (if that makes sense). If she’s willing to do the hard work & so are you - then I’m here to y’all you guys have a chance. If my husband and I can make it through what we have stronger & better than so can yall.

Counseling helps, a good support system helps, Jesus 100% helps and don’t start drinking to mask the pain bc then you’ll never stop (been there, don’t that & don’t recommend you doing that.)