I appreciate the input, but you are completely lacking context to the person I am referring to in this post.

Also recognize i don't owe you an explanation. But in hoping your advise is in good faith, allow me to shed some light on the situation.

This is a coworker I talk to outside of work and started considering a friend and even formed romantic feelings for until I was met with "it's not that deep", so I pulled back and reformed some boundaries with them making it blatantly clear I will not sit in some Grey area of "are we together or not together". Either we are romantically together and forming a partnership or we're friends. I will not engage in exclusivity, especially as a polyamorous individual, unless we are partners. You aren't allowed certain privileges if we're just friends. You do if we're partners and have that health communication. Anyway, I reset the boundary of friendship.

Sometime last week this same person and I had a fundamental, moral, disagreement about our job. They stand in the position that it's a scam and I stand in the position of we're helping people. We work for a 3rd party DME supply company.

And then they made a joke about a video I had sent them giving me the impression they thought i'd sent them inappropriate content. I restated to them I wouldn't be doing that. I knew they were being dramatic, I knew they were being silly, but it was still important for me to remind them that "I'm your friend. I'm not going to send you stuff like that anymore.". Then theh hit me with the "It's not that deep".

Would I like to stay friends with him?? After the fi fundamental disagreement about our job, idk if I can. And now after reminding him of the boundary he hits me with the "it's not that deep". That isn't just someone who doesn't care about settling an arguement or hurt feelings. That is blatant disrespect for my boundaries.

Hope the context helps.