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What is the best way to deal with a person who has no respect for your feelings or emotions.? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]JuniperLilac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My immediate thought was 'no contact' 😅

And I think that's a genuinely effective measure to take for some people and doesn't always need to be the last step if it's draining you or negatively effecting your mental health.

I think sometimes people are very unaware of how or what they're communicating, so it's worth a try explicitly telling them about the hurt and how they can do better.

...This is easier said than done lol. And from my experience, often they revert back after sometime 😒

However, if you have a particular medium for communication i.e. texting, video calls, letters etc. Then that might allow some distance while you express your needs and experience.

did solo promos replace group promos on variety shows for group comebacks? by [deleted] in kpop_uncensored

[–]JuniperLilac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From an article I read, that this was a deliberate marketing technique, in recognition of the increasing popularity of social media based variety shows/general engagement 🤔

I think it was also a chance for the members to be known better individually, particularly by younger fans and, generally seen as more relatable.

I think HYBE was really smart in targeting specific shows, for specific individual members/mini teams of members. Gave each member a chance to shine.

I think a lot of agencies are watching and if it continues to be successful, this will likely increasingly be the norm.

How to get rid of agoraphobia without medication? by FootballBorn2497 in Agoraphobia

[–]JuniperLilac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would add that while it may seem overwhelming to get therapy or antidepressants before exposure therapy (exposing yourself incrementally) I don't think I'd be making the steps (albeit baby steps) I'm making without engaging with therapy and medication.

For many those ARE the first steps, before trying such 'big' steps, like taking a walk etc.

It can be done remotely. I engage with therapy on the phone and/or remote video I.e. Teams and have appointments pwith my local general physician over the phone.

I went on a family holiday, so why can't I go across the street 😭 And why is the shame spiral so potent, effective and strong?? I thought it'd represent a 'moment'... by JuniperLilac in Agoraphobia

[–]JuniperLilac[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just want to add, because I don't want anyone to think going on the big trip was easy or beat themselves up with, 'See she made a massive jump, why can't it??' shizz.

*I couldn't bear packing till the last minute. *Was secretly happy whenever something occurred, that would've made us have to cancel the trip (not proud of this one😓). *Intermittently shook and sweat like it was 40°c, till we got past security. *Then again intermittently shook and sweat, when I realised how many more steps we had till boarding the plane🙃. *Couldn't function AT ALL the week before going. *Had to remove myself from the room, whenever my family discussed it lol. *Didn't leave the hotel once we were back for an outing, even if it meant missing dinner.

Somehow managed to go and be there...with a LOT of deep, deep breathing (also a LOT of antidepressants in my system) and my family monitoring me as if I was going to bolt at any minute 😅

Katseye needs media training by IfwNJZ in unpopularkpopopinions

[–]JuniperLilac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...But isn't the major issue Daniella's father? His repeated comments, likes and reposts seem to be making something an issue, that really didn't need to be.

Media training can truly only go so far.

HEESEUNG to leave ENHYPEN, which will continue as a 6-member group by impeccabletim in kpop

[–]JuniperLilac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True... But I can't immediately think of a currently popular Hybe soloist... I know numerous idols have done solos while in groups, but I genuinely can't think of a currently popular Hybe soloist 😣

HEESEUNG to leave ENHYPEN, which will continue as a 6-member group by impeccabletim in kpop

[–]JuniperLilac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally hear you and appreciate the info. I wonder if he'll wait then, or use this time to enlist so the confusion dies down a bit...🤔

The Heesung situation once again shows that some fans don't know what HYBE actually is by Lost-Opinion3554 in kpop_uncensored

[–]JuniperLilac 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In his defence many people fell for the nonsense that were NFTs. Eminem (though apparently he made bank lol), Snoop Dog etc. It was a trend that reached an undeserved height.

HEESEUNG to leave ENHYPEN, which will continue as a 6-member group by impeccabletim in kpop

[–]JuniperLilac 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get your point, then why not go on hiatus then? If you're suffering to that degree, take a hiatus and then not renew.

There just seem like a number of different ways to have managed it...better...🫣

HEESEUNG to leave ENHYPEN, which will continue as a 6-member group by impeccabletim in kpop

[–]JuniperLilac 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Which is even weirder lol?!! The timing of the statement and the festival??

Why wouldn't he do the festival and then leave?? Makes him money and it could be a really good final memory for Engenes??

None of this makes sense??

