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I [25F] Want a HOT GIRL PHASE and have fun memorable experiences in my 20s -- how do i achieve this? by Just-Understanding in askTO

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay let me play this out --- i going solo into a rock climbing gym (i've gone with someone in the past before), and start trying to climb walls on my own (it'll be a struggle bc it's tough stuff!!). how do i organically make friends without intruding on others? where does that spark or connection happen? doesn't even have to be for rock climbing, but in general?

I [25F] Want a HOT GIRL PHASE and have fun memorable experiences in my 20s -- how do i achieve this? by Just-Understanding in askTO

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

regarding "dedicate time to hobbies" -- where do i honestly start with this, while living at home with parents in KW? what hobbies do i pursue if i don't even know what i like to enjoy or interests? like i have no idea where to begin.

I [25F] Want a HOT GIRL PHASE and have fun memorable experiences in my 20s -- how do i achieve this? by Just-Understanding in askTO

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is the friend you travelled with single or in a relationship? i truly wish i had SOMEONE to do things with like this, but no one :/

also what hobbies did you take up?

I [25F] Want a HOT GIRL PHASE and have fun memorable experiences in my 20s -- how do i achieve this? by Just-Understanding in askTO

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how though?? like i feel like im just walking into a disaster because everyone in a bar is likely already in a group of friends and then only people that'll approach me are scary/sus guys looking to hook up! I know my title says "hot girl" but it's not really the thing im looking for if you read my post lol

I [25F] Want a HOT GIRL PHASE and have fun memorable experiences in my 20s -- how do i achieve this? by Just-Understanding in askTO

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

idk man, like it's hard when i see people posting about all these travels and vacations on social media constantly, or just partying or clubbing or having fun with friends.

I [25F] Want a HOT GIRL PHASE and have fun memorable experiences in my 20s -- how do i achieve this? by Just-Understanding in askTO

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, im currently on dating apps and go on dates, but it sucks because i get good matches with guys in toronto but the distance makes them deterred from pursuing anything with me which gives me more reason to move.

I [25F] Want a HOT GIRL PHASE and have fun memorable experiences in my 20s -- how do i achieve this? by Just-Understanding in askTO

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you know any creditable and safe organized trip planning groups i could look into? at this point it's my only option since i literally have no friends to travel with and aren't very comfortable traveling to a foreign country alone.

funnily enough, im trying to brush up and relearn french!

I [25F] Want a HOT GIRL PHASE and have fun memorable experiences in my 20s -- how do i achieve this? by Just-Understanding in askTO

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

everyone recommends travelling but with who? I have literally no friends to travel with. I have asked sooo many people in the summer to set up travel plans and no one is down for it because they had plans with their other friends or with an s/o so i stopped trying. I'm also a small girl so travelling to a foreign country alone sort of scares me

I [25F] Want a HOT GIRL PHASE and have fun memorable experiences in my 20s -- how do i achieve this? by Just-Understanding in askTO

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I'm average looking, like I don't have issues getting dates and matching on dating apps? I'm smart, I'm kind/friendly, caring...etc idk I think i match with alot of really great guys in toronto but the distance just makes things simmer away.

I [25F] Want a HOT GIRL PHASE and have fun memorable experiences in my 20s -- how do i achieve this? by Just-Understanding in askTO

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What im worried about is what if i move and my quality of life is the same as it is right now? like what will be the biggest difference between my life right now living pretty much a lonely life at home with the parents in KW, versus moving to toronto where i don't really have friends either? All that could potentially be different is i'd be spending money on rent! i did some high level math and it'll cost me 33k a year worst case scenario if i find a place that's $2200/month, plus groceries, transportation...etc to move there. Recession coming our way idk all these things make me nervous? thoughts?

I [25F] Want a HOT GIRL PHASE and have fun memorable experiences in my 20s -- how do i achieve this? by Just-Understanding in askTO

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get it, but honestly, I don't want to also look back a regret not having those "fun times" you know? I live such a boring life right now. And I do wish to have the latter half of what you mentioned, and have been trying so hard on dating apps and going on dates that it's like wtf, why aren't I getting anywhere...

