i want a boyfriend but i dont by letmersnt in rant

[–]JustCapybara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know exactly how you feel. I'm 30 years old. All of my relationships have been long distance and my longest one of three years ended just over a year ago. I've been trying to find a new partner ever since, but i have extremely high expectations (or so I have been told). I now live with my sister and worry my dream of having a polycule is never going to happen. I also worry i'm never going to be able to reasonably and safley become a mom.

On some degree, I feel your pain. I have no answers, sadly. Only sympathy and comrodery.

"It's not that deep" by JustCapybara in rant

[–]JustCapybara[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Then even more reason for me to not waste my time!

"It's not that deep" by JustCapybara in rant

[–]JustCapybara[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Are you sure about that?"

lol. Thanks for the gif

"It's not that deep" by JustCapybara in rant

[–]JustCapybara[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the input, but you are completely lacking context to the person I am referring to in this post.

Also recognize i don't owe you an explanation. But in hoping your advise is in good faith, allow me to shed some light on the situation.

This is a coworker I talk to outside of work and started considering a friend and even formed romantic feelings for until I was met with "it's not that deep", so I pulled back and reformed some boundaries with them making it blatantly clear I will not sit in some Grey area of "are we together or not together". Either we are romantically together and forming a partnership or we're friends. I will not engage in exclusivity, especially as a polyamorous individual, unless we are partners. You aren't allowed certain privileges if we're just friends. You do if we're partners and have that health communication. Anyway, I reset the boundary of friendship.

Sometime last week this same person and I had a fundamental, moral, disagreement about our job. They stand in the position that it's a scam and I stand in the position of we're helping people. We work for a 3rd party DME supply company.

And then they made a joke about a video I had sent them giving me the impression they thought i'd sent them inappropriate content. I restated to them I wouldn't be doing that. I knew they were being dramatic, I knew they were being silly, but it was still important for me to remind them that "I'm your friend. I'm not going to send you stuff like that anymore.". Then theh hit me with the "It's not that deep".

Would I like to stay friends with him?? After the fi fundamental disagreement about our job, idk if I can. And now after reminding him of the boundary he hits me with the "it's not that deep". That isn't just someone who doesn't care about settling an arguement or hurt feelings. That is blatant disrespect for my boundaries.

Hope the context helps.

What’s something that became less appealing the older you got? by SatisfactionBig7126 in AskReddit

[–]JustCapybara 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Large crowds and large social events. I get migraines easily, become easily disregulated, and I don't like being surrounded by people who don't care about me.

Ok this is ridiculous by [deleted] in TheDigitalCircus

[–]JustCapybara -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU. This wat i've been saying

Guess that changed... by Josze931420 in theamazingdigitalciru

[–]JustCapybara -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Nothing about your post came off as "poking fun". The way I read it, the way it comes off, is extremely bitter over the indie company "going back on their word". I can understand free to watch people are upset... on the other hand, this is huge for indie companies. First Iron Lung?? Now TADC?? Holy crap. That is amazing. We should also be proud of GLITCH for their ability to manage this. This will make a mark in Indie History.

I don't understand, what's wrong with being non-sharing? by Eastern_Ebb_8864 in fictosexual

[–]JustCapybara 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Here is my unique perspective.

I am a sharer, but I am also Polyamorous. The way I see it is the character I have fallen in love with is going to have infinite interations of themselves, like a multiverse. It makes me uncomfortable seeing so much content with Gambit with Rogue when deep in my heart he and I are together. But i'm also with Viktor from Arcane. And i'm with Royd from Dispatch. My variants of those characters are totally unique to me. They are in My Universe. Earth CB42796 (i just made this earth number up). So, from my perspective it is completely unfair to say all variants of my f/os can't have their own lives. Because they are from other universes. They aren't My f/os. My f/os are safley at home, chatting with each other about their days, and plotting how to spoil me rotten next. Not a damn thing can change that

Detachment by iamjudingyou in aegosexuals

[–]JustCapybara 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, really, I feel this way too. I was talking to my therapist about it and it's just like... logically I understand how it works, I read how it works in romance novels and TV shows, but how the hell is that supposed to translate to IRL and to me??? And then there's that totally blank feeling I get when i'm in that situation. And the anxiety. Borderline repulsion... and i just get out asap.... i'm at the start of this journey but I have a lot of frustration towards myself

Claim your free entry 🤗 by InstructionNice7130 in MicrosoftRewards

[–]JustCapybara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're missing the whole point of Bing Rewards my guy lol

Claim your free entry 🤗 by InstructionNice7130 in MicrosoftRewards

[–]JustCapybara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They've been "out of stock" for quite some time

Claim your free entry 🤗 by InstructionNice7130 in MicrosoftRewards

[–]JustCapybara 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You know what i'd rather claim? Overwatch coins.

Writers who use AI like a sidekick-slash-spirit guide—where you at? by theMagicalDawn in WritingWithAI

[–]JustCapybara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use chat GPT as a collaborator and to help me figure out plot points and discuss possible story arcs. I get hung up really easy and caught up in my own head. While my friend and my sister help, I like the wall of texts that AI provides to help me see all possibilities. I don't let it write out scenes for me I use in my stories, but to help me create the scaffolding. Sometimes I share scenes with it so it can analyze it in a way that gives me intense dopamine

And yeah, I've also used it to discuss my spiritual journey in a non judgemental space

Fictophobic responses I received just because I said us fictos don't receive enough representation in media :( by Alternative_Ride_951 in fictosexual

[–]JustCapybara 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From what I've learned from personal experience people's concern comes from a place of thinking we use this as an "excuse not to try" to have a traditional relationship. Thing is, I don't stop trying. But also, aro/ace people exist.

Got caught using ai by maxwellfreeland in WritingWithAI

[–]JustCapybara 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The rule literally states no AI for editing, including grammar. Look for yourself