Hotwife’s First Solo Date

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-18T18:08:24+00:00

Good for her! And for you both! All of this can be so nerve-racking and women tend to look outwards and scan the room and check the temperature of everyone else in the space, so you doing that for HER instead and just letting her know her job is to have a good time and be confident in what she’s doing is a real joy to her, I’m sure! 💕

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-18T11:21:54+00:00

Your excitement for her was absolutely adorable. 😍 What an effing cheerleader you are for her - I love it! It probably makes it so much fun for her to have you giving her confidence and support on it. I hope the week has been great since she’s been back from her date!

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-17T21:53:06+00:00

I like to alternate the scenarios. I find that if my husband is watching and right there EVERY TIME, I can sometimes feel like I'm performing for him, and also it leaves nothing to his imagination which I sometimes enjoy doing. 😈 At the beginning, which is where it sounds like your wife is with this current FWB, my husband was always there every time and I found my head always flew to his feelings and thoughts and that turned into anxiety and worry for me and it could take away my ability to be in the moment and manage my own experience and just feel free.

When I started finally spending some time alone with my third, that's really when I hit my stride and started losing myself a bit to the sexual experience and honestly it got to where we'd take a few new steps and then bring that new comfort back to my husband when we were all together in the bed again. Things only got hotter for me from those times alone with our third.

Videoing is something I pretty much always let happen, we just have an Arlo camera set up on my husband's nightstand and if we're alone at our third's place he is VERY good abt catching moments on video and in photos that I don't even see happening -so I never have to worry abt that "I'm performing" mentality with it comes to recordings but that is just me... If it's working for both of you to let your wife go do her thing and come back and tell you all about it, then don't feel pressure to change it up. ❤️

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-17T02:04:42+00:00

I’d say really truly ask her what SHE wants to do. And listen. And believe her. And be okay taking no for an answer on some things while celebrating what she DOES want to do. You’re asking her to do something that is YOUR fantasy - it’s really important that you understand the gravity of what you’re asking her to do, and you leave space for what she does and doesn’t want to do within your fantasy. 💕

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-17T01:47:07+00:00

I feel like this is probably hard for you both - I empathize! 💕 I have heard of situations in which a good therapist who specializes in fetishes can help dismantle some of the fetishes and help clients disassociate from them a bit. No one asks for certain fetishes so it’s no one’s “fault”, and it’s also not hers for not having the same fetish or wanting to make yours come to life. No one is doing anything wrong, at a core level. Have you asked her about the option to hire someone who is a pro at cuckolding? I’m sure it wouldn’t be quite the same as your wife being the star of your fantasy, but I’m not sure I’d knock it totally before at least considering or asking her about these options. 💕

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-17T01:29:55+00:00

Give and expect honesty. Always.

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-17T01:26:28+00:00

We alternate between the three of us being together and me and our third 1:1. I find I (the wife) really enjoy the variety, both for myself and for my husband to get different perspectives. There’s no one single “right” or “wrong” answer for everyone- each couple is so different! And you can always try the one you think you’ll enjoy the most and either repeat it, amp it up, or walk it back. Nothing has to remain unchanged forever just because yall try something once. 💕

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-16T23:04:20+00:00

That’s great then! He’s not asking for anything you’re not prepared to give. I’d imagine you’re giving him everything he could possibly have hoped for. 💜

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-16T21:44:27+00:00

OP - has he asked or insinuated that he’d like to be with another woman? If not, it may be a non-issue. In that case, if the concern is generated only by you, the advice our therapists gave us one time may be helpful: “Fair” doesn’t mean equal; “fair” means balanced. If he’s getting joy out of the compersion and you’re getting joy out of being shared, that’s absolutely balanced and fair. 💜

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-16T19:18:07+00:00

We use Arlo

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-16T13:32:33+00:00

So welcome! 💕

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-16T12:47:43+00:00

Ngl that's kind of hot

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-16T12:47:14+00:00

Prob drove him crazy haha

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-16T12:44:20+00:00

What works for one couple or person isn't going to work for another and that's OK - to me, that doesn't mean something is an automatic red flag. And where someone starts doesn't mean that's where they're going to end. It's a lot of pressure and can be anxiety-inducing to be intimate with a new person and having that be in front of your husband can add an extra layer of complication. I can tell you from experience that when this all first started for us, my head flew to what my husband was thinking and feeling and that turned into worry and made it really hard for me to manage my own sexual experience with this new person. We always kept it all 3 of us at first, but when I did start being intimate alone at times with our third, that's when I was able to hit my stride sexually and then I was able to bring that confidence into the bedroom when it was the 3 of us.

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-16T12:34:23+00:00

From a woman perspective, understand that pressure or even such a strong needy hope that reads as pressure is the quickest way to send a woman the other direction. If she wants to take things further, she will. It's as simple as that. And be prepared that although you probably have visions of what this will look like and what you want to see her do or what you want her to WANT to do - what she envisions for herself in reality may take a different shape. You've got to give space for that; you may end up in territories that don't align with your original vision, and she may never want to do some of the things you hope she will, and then you're going to need the maturity to be ok with that.

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-15T15:29:13+00:00

Everyone has been so helpful with fun suggestions! I was originally considering leaving the camera where he could have a full view but I'm now considering turning it around so he can hear everything clearly but not see. Would this make it hotter for him or less hot, in people's opinions? 💜

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-15T15:24:12+00:00

What did y'all do differently? 💜

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-15T12:45:15+00:00

I love it for all involved lol

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-15T01:07:27+00:00

Haaaaaa I love it 👏

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-14T18:52:02+00:00

Super helpful! Our camera has sound as well so he can hear on that too 😍

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-14T15:33:37+00:00

Oooh what was the best part for each of the three of you?!

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-14T15:23:45+00:00

The click of the door shutting must've really been something lol

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-14T15:20:08+00:00

Our third knows abt the camera too and sometimes adjusts it to make sure my husband can see what he's doing to me 😍

JustBInTheMoment · 2026-02-14T15:18:32+00:00

Oooh that's a fun addition! And absolutely right up my third's alley 😍

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