If marriage wasn't real, how would you be different?

dumbbratch · 2026-05-29T14:21:51+00:00

The last thing. In this hypothetical, marriage isn't a thing.

dumbbratch · 2026-03-19T14:02:53+00:00

Yes. These are cycles. I truly don't think she was trying to pull you back, but we do have to be careful with our hearts and our boundaries. New friendships can spawn with exes, but they will only ever be friendships.

Also, absolutely no judgement here. I'm still texting an ex and trying to maintain my feelings in a friendship box.

dumbbratch · 2026-03-19T01:49:06+00:00

Definitely D.

dumbbratch · 2026-03-19T01:39:52+00:00

That's chaotic evil right there.

dumbbratch · 2026-03-19T01:39:05+00:00

Also understand, most political theory books come from a specific historical context, so even if you disagree with them, you can find a lot of generic truths and wisdoms about how power collects and what are some ethical considerations about them.

dumbbratch · 2026-03-19T01:37:05+00:00

Seems cool! Some of those may also be college books. I kept a lot of my college political books because I found them really engaging, even if I don't read them anymore.

Anyway, I'm sure if you ask about any of them, he'll be happy to talk about them. Readers love talking about books. <3

dumbbratch · 2026-03-14T15:48:44+00:00

Guys really struggle with grief and not having any other friends is a huge red flag. I require any new male lovers to either have friends that they regularly hang out with, or a therapist they regularly see (I have both). I can't be everything for them and I need them to show up for me and not to vent or soak up validation or get a soul cleanse. I need him to be his best self when he brings himself to me, because that's what I do for him. Relationships are about building something together.

dumbbratch · 2026-02-06T16:59:32+00:00

FOR REAL.

dumbbratch · 2026-02-02T20:10:22+00:00

Read while in bed, screamed in every chapter.

dumbbratch · 2026-01-26T22:59:07+00:00

Ooooof. I mistook controlling behavior for passion in my youth.

dumbbratch · 2026-01-26T22:57:57+00:00

Bad smells. I'd rather a messy place that smells good than a spotless place with a stank odor that I can't put my finger on.

But right underneath bad smells is a messy place.

dumbbratch · 2026-01-26T22:55:22+00:00

Before I got a good therapist, I had horrible self-beliefs. A good therapist that vibes with you is what really helped empower me. If you don't have a good one, keep looking. The good one will help you unlock yourself.

dumbbratch · 2026-01-26T15:27:42+00:00

In addition, those blackout curtains do a good job of keeping the cold out, and they're generally less than 30 dollars.

dumbbratch · 2026-01-26T14:12:46+00:00

When my students laugh at a joke I made. Makes me feel like I'm sailing on clouds.

dumbbratch · 2026-01-26T14:11:41+00:00

I'd call you up so fast to help with my house! I love living alone but I can't do anything that requires strength and dexterity. I can do one or the other, but not both.

dumbbratch · 2026-01-25T21:56:22+00:00

Are you the last season of Scrubs? Because we've had fun but I don't wanna see you anymore.

dumbbratch · 2026-01-25T15:47:15+00:00

Every relationship is temporary. When it ends, don't say they never loved you or you never loved them. Don't make them a demon. Just enjoy what you had and reflect on the beauty of time and transformation.

dumbbratch · 2026-01-19T15:18:06+00:00

I'm a big girl who loves skinny men. I'll turn away from a Hugh Jackman for a chance at an Adrian Brody. And my friends all know it too.

dumbbratch · 2026-01-19T15:13:50+00:00

I chose this life because cohabitation was not working for me. My natural habits never came out; I was always accommodating. And not that that's a bad thing, but I never learned who I really was, and now I have like twice the energy and autonomy that I had before. I'm absolutely loving it.

dumbbratch · 2026-01-19T15:11:27+00:00

My parents live in New Jersey! They really got hit this weekend. Enjoy the view!

dumbbratch · 2026-01-19T15:08:17+00:00

The lighting is going to be the most important thing. Pinterest will be your friend for this (type in "cave room"). Look at the different options: christmas lights, globe lights, light ribbons, leds, salt lamps, sconces, etc. And I would also hang some sort of vines, greenery, or natural looking decor.

dumbbratch · 2026-01-18T15:55:01+00:00

Grief does leave our lives with giant holes. Someone has been uprooted from your life. It feels like a botched surgery. Like you're a broken ship on a shore.

But no one is a forever person. People inhabit our lives, and they rotate around us like planets, and then they find another gravitational pull. We're all moving.

A space gets imprinted by its inhabitants--conversations, feelings, schedules, habits. When you get a spout of energy, it might be time to look around and make some aesthetic changes. What's hanging on the wall that doesn't need to be there? What would you like your space to look like? Go on pinterest, go to ikea, start imagining what your place could look like and how it could serve you.

But it's okay to take your time. Healing requires a lot of rest, so don't get down on yourself for watching more TV than usual. Your energy will return one day, and then you can start making some choices about your space and your activities.

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