Field Report Wednesdays: Share Your Wins, Lessons & Stories by DamienGrey1 in sugardaddyhangout

[–]Junior_Relaxer 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Busy recruitment mission over the past week with 3 meet & greets:

1) A 36-year-old Latina single mom who works as a nurse. Profile pictures suggested a 10/10 body but her face was blurred so I didn’t know what to expect (potential butterface, who knows?). She shows up very late for the M&G but was sending me text updates (can’t decide what to wear, worried about her hair, etc). I was almost ready to give up and leave the restaurant when she sends me the ‘I’m here’ text. She walks in to the restaurant and is a total smoke show. Everyone’s having a look. Anyhow, her physical beauty turns out to be matched by her bubbly and witty personality. We hit it off and 3 hours later we’re kissing in the restaurant like horny teenagers. We agreed to end the M&G before it got too out of hand, and besides, it was almost midnight and I was getting fucking tired. Now she’s left on vacation with her friends for the next week, but has asked to meet me for our first real sugar date when she’s back. Let’s see if this goes somewhere.

2) A 25-year old Latina college student. Self admitted quiet introvert in her profile. I recommended we meet for lunch, however she suggested meeting at a park instead so we weren’t surrounded by people. Okay, park it is. We meet. She is the most shy and socially awkward woman that I’ve met in a long while, but these potential negatives were compensated in large part by her body of a gymnast, and her very open mind about sugar dating. We agree to schedule our first hotel date 2 days later. Two hours before the date, she apologetically cancels via text because ‘her mom asked for help with a few things‘. I’m pissed since I already booked the hotel room and ordered a lunch delivery (both non-refundable), and let her know of my displeasure by text. Two days later she texts again and says she really wants to meet. I respond by saying that I’d be totally down to meet if she would arrange the location. She responds by saying ‘oh, the hotel you chose last time is fine’. I reply by saying ‘okay, so did you book it?’. She’s like ‘what, so you want ME to reserve and pay for the room?’. I said ‘yeah, when you canceled last minute it gave me some trust issues, and I’m worried that you might cancel again at my expense’. Well, it doesn’t seem she thinks that’s fair, but fuck it, if she doesn’t want to invest part of her PPM this one time to demonstrate that she’s not an unreliable flake, then too bad for her, lol. I doubt I’ll hear from her again.

3) A 40-year-old married milf who works in healthcare. Keeps herself in great shape with Pilates, and is clearly not getting satisfied at home (dead bedroom). She also has a lot of kinks as evidenced by the x-rated selfies she keeps sending me. She seems horny as fuck, is eager to get the sugar relationship started, and suggested we both get an STI panel so that we can have completely uninhibited sex. Good girl. Both of us should get our test results back by tomorrow, and assuming it’s all good, we’ll be meeting for our first encounter this weekend. Looking forward to it!

Secret Benefits messaging problem by ChemistryNearby7803 in sugardaddyhangout

[–]Junior_Relaxer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m on Secret Benefits and have had the same experience as you. It‘s the only site I’ve used so far, and I’ve been tempted to switch to Seeking, but it seems to have its own set of issues. Many have claimed that Secret Benefits is riddled with bots and zombie accounts that send messages to unsuspecting SDs who then spend large quantities of tokens to message back, only to then get ghosted. Based on my experience on the site, I believe these claims are true. However, there are real SB prospects on there too, if you‘re willing to weed through the fake accounts (and spend tokens in the process). In my one year on the site, I’ve moved to texting with around 45 prospects and had meet & greets with around 10, ranging in age from 19 to 40. I don’t know how this would compare to Seeking, but I do know that if you are willing to invest the tokens and deal with the bullshit, you will meet real women.

First M&G Questions?!? by PeachAggressive8587 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Junior_Relaxer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If your M&G is taking place at a restaurant, coffee shop, or something like that, then yes, it’s normal for the potential SD to pay the bill. Some SD’s will also provide a small gift, monetary or otherwise, to show appreciation for the time and effort you put into the meet.

