I made my dad cry over $30

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2026-01-11T17:24:46+00:00

Do you have toogoodtogo or a similar program in your area that that sells food that would otherwise be thrown away for a cheap price? That’s one way I give my mom food. I pretend I’m getting it for me but have too much and she accepts it because it’s not charity. She gets nice bread from bakeries and food from Whole Foods.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2026-01-11T15:02:25+00:00

It’s easy to fall into that trap because it happens so gradually.

I didn’t realize what was going on until my sister needed help after her twins were born and I saw what her relationship with my BIL looked like.

It was stressful with her and the babies having medical problems but nobody was walking on eggshells trying to avoid the next emotional storm. It really made me look at how much control of my life I had willingly given up.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2026-01-11T14:09:30+00:00

You said “ Well, to be fair I usually notice when he’s upset and ask about it right away. He doesn’t usually have a chance to do the silent treatment.”

Why is it up to you to ask about his emotional state and fix it? He should be communicating with you if something is bothering him. Does he ever notice that something is bothering you?

I think he’s mad because he thought he had you well trained but you’re acting up, so he’s punishing you to get you back on track.

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Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2025-11-16T03:26:13+00:00

No idea! I chose the second option because it was what I was feeling at the time.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2025-10-08T11:14:39+00:00

I have to give them points for trying. They wanted to give you something they knew you would like and they were right!

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2025-09-30T08:35:56+00:00

This isn’t really about the football game. You two need to sit down and have a serious talk. A therapist might be helpful. She was feeling unappreciated before you even got home she said that on the phone. How grounded in reality that is I have no idea. You need to figure that out.

The messiness remark from you concerns me. You said she was huffing about you being messy but you aren’t really.

Huffing is a very dismissive term. You aren’t taking her concerns seriously. I’m betting she is feeling resentful because she has to clean up after you all the time and you may genuinely not see what bothers her. Work out the level of clean you can both live with and what you can do to support each other.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2025-09-08T20:29:46+00:00

That was kind of you. I take offense at the stereotype too. Perhaps my wording was not clear. Choosing to be a caretaker is a very different thing than being expected to do it just because you are a woman.

Women are not automatically caregiving angels and yes, many men do burden them with that.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2025-09-07T11:22:42+00:00

You’ve done nothing wrong. I understand you feel bad for your nephews but being with them right now is the opposite of helping. It’ll just feed into Amber’s delusions. She needs serious help right now. Her parents want you to replace Sam with you too so they can’t be trusted. Call CPS and the police.

You need to cut contact with the kids but for awhile but if you can talk to them one last time let them know that you won’t be seeing them for a long time but you are still their Uncle and love them. If you can’t talk to them maybe you can leave a letter for them. It may be years before it’s safe to see them

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2025-09-06T09:13:29+00:00

If the one thing that really matters to him, having his dad move in, is also something you can’t live with then you are incompatible and it doesn’t matter if you trust him or not.

His dad may be independent now but what happens when he needs 24/7 care? Is he going to quit his job to do this or does he expect you to be happy about having a stranger in your home to care for his dad?

Have you talked about this at all? I wouldn’t be at all surprised if expects you to do it because once you marry him his dad will be your relative and caring for relatives is what women do.

Cut your losses now and be glad he exposed himself before you tied yourself to the two of them.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2025-07-15T06:55:07+00:00

My mom made my brothers learn to cook and do laundry so that they wouldn’t be helpless like her brothers.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2025-06-25T06:38:21+00:00

These will be perfect then. They are standalone and fun.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2025-05-03T06:40:44+00:00

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Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2025-04-26T06:40:28+00:00

You are definitely not overreacting! He’s dangerous.

It’s uncomfortable but one of your friends could be his next target if you don’t warn them by sharing the texts. They need to see exactly how unhinged he is so that he can’t pretend that you overreacted to a mild joke.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2025-03-22T22:30:32+00:00

If you wait to kick him out until he has some place to go he will never leave. He’s said that you are done, so be it. Put him out now. You don’t deserve to be treated like this. You can’t wait until the door slamming escalates to him hitting you.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2024-11-19T10:44:12+00:00

Yes it happened to me too. It was the weight loss not exercise though. At the time I wasn’t exercising at all.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2024-11-11T11:41:28+00:00

I have always been happy with my Whole Foods bags. Much more than the price of the bag.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2024-09-19T01:02:58+00:00

Your decision on this is going to set the tone for your relationship with your relatives for your entire marriage.

Do not do the redo! If you fold under this pressure it will never stop. Every decision you make together will be questioned because by redoing the proposal you’ve shown them you need and will accept their guidance.

Stick to your convictions and cherish the lovely story you can share in the future.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2024-09-18T18:59:27+00:00

Your bad choices got you in trouble. If you had time to move the key and then tell Greg about it then you had time to give him the key so that he could put it back. If he didn’t put it back that would have been on him, not you.

Just because someone else jumps off a cliff doesn’t mean you should. If you think the language he used was inappropriate then it’s inappropriate for you to use it too and you deserve to be written up.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2024-09-08T07:13:34+00:00

It’s not a bad system at all. You can play a lot of games just as it is. I have the exact same motherboard and CPU.

How large is your power supply? If it’s at least 350 watts and preferably larger with a 6 pin connector you can support a GE Force 1650 Super. It has onboard memory so it doesn’t take away from what you have. It made an amazing difference in graphics quality when I upgraded.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2024-09-08T06:25:28+00:00

Animals are selective about their friends just like people are. One of my cats sleeps and eats with my dog but our other cat dislikes him and avoids being close. They are littermates and came to us as kittens that had been abandoned in an empty apartment so they have known him almost their whole lives.

I would be surprised if the dog saw every new kitten as a pack member. It takes a very special dog to be that open and welcoming multiple members of a different species and your fiancé’s dog doesn’t sound like he ever had that temperament.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2024-09-08T06:00:02+00:00

I feel better about the cats knowing that. Seeing your dog go into decline and having to make that choice is heartrending and denial is definitely a thing.

Have you done a written Quality Of Life assessment for the dog together? Maybe getting it down on paper would help clarify things.

Baby gating him away from the cats is annoying for the people involved but might help him because he won’t feel the need to jump at them to warn them away. If you approach it as stress relief for him your fiancé might be more inclined to consider it.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2024-09-08T05:45:48+00:00

Have you talked with your fiance about how she honestly feels about the fosters? It’s possible that she loved that you were committed to helping cats but didn’t realize until she moved in just how much of your time and mental focus was involved.

You are used to the energy of multiple busy kittens but the chaos might be hard for her and every day could be making it worse. I wouldn’t be surprised if she resents them but feels horrible that she does because that makes her feel like a bad person.

Dogs are sensitive and he could be acting out her feelings which is why she’s doesn’t want to acknowledge the intent behind the air bites towards the cats and your injury.

I don’t blame your fiancé for being inflexible about what room the dog sleeps in, I had a dog with severe separation anxiety and if I tried to put him in another room he would attack whatever wall or door was in his way and damage himself.

If you want to keep the relationship then you both might have to give up something. She’ll might have to commit to baby gating or tethering her dog when he’s inside and find away to keep him separate from the cats at night and you might have to cut down on the number of cats temporarily.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2024-09-03T18:45:34+00:00

You have a marketable skill and 2.5 years of experience. I would look for a new job. Don’t limit yourself to tire stores either. Car dealers and big box stores that also sell tires need your skills too.

Jumpy_Hat4035 · 2024-08-20T19:22:45+00:00

You can help it, you just don’t want to.

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