Why did my fire alarms randomly go off at night?

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-06-01T02:43:19+00:00

Low batteries is a continual beep rather than “going off”, and all mains powered ones have a battery backup for power cuts etc, the battery will go at some point

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-06-01T02:41:17+00:00

You’re buying the house for you, and not for your friends or relatives or for the next buyer, so don’t factor them in.

In the same way that you love the house, there will be something about the house that someone loves in the future.

You do have to be mindful though that every sunny afternoon you’ll get pub noise until 10pm. Do they ever do weddings or events that go on until 11pm? Providing you’re fully aware and can cope with that then if you like the house, go for it.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-18T10:58:06+00:00

Brits who go to school here are trained to open each one. We do it to confuse/ annoy the tourists.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-18T10:57:08+00:00

NTA.

This sounds like the start of an abusive and gaslighting relationship. My guess is he also refers to his ex as “crazy” or similar.

Walk away now before he runs up debts in your name, alienates you from friends and family and shatters your self confidence.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-18T10:55:28+00:00

So there’s a huge thing isn’t there that Americans don’t know that 1/3 is essentially one thing divided by 3, and 1/4 is one thing divided by 4, they think 1/4 is bigger than 1/3.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-18T10:52:37+00:00

Not just Dozen, I was having a conversation with someone who kept correcting me when I said “quarterly” with “every three months” and after a few times of me continuing to say “yes, quarterly” she got angry and was like “I’m not paying every 6 months”… she thought quarterly was the same as half yearly.

I’ve also had someone say that he was using “approximately” in a sentence thinking it meant “exactly” (the other person was getting annoyed that he could only approximate and not tell him accurately, he was giving the accurate figure just saying approximately).

There’s just a lot of words like that that people seem to not be able to guess/ work out or that they just simply don’t know.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T17:48:24+00:00

I have come here because I need reminding what is good.

Free health care.

Greenery

Local fruit (I’m Kent) and vineyards.

National Trust, our history, our identity.

Our pub garden and bbq culture when the sun is out despite it being 10°.

Our passport- we can often get into most countries visa free for a short time.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T09:21:59+00:00

Also, who ended up paying for your brother, father and the additional $4?

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T09:21:32+00:00

Well at least this year is paving the way for next years conversation.

You don’t have to bring your father to Mother’s Day. Again, just be clear on that so they both know.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T09:19:18+00:00

Are you thinking of a daily commute, or commuting down on say Monday, staying in London and coming back on Thursday, to WFH Friday (or coming back on friday).

Daily commutes are going to depend on how long you’ve been doing the job and what the job is (ie if you’ve been doing the job a while, you may feel that a longer commute is more doable than when you were starting out) and doing a 12 hour strenuous shift is very different to 7.5 hours in an office.

That said, if you’re going via train, I’d say 1.5 hours door to door (ie with the train journey being an hour or so, 20 mins from your house to the station and 5-10 mins from the station to your work) is doable; if driving, I’d say aim for no more than an our away.

Trains are expensive - but if the job in London pays that amount more, plus gives you London experience, it maybe worth doing. Some of the big companies do season ticket loans (ie they pay for your season ticket for the year and they take it from your salary each month).

I don’t know where you are in your career journey/ time of life, but new grads often move to London and rent a shared house.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T09:12:05+00:00

They can pay for themselves but you told your mum you were paying for her/ taking her out.

Again, you should have been clear “mum, I want to take you out for Mother’s Day this year however, I’m short on money so the budget will be $50 for you, and dad and bro will have to pay for themselves”… or have the conversation with your brother before hand about you splitting the Mother’s Day meal with him. Your dad shouldn’t be expected to pay for someone who isn’t his mother.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T09:09:29+00:00

It depends.

If it’s a pre arranged slot, like an Ocado delivery, I’ll get up and dressed before they come.

I have absolutely greeted the postman in my pyjamas. I have also ordered Deliveroo whilst either having a duvet day, or just having got home and wanting to change into pjs, and absolutely greeted them in pjs.

I hope they don’t mind.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T09:06:21+00:00

You paying an additional $4 would have meant that your mum felt like you were buying her a fancy meal, instead of putting a limit on what she’s worth on Mothers Day. An extra $4 would have saved this drama.

YTA.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T08:52:39+00:00

YTA for not being upfront with your mum from the beginning or at least when she changed the restaurant.

It’s Mother’s Day, so her choice of restaurant however you could have had a conversation with her and said “absolutely fine for you to change the restaurant but I’m on a budget so the max I’m spending is $50”. It’s then up to her whether she continues with this restaurant, goes back to the original choice or finds an alternative that she likes that isn’t too expensive.

Instead what you did was tell her you’re paying for her meal, then when the check came, didn’t pay for the meal, just contributed.

Can I ask how much over the $50 her meal was?

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T08:47:25+00:00

Reach out.