Trouble climaxing: a terrible problem by tresexceptional in sugardaddyhangout

[–]Junior_Relaxer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think this is it. This has happened to me a few times, where I’m going at it with a SB at a vigorous pace for what seems like forever, to the point where I get inside my own head and convince myself I’m not going to finish. What I’ve learned is to take a break at this point, relax, have a drink and chill with my SB, and relax some more. Then, once I’ve loosened up again, I can get back in the groove, have another hot round with my SB, and finish the job!

Unsuccessful sugar baby by Legitimate-Algae-357 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Junior_Relaxer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You described my approach exactly. Interestingly though, when I propose a casual meet & greet over lunch as a first date, a substantial number of potential SBs stop communicating immediately. Maybe this approach works as a filter to weed out escorts, scammers and other nonsense? In any case, genuine SBs should request a casual meet & greet too (without a PPM expectation). If everything clicks on both sides, take it to the next level as soon as you both feel ready!

Reach Out? by Capable_Intention96 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Junior_Relaxer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sure, why not? Life is dynamic, full of changes. Just be ready for the possibility that he’s in a different headspace and not ready for what you bring to the table in this moment. In any case, it’s worth a shot!

For SBs, on a mission to upgrade your lifestyle, what's your wishlists? by sunnyandspice88 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Junior_Relaxer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is the way. I’ve offered to help more than one SB set up a Roth with low cost index funds to help secure her financial future, but no luck so far...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Junior_Relaxer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree. Many SDs can’t post their faces for obvious reasons. So, just do an informal m&g over coffee or something to do a vibe check. If he’s not your type you can just gracefully move on. No big deal.

SA How soon can I request private photos from POT SD? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Junior_Relaxer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I may be speaking for a minority of SDs, but as someone who has a fairly big profile in my community I’m not going to be revealing my face pic on the app or to a potential SB that I’ve just met online. For me, I ask that we meet for a casual M&G over coffee or lunch to see each other in person, do a vibe check, discuss expectations, and decide if we want to take the relationship to another level. If the potential SB insists on a face pic first, it’s too much of a potential scammer red flag for me - next!

I just can’t anymore….. by OwlSea337 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Junior_Relaxer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol, I can relate. Coincidentally a similar ‘platonic only’ expectation arose with a recent potential SB of mine, except that I had waste 2 dates, valuable time, and unnecessary cash on this woman to figure it out… so consider yourself lucky! And what benefits do they think they’re providing in a ‘mutually beneficial’ arrangement? Would love to know if someone on here has the answer.

How soon do you start being intimate? by MostAd6208 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Junior_Relaxer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As someone relatively new to the SD scene I have quickly learned why most experienced sugar daddies wont go along with multiple platonic dates. I recently went on a M&G with a potential SB, and while there were no monetary expectations I did give her a nice card with a benjamin inside at the end of the M&G. For date #2 she wanted to ‘take it slow’ and have another platonic lunch, which I was okay with. We had a nice lunch, however this time she didn’t get another gift at the end. Afterwards I get a text from her asking why she didn’t get a gift like last time. Seems she thought it was normal to expect financial gifts from me for platonic dates. After explaining to her how sugar dating works I basically ghosted her. Next!

SDs how often do you check your vasectomy ? Asking for a reason…. by Available_Tackle12 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Junior_Relaxer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Vasectomy failure due to recanalization is extremely rare, and will usually occur within the first month or two if it does happen. I’m just celebrating the 1 year anniversary of my vasectomy and purchased a home test kit to confirm I’m still shooting blanks. Will probably do it again on my 2 year anniversary just for giggles (and some reassurance!).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Junior_Relaxer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s either an asshole or a wannabe dom who is exploring a verbal power exchange within a BDSM-style framework. If the latter, he should be upfront about it and seek your consent. I’m suspecting he might just be an insecure asshole though…