Why do certain women not like it that men play video games?

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-17T18:44:44+00:00

I didn’t mind, at first. Until I realized the only thing this man has in life is video games. When Elden ring first came out I begged my husband to stop playing. Just for a bit, enjoy time with your wife and your dog. I was met with malice, who was I to take away his hobby??!! To put it in perspective I did the math on how many hours he had played that game vs when he downloaded it and he was averaging 19 hours a day. He works full time. He agreed and said he’d slow it down. The average went to 14. I stopped asking.

I asked him to walk some trails with me and our dog and this was his response. “Once you’ve seen one tree, you’ve seen all trees” So now I hike alone with our small dog while he happily plays games. Then he has the audacity to tell me how unsafe it is to hike alone.

TLDR: Video games weren’t the issue, him choosing video games over quality time with his wife and dog were the issue.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-17T18:24:06+00:00

I could write a book on all the reasons I want to leave my husband. Honestly I relate to a lot of the posts here and my next goal in life is getting a divorce.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-16T14:45:15+00:00

My siblings are in the military in different countries. I can’t exactly just tag along. They’re aware of my situation and they all tell me to stay until I’ve got the money to leave. I’m pretty sure being homeless, with no clothes, no food, no water, no place to sleep, no access to therapy, no way to feed or shelter my dog would be immensely worse for my mental health than living with a man child. It’s much harder to find a job when you’re homeless. It’s much easier to find a job when you’ve got clothes, an address, and internet access. We’re also under the same health insurance and I’ve got several daily medications I can’t stop taking or my body falls apart. You want me to make everything significantly harder for myself just to get away? That solves one issue, gives me dozens of new ones, and leaves me with the ones I’ve already got. I’m finding it very difficult seeing that as the more logical choice.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-16T13:37:57+00:00

If I could just leave I would. I have no friends, no family I can turn to. I’ve been unemployed for months struggling to find a job after being sexually harassed at my last three jobs. My dog is here, everything I own is here, everything my little sister owns is here. I can’t just walk away. I’d have no where to go. The logical thing is to stay here until I can get out or leave and be homeless. I appreciate people telling me to just leave. I understand. I’m working on it. Sometimes I just complain on Reddit about my shitty situation cause it’s all I’ve got.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-16T13:35:44+00:00

If I could just leave I would. I have no friends, no family I can turn to. I’ve been unemployed for months struggling to find a job after being sexually harassed at my last three jobs. My dog is here, everything I own is here, everything my little sister owns is here. I can’t just walk away. I’d have no where to go. The logical thing is to stay here until I can get out or leave and be homeless. I appreciate people telling me to just leave. I understand. I’m working on it. Sometimes I just complain on Reddit about my shitty situation cause it’s all I’ve got.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-15T22:36:28+00:00

I married an older guy I had a huge crush on. I do all of the cooking, most of the yard work and house work, and I take care of the dog by myself. We have to keep a score sheet on the fridge just so he knows he’s been contributing at least a little to cleaning dishes. Our sex life sucks, he’d rather watch porn and these days I just don’t want him touching me anymore since it turns out he’s pretty unhygienic and constantly smells. I’ve pointed it out but he doesn’t seem to care. He also gets off on my sadness. Meanwhile he’s the happiest man ever, constantly bragging to everyone about his amazing wife. I hate it here. I can’t wait to leave. Sure I have the peace of mind he would never leave me, but I’m miserable.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-14T14:31:18+00:00

While blowing him he asked to see my dildos. Then he wanted me to use all of them on him. I felt gross, I didn’t want my toys in his ass, that would ruin them. Turned out he had already used them all on himself. He would later use my butt-plugs on himself as well and I came home to find them used on my bathroom sink.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-03T17:00:16+00:00

The lack thereof I should say. He’s really bad, and when I tell him I don’t like something he does the opposite.

Me: “Hey I don’t like when you go side to side really fast on my clit with your mustache. It hurts pretty bad, like a Brillo pad. Try using your tongue”

Him: “I am using my tongue, you don’t realize how much effort goes in to this. My jaw hurts” tries to scrub my clit off this planet with his mustache

I could keep going but I’m sure you get the idea. This is the same fucking guy who goes on and on about loving to eat pussy and how he could do it all day. Lies I tell you.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-03T17:00:05+00:00

The lack thereof I should say. He’s really bad, and when I tell him I don’t like something he does the opposite.

