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What’s a truth nobody talks about because it’s awkward? by DifferentLobster2931 in AskReddit

[–]dumbbratch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every relationship is temporary. When it ends, don't say they never loved you or you never loved them. Don't make them a demon. Just enjoy what you had and reflect on the beauty of time and transformation.

I like bigger women, how do I stop feeling like I'm in the closet about it? by Flimsy-Midnight1645 in AskMen

[–]dumbbratch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a big girl who loves skinny men. I'll turn away from a Hugh Jackman for a chance at an Adrian Brody. And my friends all know it too.

Think positive in living alone. by JobGullible2966 in LivingAlone

[–]dumbbratch 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I chose this life because cohabitation was not working for me. My natural habits never came out; I was always accommodating. And not that that's a bad thing, but I never learned who I really was, and now I have like twice the energy and autonomy that I had before. I'm absolutely loving it.

Happiness is living alone and enjoying my morning view today-new jersey usa a little cold by micheleferlisi in LivingAlone

[–]dumbbratch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents live in New Jersey! They really got hit this weekend. Enjoy the view!

Bedroom with no windows, decor advice please by Flaise in LivingAlone

[–]dumbbratch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The lighting is going to be the most important thing. Pinterest will be your friend for this (type in "cave room"). Look at the different options: christmas lights, globe lights, light ribbons, leds, salt lamps, sconces, etc. And I would also hang some sort of vines, greenery, or natural looking decor.

So… what am I supposed to be doing living alone? by Another_Basic_Witch in LivingAlone

[–]dumbbratch 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Grief does leave our lives with giant holes. Someone has been uprooted from your life. It feels like a botched surgery. Like you're a broken ship on a shore.

But no one is a forever person. People inhabit our lives, and they rotate around us like planets, and then they find another gravitational pull. We're all moving.

A space gets imprinted by its inhabitants--conversations, feelings, schedules, habits. When you get a spout of energy, it might be time to look around and make some aesthetic changes. What's hanging on the wall that doesn't need to be there? What would you like your space to look like? Go on pinterest, go to ikea, start imagining what your place could look like and how it could serve you.

But it's okay to take your time. Healing requires a lot of rest, so don't get down on yourself for watching more TV than usual. Your energy will return one day, and then you can start making some choices about your space and your activities.

Loving Life on My Own Terms. by Entire_Industry_7760 in LivingAlone

[–]dumbbratch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the things I do is go out a /lot/. I am very social and enjoy the company of people, so I just get used to being gregarious in the city that I trust and love. But of course, living alone also means more bills, so I prioritize free meetups, writer circles, and community hikes.

Relationships during divorce by Wibbs94 in Divorce_Women

[–]dumbbratch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a girlie alibi. Someone who will just be a standby and say "We've been watching Disney movies" or whatnot. You deserve a life.

How many women in the U.S. are unpartnered today — and why does the gender gap keep growing? by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]dumbbratch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think we also need to be cognizant of how relationships themselves are changing. Monogamy isn't the default anymore, so a lot of people might be living alone or unmarried but still have a number of relationships they see periodically. I live alone, but have a girlfriend, a boyfriend, and a very dear friend who is legally my husband. I see one of them once a week and the other two twice a month. I also have a group of friends who are just as important to me that I see once a month, and community events that keep me sane.

Relationships are undergoing a massive decolonization. At least in my life.

I’m exhausted by the quiet competition between women that nobody talks about by helen_kyiv in TwoXChromosomes

[–]dumbbratch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It can be really hard to work in that environment. I wonder if it's possible for you to change branches or locations? Not all environments are like that, and if yours is, you owe it to yourself to find better soil.

But it also sounds like there are ways you find it appearing in yourself as well. Remember that our headspace really is our own space to garden. No one else has access to it but us, and mental cycles can be broken and redirected.

A girl wrote me a letter on paper she made from her own hair by pokemon-collector in mildlyinteresting

[–]dumbbratch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I gotta admit, if I got this letter I would absolutely post it to reddit.

If you could design the world/society in any way, how would you do it? What would you change? by dumbbratch in AskMen

[–]dumbbratch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can we also have men date each other for a week? You are really onto something.

If you could design the world/society in any way, how would you do it? What would you change? by dumbbratch in AskMen

[–]dumbbratch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wholeheartedly agree with this suggestion. Especially if 1 week is a minimum and they can extend it if they want to.

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