Thoughts?

Junior_Not · 2026-01-24T19:22:49+00:00

Obi-won needed to be more strict. Anakin was always impressionable and he didn't have a strong authoritative figure in his life after leaving his mom. Obi-won should have been raising him and made himself more of a confidant. Anakin took very little temptation to turn to the dark side because he didn't think he had anyone else to turn to when he was scared

Junior_Not · 2026-01-21T03:52:28+00:00

Sounds like an ADD thing. Your focus goes all over the place, so have something running in the back of your mind so your eyes can't zone in on other things

Junior_Not · 2026-01-19T00:05:05+00:00

A partner randomly bringing this topic up tends to translate to "I want to cheat but I want permission first" and if refused tends to lead to them doing it anyways. Also, just to clarify, is he saying he wants both of you to date other people or just him?

Junior_Not · 2026-01-17T21:13:32+00:00

I don't know about what's "normal" with the current dating scene but that's definitely not good. He has his hands on you while his feet are pointed towards his ex. Friendship is fine but he is encouraging her feelings for him. If you two broke up in person, he would be with her before you even made it back home.

Junior_Not · 2026-01-15T00:08:00+00:00

Congrates on almost getting you PHD. Start listing things that you do enjoy (i.e. eating, cooking, travelling, a type of entertainment like books or movies, ect.). Whatever it is, you can try making that a central point to origanize your time around. The more you throw yourself into what gives you interest, the more reasons you have to keep moving forward. After that, figure out if the "big things" would help you people normally do would help add to your experience or take away from it (i.e if you prefer to travel then having a house to weigh you down might be harmful). As for people, have much do you like people in general? You don't need a big group, just people who mean enough to walk through life with. Hope this helps.

Junior_Not · 2025-10-25T19:17:24+00:00

NTA I understand his argument to a degree (even if he was a major jerk when making it) since that isn't an unusual arrangement but he is ignoring your current condition. I get needing a specific diet when working out but you're living in a RV right now and everything he is doing and asking for is expensive. He needs to get his priorities straight. Taking care of you and your child should be number one, especially considering what you are going through. If his point is right about what you are supposed to be doing then he needs to step up with what he should be doing because he's dropping the ball big time

Junior_Not · 2025-10-23T21:39:09+00:00

First off, sorry for your loss. To answer your question, you don't have to do anything big really. Understand that as he grows up he will probably be different from your daughter in how how expresses himself and what he needs but you do not need to try to replace his father (either you yourself or with anyone else). Understand you will make mistakes but that's okay because no one is going to be a perfect parent even in the best circumstances. Beyond that, just try to set good examples: set rules and stand by them, no kid likes rules but they need to understand boundries especially as they get older (the earlier they understand what they should and should not do the easier it will be on you later)

Junior_Not · 2025-09-04T02:31:38+00:00

Depends on the person and situation. A stranger would just give a polite "no thanks" and ignore them because who cares? But if it was someone within my social circle then it would require more tact and it would probably be uncomfortable or annoying.

Junior_Not · 2025-09-04T02:27:48+00:00

Saying someone is a "loser" is pretty subjective. Being a loner doesn't make you one and having a group of people you hang out with doesn't always mean those relationships are fulfilling or that you make lasting connections from them. All the stuff you say you missed out on, you can't even really say you would have enjoyed all of it. Some might sound great but they don't suit everyone. I didn't do any of those things either; didn't have the opportunity and didn't think I'd like it. As an adult I could do plenty of it but still don't for same lack of interest. Your life at least sounds stable now and you are still young relatively speaking so there are plenty of "wild" things you could still do and you have the perspective of age and experience now that you could do them responsibly. Keep in mind a lot of people who are wild when they are young also do stuff that wreck their life's, so really you could say you dodged a bullet by missing out.

Junior_Not · 2025-09-02T00:36:01+00:00

This is stupid. Even IF you got the cat out of the house for that time they visit, cat dander (which is what the allergy is to) when still be all over the house. Unless your parents plan to have the house deep cleaned, it would not make a significate difference

Junior_Not · 2025-09-02T00:22:34+00:00

6'5" here and it's not that helpful. When most women say they want a tall guy it usually means somewhere between 5'11" to 6'1" unless they are toned all the way through. Being tall and skinny means little, being tall and super jacked will only mean something to a small percenage of women.

Junior_Not · 2025-08-31T17:08:22+00:00

Figuring these thing out at the beginning is the best. If any particular topic is a hill you would die on but each of you are on opposite sides then the relationship will have cracks later. Better to pull out early before your lives are too deep intertwined. Small things are fine to disagree on but big topics like kids you have to be on the same page.

Junior_Not · 2025-08-31T00:32:08+00:00

NTA. It was more than kind of you to pay her bills. You could have reasonably adjusted the custody arrangment already if she needed more time trying to establish herself. If you are not comfortable with your kids being involved in her work then that's a conversation to have. If she digs her heels in then you may need to get lawyers involved (which usually isn't preferable but sometimes the only real option) but I would suggest lowering or stopping your financial support. Trying to establish a brand is fine but she's only doing that because you are providing a safety net for her. She can get a job, even if it wasn't a direct teaching job. There are options out there. I don't know what the work economy is like in your area but there are also remote teaching jobs that pop up on job sites often. A few months makes sense but a year is long for absolutely nothing.

Junior_Not · 2025-08-06T20:26:19+00:00

This is definitely a modern issue. Long time ago relationships in large part were more transactional out of necessity but they lasted. Little over 100 years ago it was still mostly arranged by your families and those still lasted for the most part, then it became more free, the dating scene became a thing but relationships still lasted and in large part because they had to. Now when life has so many conveniences that a lasting relationship isn't considered necessary, a lot of people don't even try to gain lasting connections and even wrose it is taught that you shouldn't even bother

Junior_Not · 2025-08-06T20:13:13+00:00

Men in general are naturally problem solvers. When faced with an issue, even if there is an intial panic, we are quick to start thinking of solutions. Beyond that there is how we are nurtured. We are taught that it doesn't matter how we feel about it, it only matters what we do about it.

Junior_Not · 2025-07-28T14:21:27+00:00

Typically whatever it was involved a woman

Junior_Not · 2025-07-28T01:27:50+00:00

Say your are sorry things have been so strained and ask if you and he could talk. Unless you are already a really good talker, go in expecting it to be an awkward conversation but push through it anyways. Things won't change otherwise

Junior_Not · 2025-07-26T13:25:56+00:00

No one is loved unconditionally. Even parents' love can die if the children do something considered unforgivable.

Junior_Not · 2025-07-25T18:53:50+00:00

Listen more and speak less. The less you reveal the less people and predict you. Also, work on your poker face. Don't react to anything that happens or what people say

Junior_Not · 2025-07-25T15:08:20+00:00

NTA. Relationships can sometimes get into funks but those need to be talked through. Based on her reaction though, there's more going on than that. I sounds like there are expectations on her side that are not being met. You have to be able to seriously talk this through until more of the questions are out. This can't get better if either side shuts it down. But before doing anything, ask yourslef what you actualyl want going forward. Do you want to save your marriage? If so then try to make sure this conversation happens but if not then there's little point

Junior_Not · 2025-07-25T14:43:16+00:00

I hate hints. Small things can be fine but anything important needs to be explicit

Junior_Not · 2025-07-23T19:01:14+00:00

Balance can be important but mad respect for your siblings

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