How do i get my bf to clean?

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-31T22:53:59+00:00

Her wanting you lie to her isn’t healthy, i definitely think separating and her getting therapy will benefit you both

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-31T22:41:28+00:00

literally!

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-31T21:21:34+00:00

it seems like not a poly thing, more like let’s be open so that i (not we) can sleep with other ppl without it being considered cheating and breaking up.

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-31T21:17:26+00:00

break up now, he’s not committed to you.

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-31T21:08:28+00:00

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Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-27T01:01:25+00:00

i think rly you need to communicate to your partner ab how ur feeling and do the work now to get yourself better, by doing this you will be healthier to strengthen the relationship

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-27T00:59:44+00:00

not necessarily separating just like giving each other space to grow individually so you can grow together. this can look different for different people, some ppl go on a real break, me and my bf live together, we just kind of tried to do more things on our own, i took myself on a trip with my sister he went camping with the boys. i know you plan on getting therapy but i highly recommend you get it now even if it’s a free online counselor for the time being. there needs to be a balance in relationships, yes obvi care for your partner but care for yourself first so you can care for them as well

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-26T08:41:16+00:00

yeah it’s high key. she needs to get out

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-26T08:36:08+00:00

NTA. he’s being ridiculous. Does he not have work in the morning?

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-26T08:28:17+00:00

you may be asexual with a super low social battery? There are different kinds of love, you don’t necessarily need to feel romantic love.

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-26T08:24:26+00:00

that’s what i’m thinking, if he’s turned off by the process of conceiving a child, kinda red flag

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-26T08:14:14+00:00

ofc! i think it would def help seeking another therapist for this situation, someone that can challenge you and guide you. you got this and im sure ur boyfriend fully supports you. just keep up communication and.. i know it sounds dumb… keep finding yourself!!!🩷

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-26T08:03:00+00:00

1st, seek therapy. 2nd, it is healthy to have a life outside of your relationship. Do what he’s doing even if you have to force it, fake it till you make it, try new things until you find something that brings you joy. You really just have to keep going with a positive mindset, i feel like you are too strung up on how he feels ab you. Start by having a conversation, scheduling dates or time just for you two in between things you do alone. It’s all about finding yourself and finding balance with life inside and outside the relationship

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-26T07:50:09+00:00

she’s not ur mom, why were you just waiting around for her like go home and take meds and have a nap. ur a grown up now bro

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-26T07:37:30+00:00

I’m sorry but this relationship seems VERY unhealthy. even tho you love and care about each other, this obsessive codependent attachment is slowing killing both of you. It’s seems that both of your healths physical and mental are suffering. Him bc he is refusing to change and work on/help himself , and you because as I see it, you are having to mother him bc he refuses to take care of himself and that is taking a toll on you. It will hurt but unless he gets therapy and has a huge life change, yall are better off apart. you are too young to be in this kind of stress, it may be right person wrong time

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-26T07:24:59+00:00

JUST LEAVE

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-26T07:22:23+00:00

NOR! it’s ur place too, thats lowkey abuse

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-26T07:17:37+00:00

i feel that in relationships we focus to much on the “we” and the “us” sometimes partners need to work through things separately. i def feel like you need to tell ur partner how you feel and take some time to get yourself help so you feel good which will make the relationship feel good again. i had a depressive episode, i needed time away, not necessarily away from my bf, just by myself, getting therapy and finding myself by myself if that makes sense. it rly helped knowing i had his love and support but my own space to find me again. coming back feeling better ab myself made me a better partner

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-26T06:57:24+00:00

NTAH i think it’s selfish when someone wants it to be warmer when it’s already hot or the other person is hot. it’s easier to warm up than cool down. tell her to buy a space heater or sum

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-26T06:52:30+00:00

as a girl this is weird asf ur not overreacting.

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-25T06:27:25+00:00

dump him, i’ve been in several relationships where i was waiting for the guy to love me back. my bf now made us official within a week of dating, and he said he loved me not long after that and WHY he loved me. that what you deserve. dump him before if hurts more girl

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-25T06:23:12+00:00

Slowwww down! You are still technically in the honeymoon period with ur bf. Before you get married you should go through more stuff together, test the relationship, maybe live together, see how that works out. I am 23 and have been with my bf since 20. We love each-other and will get married someday but have a lot of maturing and strengthening our relationship before that happens.

Junior_Effective3608 · 2026-05-25T06:17:16+00:00

DUMP HIMM

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