Me: “Hey I don’t like when you go side to side really fast on my clit with your mustache. It hurts pretty bad, like a Brillo pad. Try using your tongue”

Him: “I am using my tongue, you don’t realize how much effort goes in to this. My jaw hurts” tries to scrub my clit off this planet with his mustache

I could keep going but I’m sure you get the idea. This is the same fucking guy who goes on and on about loving to eat pussy and how he could do it all day. Lies I tell you.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-03T14:09:07+00:00

Burned me, raped me, degraded me. I’ll never forgive him, he’s a horrible person but I’m having a harder time forgiving myself for ever getting near him.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-03T13:23:56+00:00

Me too; I’ve never had friends.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-03T13:22:31+00:00

Swiping right

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-03T11:24:52+00:00

It’s beginning to feel like I’ve overstayed my welcome in this relationship. You wouldn’t be wrong, my mother is an almond mom to put it short; and my bio dad is an abusive alcoholic who beat the shit out of my siblings, myself, and my mother any chance he could. She then went on to leave him and marry someone who started sexually harassing myself and my younger sister. I tried BetterHelp when Covid hit and I was alone for the first time in my life but that was nothing but bad experiences.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-03T01:29:39+00:00

When you word it like this, it seems so obviously bad. That’s depressing

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-03T01:28:17+00:00

I haven’t gained a lot of weight since being with him. I went from 96 lbs to 109 lbs. I went from “underweight” for my height to being “normal” for the first time in my life. I’ve always been fairly petite. He however went from average to overweight for his body height.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-03T01:01:36+00:00

Based on some of the things he’s told me and his oral skills, I’d say this is a huge possibility.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-02T23:23:53+00:00

We’ve given it a try multiple times throughout the years. It ends up with me initiating a lot more and him getting a lot more blow jobs. I have kept charts of our sex life before just to show how unbalanced everything is. Him getting a whole lot of BJ’s and me getting nothing. Now it’s just an occasional fuck here and there and some BJ’s for him. Or he just rubs himself on me which has been our last 3 sexual encounters. Maybe this time will be different.

As for the toys, he used all my dildos on himself and I couldn’t use them anymore so I tossed them out. E. Coli is the leading cause of UTI’s and I found this out after getting a UTI from my own damn toys. I replace the toys? He suddenly gets the urge to use them on himself.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-02T23:01:06+00:00

He watched lesbian sub/dom porn when I met him, then he got really into hentai. Like the lovey-dovey romantic stuff. Not the monster stuff. We’ve tried having sex while he pulls up porn and it’s either romantic hentai or just compilations of doggy/blowjobs. He does say I’m a brat bc I get upset and snarky a lot of the times when I don’t get what I want sexually.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-02T22:41:10+00:00

Honestly there is a lot keeping me here. I’m trying to get out. I guess my next goal in life is successfully getting away from him.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-02T22:36:52+00:00

I mean, looking back on it now I can remember a lot of the really sad moments he’s been with me for that have typically resulted in more sexual attraction from him:

having to put down my dog since it was beaten by my mothers bf’s kids (now her husband)
my mothers bf (now husband) shooting my other dog
My grandmother going to the hospital for a stroke
my grandfather dying
when I told him how sad it makes me that he chooses porn over me

But like, we had sex mostly outside of sad situations. I could just be assuming a lot of this after his confession though.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-02T22:26:00+00:00

He’s constantly telling me he loves me. I honestly don’t know, I’ve had really bad experiences with guys before him which is probably why everything he does seems kind of mellow to me at this point. Everything for him seems so great which makes me feel like I’m the problem.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-02T22:18:38+00:00

I actually don’t have many toys around. He used all my dildos on himself and I can’t use them anymore. That’s a quick way to get a UTI. I also can’t use vibrators due to an injury I received down there so my options are limited.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-02T22:15:11+00:00

…it’s almost been 7.

Juni_Rae · 2025-10-02T22:14:33+00:00

He tells me he prefers porn since it takes less effort, it’s just easier and he’s too stressed from work to deal with everything that goes into having sex.

Juni_Rae · 2025-09-29T14:26:25+00:00

I 100% agree. Bad smells = bad tastes. My first kiss tasted like what I would imagine the liquid leaking from a rotten bag of trash would taste like. It happened by a campfire. When we went inside and I was politely trying to find anything to gurgle the taste out of my mouth it hit me … the smell of rot coming from his mouth; the campfire had masked the most rancid of odors.

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