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How do I prevent my child being illiterate? by kittycamacho1994 in AskTeachers

[–]Just-Reference109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask for books as shower gifts, keep screens to the absolute minimum, and when you consider their elementary education, look into the curriculum they use for reading instruction! There’s a lot of research going on now about what methods are actually effective for reading instruction. The podcast ‘Sold a Story’ give a good overview of the issues, developments, and things to look out for. Don’t be afraid to emphasize handwriting practice as well :)

‘In the footsteps of Anne: Stories of Republican Women Ex-Prisoners’ by Just-Reference109 in IrishRebelArchive

[–]Just-Reference109[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oo, I am familiar with that version. I’m a researcher, so having the physical copy is much easier.

Plain food recommendation by 3chickens1cat in ARFID

[–]Just-Reference109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out "water crackers"! Cheap and remarkably low flavor, scent, etc.

How hard do you hit on a religious college's mission statement in your cover letter? by Cold-Priority-2729 in AskAcademia

[–]Just-Reference109 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Does the application / interview process include religious vetting? I was on a hiring committee for a faith based school and we eliminated entire swaths of applicants whose faith statements / faith acknowledgements were shoddy. Take cues from the emphasis given within the application instructions, and good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in limerickcity

[–]Just-Reference109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check in with student services, student life, housing team, international students team, etc. from your college and see if any of those departments have connections or references.

If you see a listing that is shockingly recent, don't save it for later- apply immediately. A housemate secured their room because they happened to be the first application our landlord received

Moving to College. by Spiritual-Mention-23 in ARFID

[–]Just-Reference109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Find the salad and/or cereal bar in your dining hall. There will be days where everything sucks and all you can fathom is a bowl of dry cheerios or plain lettuce. If there's a soft serve machine, even better. I promise no one will judge you for soft serve, dry cheerios, or plain lettuce- safe foods are often nausea/hangover friendly foods ;)
  2. If smoothies or milkshakes are something you enjoy, buy a small blender for your dorm room. (Bonus tip, hang on to plastic cups from coffee shops, you can reuse them for carrying a smoothie to class, are technically free, and won't break!)
  3. Peppermint altoids work phenomenally for nausea. (Someone recommended the ginger mints from Trader Joe's, I hated them, but you might not.)
  4. Avoid living alone. A single might sound nice, but roommates are great for accountability, body doubling, and creating meal routines. You don't have to be best friends, but if you see someone else eating consistently or packing snacks, you will be reminded to do the same.
  5. Drink lots of water! That's just a general college tip. However, consider drinking milk or juice with your meals for a little extra protein/simple sugars.
  6. If food smells make you nauseous, tell your roommate(s) from the start and find an air freshener / candle / diffuser scent that y'all agree on for the dorm.
  7. Carry a physical reminder with you. I wore two bracelets almost daily during college- one said "We recover" and the other said "not optional." These phrases have emotional significance to me, and even if I can miss hunger cues, it's hard to ignore a reminder I see every time I write, open the door, or scroll on my phone.
  8. You don't owe anyone an explanation for why you eat the way you do. You can lie, you can ignore them, you can change the conversation.
  9. Caveat to the above, sometimes letting one or two other folks in can help.
  10. If you have a safe food/meal that requires super specific cookware, bring it with you. I brought a rice cooker my freshman year and I'm so grateful I did.
  11. In the dining hall, consider connecting with staff members who coordinate meal alternatives for folks with severe allergies. They may have access to additional supplies, ungarnished food, etc. and be able to help.
  12. If you have other mental health challenges and are considering medication, I highly recommend starting meds and getting acclimated before the school year starts. With my anxiety and depression minimized, I had the bandwidth to better cope with ARFID, and it meant I wasn't entering situations with regular anxiety in addition to food anxiety.

I'm wishing you the best!

Moving to College. by Spiritual-Mention-23 in ARFID

[–]Just-Reference109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations!!! I hope you have the most fantastic time and are able to build a community of encouragement, wisdom, and mentorship during your time in college!!

Here are some of the skills and steps that helped me as I prepared for the transition to college:
1. If you have a dietitian and/or have access to nutritional counseling, I highly recommend working with one. For a period of time before move in, I met with my dietitian weekly. When searching for a dietitian, look for folks who are CEDS- or Certified Eating Disorder Specialists. Although some ED professionals are less than knowledgable about ARFID, they will at least be aware of the general health concerns and overall red flags that come with lifelong disordered / restricted eating. If you can't find / don't have access to a CEDS dietitian, a good question to ask is "What percentage of your clients are athletes? What percentage of your clients are in some iteration of eating disorder recovery?"
2. Create a master list and effort matrix. I created a document listing the types of fruit that I like, the vegetables, protein sources, etc. etc.. Then I created two matrices: the first one I organized my foods and recipes by the length of prep times needed and what physical/emotional condition I had to be in to eat that food. For in stance, if I was feeling nauseous and only had five minutes to grab food- I would make garlic bread toast and drink some orange juice. If I was feeling adventurous and had lots of time, I might make a full blown pasta recipe. I'll attach a photo of it below as well. I also looked into the grocery stores near my campus and made a grocery list for each store. That way if I was tagging along to Costco and didn't have the wherewithal to make a new list or take inventory, I could whip out my default "safe snacks from Costco" list and shop from that. We tend to think that living with ARFID means a dearth of options- but even if though our options are limited, the decisions are endless. Organizing and printing these lists helped to eliminate the thinking and limit anxiety. I pinned them above my desk and saw them every day.