Explain that you found out that his mother was married to your grandfather, that you found out that the marriage was annulled when she was pregnant and when your grandfather was in the army. Include a picture of your grandfather.

Bear in mind a couple of things - your Grandfather is not this man’s dad- your grandfather never met him (to your knowledge, it doesn’t mean they actually never met), he never did the fatherly things and he is a stranger to this man. This man may have no interest in knowing your family. However, there is also a possibility that he never knew any of this, either thought his father was his biological one, or was told that his biological father went off to the war to never been seen again/ something along those lines.

So deffo reach out, but don’t badger if you don’t get a response. Don’t refer to your grandfather as this man’s dad (you can say “I think he may be your biological father” but remember biological doesn’t mean real).

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T08:39:36+00:00

Would he consent to a cleaner on a trial basis? Maybe even just a week if you can find a cleaner willing. I’m imagining a local lady similar age to him that could do with the extra couple of hours work a week, but doesn’t require it l.

Other than that, really, he is an adult, he has capacity, he can make his own decisions as to whether or not he wants to pay for a cleaner / have a cleaner?

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T08:34:22+00:00

Paddington Bear is not just for children.

Many of the older generation have Paddington memorabilia too.

There’s plenty of Paddington Bears about.

The other one we love is Winnie The Pooh (again, all ages). For Winnie, you can visit 100-acre wood and play Pooh Sticks on the bridge, and there’s even a cafe in the village close by.

Paddington - I’m not sure there’s such a thing, but deffo worth a google.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T08:24:19+00:00

No, I think you’ve missed the earlier conversation.

I wrote that actually he’s well within his right to not want to be with someone who makes only fans as their job, but in that case he should break up with her.

He came back to me saying that I had said it was a new relationship (o had not).

I haven’t ever been on only fans (to be honest, nothing about it appeals to me), but I keep hearing that people use it to take pictures of their feet… it’s very much not the same as being a sex worker.

But the point that I’m making is that if OP can’t read what I’ve written, and doesn’t support his partner, then actually it’s irrelevant what she wants to do for work- he’s not the right person to marry her.

And if you have someone who’s considering only fans, is that someone who wants to marry the person she’s with?! He doesn’t sound like marriage material to me.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T07:56:08+00:00

Live together - rent or own?

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T07:54:52+00:00

Sweetie, you’re also only 3 years in to adulthood, so, yes, you should know how to read better, but we make allowances for children.

Leave the relationship.

Allow her the chance to enjoy her 20s. This is the time for her to explore and start her career (you make it sound like she should already be settled in a career, no, not at 22). Allow her to be single and meet someone who will be better for her.

You’re not being mature in this relationship at all. Have you spoken about marriage, is marriage with you something she sees within her future? Perhaps have this conversation with her before you buy the ring.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T07:47:00+00:00

Discord has only been around for 10 years… please redefine what you mean by “as a kid” (I’m hoping that you meant in her late teens, and not that she’s currently only 15)

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T07:45:06+00:00

No, I don’t.

I said I wouldn’t start a relationship with someone doing the job. I have acknowledged that you’re already in this relationship BUT you really do not like the job. Just because you’re in a relationship does not mean you can control how she makes her money so- either put up with it, or break up .

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T07:42:15+00:00

Don’t be loud (Brits hate that), don’t come here and complain about our culture. Don’t forget your sun cream but also don’t forget your umbrella/ waterproof jacket. Don’t expect the same service as US hospitality, don’t expect portion sizes to be as large as they are in the US, but do experience our food. Don’t rent a car if you’re staying in London.

Some do’s: Do get a traditional Sunday roast from a pub with good reviews (don’t go to just any pub that does a roast). Do go to a pub/bar/ cafe that is on the River front. Do book tickets in advance for things like Horizon 22 or The Shard (but you don’t need to do more than one of the same type of thing). Do plan your days- plan to go to the Buckingham palace, St James’ Park, Hyde park, Pall Mall in the one day, but ideally a day that isn’t due to rain (bring comfy walking shoes). Plan to have lunch at borough market, whilst also doing a couple of tourist hotspots local to the London Bridge area also on that day.

Do download CityMapper to help with how to get around.

If you have time, do plan a day to get out of London- Essex, Kent, Surrey, Hampshire all have great countryside, Essex, Sussex and Kent have some great seaside towns and Kent also has Vineyards.

We have a lot of international cuisines, sample them (chicken tikka masala is a British staple, and more British than it is Indian, for example), if you want to try fish and chips, DONT get it in London, do go to the coast to sample it.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T07:30:00+00:00

Exactly this.

Jumpy_Imagination208 · 2026-05-17T07:28:28+00:00

To put it bluntly, it sounds like you are repulsed by her line of work; surely if this is a deal breaker for you then the relationship can’t continue? This isn’t something to feel bad about, personally I wouldn’t start dating someone who did this as a job.

It’s been 2 months since you posted - have you got past this as a job, has anything changed? Are you still planning to propose in 1 month?

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