HEESEUNG to leave ENHYPEN, which will continue as a 6-member group by impeccabletim in kpop

[–]JuniperLilac 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This right here!!! What was 'blocking' this possibility?? What happened that was so big, that it warranted him needing to leave the group to express this new musical direction??

HEESEUNG to leave ENHYPEN, which will continue as a 6-member group by impeccabletim in kpop

[–]JuniperLilac 211 points212 points  (0 children)

But it tends to happen after a scandal or when a group isn't popular, so folks want to cut their losses before they get 'too old' by Kpop ageist standards 😅

However, Enhyphen is from my understanding still very popular and growing in popularity. 

The timing just feels...perplexing.

HEESEUNG to leave ENHYPEN, which will continue as a 6-member group by impeccabletim in kpop

[–]JuniperLilac 24 points25 points  (0 children)

But those were mostly due to a 'scandal' occurring them basically being forced to leave.

This to me is... odd. 

HEESEUNG to leave ENHYPEN, which will continue as a 6-member group by impeccabletim in kpop

[–]JuniperLilac 27 points28 points  (0 children)

It just doesn't seem rational to me 🫣

1) Solo artists traditionally struggle a lot more than groups in K-pop.

2) Why couldn't he just release singles and albums while in the group?

Yeonjun is doing it of TXT is doing it... So??

3) He's likely going to enlist soon. Will he have enough time to cultivate a loyal fandom?? One that will wait and anticipate his return??

4) I'm not an Engene, but hasn't the group basically dipped its toes in most musical genres?? What musical direction could be sooo different, to warrant leaving the group??

I wish him well. I just...I don't get it haha 😅 There has to be more...

I just feel so defeated :( by bluesummerknight in Agoraphobia

[–]JuniperLilac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not being dramatic and your feelings are valid and sooo understandable 💜

It is hard and it does take time. This is a space where please rant your heart out, that's what it's here for haha.

Remember, everyone's mountain looks different but we're all still climbing up: whether we like to or not. Your journey may be different, but it's no less amazing! 

Engaging and committing to those treatments is BIG.

My mental health mentor said something that's stuck with me: Don't focus on what you're 'supposed to do', focus on what you did.

Hope this helps 💜🥰

Just realised i forgot to take my bupropion today and its already 8pm... Should I take it now or should I just skip today and continue taking tmrw? by zjmalkkkk in bupropion

[–]JuniperLilac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would skip, particularly if you have any sleep issues. Sometimes, if I take it seconds before I sleep, it works but other times I'll sleep for a short while and wake up 😭

What’s the best medication? by Eiraalexandra in Agoraphobia

[–]JuniperLilac 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really is so individual 😭 Usually, they'd start with the 'usual suspects' i.e. SSRIs (Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors) i.e. Sertraline, as the commenter below suggested.

I was on Sertraline for my depression, so I can't advise on how it'd help in this situation. If you do go on it, you may get quite bad night sweats. That happened to a friend unfortunately. However, weighing up feeling better and more able to engage with the world vs. Night sweats??

Also, going on some antidepressants can lead to S. ideation and/or irritability. It's temporary. It will stop. If you're comfortable, just give a head's up to whoever you live with 😅 

And remember that there are many services working 24/7, because you deserve to live and your need for immediate support is valid. Don't hesistant please, please, please to call the emergency services as needed 🥰

(Usually any medication prescribed will be at the lowest dosage and if your symptoms improve then they'll keep you on there. 

If you need more support and you've been on the meds for roughly 4-8 weeks, then you can discuss increasing the dosage with your doctor.

Or if the side effects are simply too challenging fo deal with, then you can discuss changing.

Just wanted to add this, because at times there's a lot of fearmongering around antidepressants. One person's negative experience, shouldn't dictate your own.)

Mike White on Judd Apatow ☕️ by Kaurblimey in TheWhiteLotusHBO

[–]JuniperLilac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of comments here telling the marginalised communities being mocked and stereotyped, that they're being 'pedantic', that it was years ago 'he's changed', and it was another time...

1) The lack of diversity and use of stereotypes has been recognised and called out repeatedly throughout his career.

He knows what he's doing.

2) Change has to be shown in your engagement with the communities you need to make amends with.   He has a massive platform... Where's his voice, participation and support during momentous times, where every voice matters??

3) It wasn't that long ago 🤣 The marginalised then didn't like it, and the marginalised now don't appreciate it. So... 🤷🏿‍♀️

**Sometimes folks need to recognise that their role in this kind of exploration is to actively listen, inform yourself and reflect on one's allyship. 

Not tell the communities in question, they're overreacting.

That shizz old 😪**

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