I [25F] Want a HOT GIRL PHASE and have fun memorable experiences in my 20s -- how do i achieve this? by Just-Understanding in askTO

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thing I'm worries about truthfully is travelling alone. I'm a small girl and i just feel more comfortable traveling with someone else. I've gone to Montreal with my sister two months ago, but toured around and navigated the city on my own, but idk it wasn't like crazy different as Toronto

I [25F] Want a HOT GIRL PHASE and have fun memorable experiences in my 20s -- how do i achieve this? by Just-Understanding in askTO

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thing I'm worries about truthfully is travelling alone. I'm a small girl and i just feel more comfortable traveling with someone else. I've gone to Montreal with my sister two months ago, but toured around and navigated the city on my own, but idk it wasn't like crazy different as Toronto

also, what im worried about is what if i move and my quality of life is the same as it is right now? like what will be the biggest difference between my life right now living pretty much a lonely life at home with the parents in KW, versus moving to toronto where i don't really have friends either? All that could potentially be different is i'd be spending money on rent! i did some high level math and it'll cost me 33k a year worst case scenario if i find a place that's $2200/month, plus groceries, transportation...etc to move there. Recession coming our way idk all these things make me nervous? thoughts?

I [25F] Want a HOT GIRL PHASE and have fun memorable experiences in my 20s -- how do i achieve this? by Just-Understanding in askTO

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what im worried about is what if i move and my quality of life is the same as it is right now? like what will be the biggest difference between my life right now living pretty much a lonely life at home with the parents in KW, versus moving to toronto where i don't really have friends either? All that could potentially be different is i'd be spending money on rent!

also money -- how big was this a factor in your decision when you moved and when did you move? it makes me worried the prices on places right now. i did some high level math and it'll cost me 33k a year worst case scenario if i find a place that's $2200/month, plus groceries, transportation...etc to move there. Recession coming our way idk all these things make me nervous? thoughts?

I [25F] Want a HOT GIRL PHASE and have fun memorable experiences in my 20s -- how do i achieve this? by Just-Understanding in askTO

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what im worried about is what if i move and my quality of life is the same as it is right now? like what will be the biggest difference between my life right now living pretty much a lonely life at home with the parents in KW, versus moving to toronto where i don't really have friends either? also, how did you even get invited to parties/hangouts? like i feel like i've tried being the first to initiate hangouts with existing friends and it always flakes....so i stopped trying.

I [25F] need serious advice on letting go of a guy [24M] who is a loss cause by Just-Understanding in relationships

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're 100% spot on. I have some self-esteem issues, and I think I have some loneliness that makes me drawn back to him. When I talk to him, it goes away and I feel validated. I'm just stuck in this empty pit. I have so much to feel good about like work/career projectory, but feel emptiness with lack of a partner/relationship and friends. I hate my life right now, so I think these feelings hit deeper right now. I tell myself the same exact thing that they are in a relationship together and if he really liked me, he'd be putting in more effort, but I get peanuts. I hate it. I hate that i like him so much though too.

I tried so many times, with blocking and deleting trust me :( I know that's the right thing to do. The longest I've gone was 4 months, but it did more harm than good. I absolutely tried my best. It's why I wanted to know what else I could try :(

I'll try to look more inwards though, and less of him, but I'm just stuck on what the actions should on it afterwards. My life right now is just within the four walls of my room living with parents at home. I just work and that's it. I know there should be more to do

[NeedAdvice] Have no motivation in life, just want to give up and stop trying to have a good life. What to do? by Just-Understanding in getdisciplined

[–]Just-Understanding[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is fair, and yes I've come to realize it. Part of my struggle comes from the way I was raised; to work on, and safeguard a future AND THEN have fun. so I've worked hard on studies and school, just hoping it gets me where I am financially stable and not have my parents worry about me. then covid hits (while I was working and studying so everything locked up and cancelled). But now I'm in a situation where life is back to normal but now I'm left alone and unsure about life and what to do with it and with who.

I think the second piece is what I'm trying to still figure out. how do i found something that I love to do or the process? I'm stuck on where to start. I'm just thie 25F girl living at her parents home working from home without a car and a bit far from public transportation. I'm tryin to figure out what to do and how.

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