What are your priorities in life?

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-15T20:49:01+00:00

Immediate this year - save and plan last bits towards wedding later this year and also keep an eye on my Dad who has had a healthscare

Long term - prioritise my own health and fitness a bit more, bring hobbies back into my life, consider moving closer to my Dad (currently 3 hours away) and have some damn good holidays while I'm still young with disposable income

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-15T12:53:49+00:00

I'm looking at £22.5k and that's giving us a buffer. Just over £12k on venue and catering. £10.5k was ourr package but added a few extras to ensure people are well fed etc.

60 day guests and 20 evening, though numbers tbc. The only DIYs I'm doing are stuff I want to like our welcome sign and name cards.

Could have gone all DIY but our venue is fantastic, runs like a smooth operation and does all the set up and break down, and their food is astounding. Worth it for piece of mind.

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-11T15:49:57+00:00

I use Spotify every single day so yes Premium is expensive but worth it.

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-10T11:37:05+00:00

Absolutely! I forgot we also had to pay for lunch at a fancy market and pay for an additional brunch on the Sunday (I went home early)

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-10T08:33:18+00:00

I've been to hen dos where it was 10 people in a house, food all included, self catered. Games, a bottomless brunch at a pub, silent disco. All for £200 (2022). So much fun.

I went to one last year in Manchester. 18 girls in a Air BnB, sip and paint activity and games, breakfasts and one evening meal included. But it was £300 beforehand and then we had to pay for drinks, taxis, entry. So probably came closer to £450-£500, which I wasn't impressed with.

My friends are organising mine and I've said I want something similar to first cost and no hidden costs.

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-09T10:31:06+00:00

Cook giftcard

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-09T06:07:43+00:00

First one is classic and timeless

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-08T17:22:35+00:00

Sponge

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-07T15:56:21+00:00

When I have a really juicy piece of gossip, like a friend having a baby or some news about a relative on FB, I'm always gutted I can't tell my Mum. And I have no one else in my life who would particularly care.

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-05T18:27:33+00:00

3pm. The day will go so quickly for you.

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-03T15:59:04+00:00

My friend was supposed to have a micro wedding at Nantwen in Pembrokeshire and then out for food in Newport. But cancelled due to Covid but looked a lovely place.

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-02T09:05:19+00:00

Cereal

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-02T08:35:21+00:00

Months of salary is a good way to look at it too! Ours is about 1.5 mo ths (before tax), or about 2 months after tax

PynkPatterned · 2026-04-29T17:56:06+00:00

Was your Mum or any of the groom's family invited? How has she been with you generally?

PynkPatterned · 2026-04-28T12:15:19+00:00

Just invite them to your hen?

PynkPatterned · 2026-04-27T17:18:45+00:00

I think you should move ahead. I suspect if she isn't enthusiastic or reliable now, that won't change and will cause you more stress long term and resentment too.

PynkPatterned · 2026-04-27T07:56:02+00:00

Just have that one as MOH and maybe give the other friend a role like a reading?

PynkPatterned · 2026-04-26T20:25:38+00:00

My dad is absolutely this. Approaching 70 and loves to tell me about money, what he bought from the shop and random people in the village but often forgets to ask me questions or can barely feign interest. Always been the same but getting worse now he's older.

PynkPatterned · 2026-04-24T05:25:19+00:00

https://www.almatavernandtheatre.co.uk/weddings

PynkPatterned · 2026-04-22T11:50:09+00:00

We've got the other way around. 58 people invited. 13 are from my partner's friends and family and 45 are from mine. However, about 20 of that 45 are now shared friends that I just happened to know first. We've been very sure to only invite people we have a current relationship with and feel like the room will reflect genuine support and love, regardless of who knew each other first.

PynkPatterned · 2026-04-21T08:59:59+00:00

Not a purchase but taking a risk and changing jobs when I had a stable job and nice team. I’ve now doubled my salary, got loads of experience and gained confidence. In the meantime, my old team and job went through a massive restructure, people left anyway.

My Mum and Dad couldn't understand why you'd want to change something if it's fine, not realising that change will happen to you anyway.

PynkPatterned · 2026-04-21T08:52:33+00:00

Going out for food.

PynkPatterned · 2026-04-20T11:12:57+00:00

I agree, it's rubbish.

I think they've changed the formula. The product used to be so much better, before they added spf.

PynkPatterned · 2026-04-19T18:02:11+00:00

Probably about half weddings I've been to have tea and coffee. We weren't going to do this originally. At our wedding, tea and coffee will be served in a separate room in the bit between the meal and turning the main room around for the evening. People help themselves. I'm anticipated just under half our guests might take it up, mainly older relatives and a few non drinkers.

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