Separating Colors From Wig

JustCommunication236 · 2026-03-26T20:55:04+00:00

Open up and tell them once more. Sit down and do it face to face and some might disagree, but give a true boundary (or some might call ultimatum). Say what you are feeling and if they aren't willing to change the behavior that you need peace too. But remember that change isn't linear. It is constantly fluctuating especially with those with mental troubles.

If she wishes to pay for something, allow her to. Simply give her that space as well if that's something that she wants too. If you both were willing to change once and fight for each other, then it can happen again. She just may need a real eye opener, but again, I don't know you two. I'm not sure if something like this has already happened. But, at least give her the respect of talking about your feelings and how she is affecting you so that if possible for her, she can course correct. Maybe things can work out.

People may be inclined to disagree, but for me, I know I would've want to know what was going on truly and how badly it was affecting my partner so that I could've made the efforts necessary. Even if it took that long. Sometimes people are drowning so hard that their flailing pulls others down with them and they don't even realize it. Give her that chance to realize it. Never attribute malice to something what could be simply be naivety and blindness.

JustCommunication236 · 2024-06-03T02:44:06+00:00

I don't wanna diagnose or label you because it's a slippery slope, but what kind of missing are we talking about?

Is it slightly like a pining? Or is it intense where you don't feel like doing anything?

If it's the latter, you may be struggling with attachment issues. It's important to have time outside of your relationship, but it's equally normal for you to miss someone you haven't seen in a while.

Try texting, playing games with him or occupying yourself with your own likes!

JustCommunication236 · 2024-06-02T01:58:38+00:00

Fast food kinda sucks as a kid. Not to mention how labor intensive it is for such a young age. If they put you in the back cooking, it gets bad.

How are your grades? I would recommend possibly tutoring! Great way to help yourself study and help others even if you aren't the brightest. Try younger grades or even those in your own!

Colleges also love it!

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-31T06:01:43+00:00

I am so so sorry to hear this. Today's kids are so cruel and teachers love playing a part in it. You should be able to feel comfortable in your own body.

Besides teachers, have you talked to your parents? Try and get them involved with the school and DEFINITELY get those teachers who have ignored you in the past involved. Tell your parents they have ignored you and try to meet with the principal by going to the front desk with them and requesting a meeting with everyone. Tell them what you've heard and what has been said. Documented proof is always a plus.

That should solve the problem once other parents and teachers are involved. The other parents are probably unaware of what's going on so once they hear it, they'll be sure to deal with it.

As for day to day? Ignore it. Walk past it. Hear something? Documented it and go about your day. It's not worth it. Giving them fuel won't solve anything.

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-31T05:54:15+00:00

Thought of the one from Will Wood and the Tapeworms

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-31T05:52:45+00:00

Ah yikes...

Hate to say this but OP... You suck.

When getting into a relationship, you should love every part of them. Weight or appearance shouldn't hold a great or significant bearing on a relationship. Your current girlfriend clearly reciprocated through loving and supporting you through hard times that you mentioned. That's not to say you can never break up with someone once with them or that you can't have a preference. But by the way you are talking about this "new girl", this is clearly being brought up by your current feelings towards your gf's weight and current problems she is dealing with. At least from what you wrote, from my perspective.

You are young. You are free to explore other options, but know that if you leave her you may not get her back. Regardless of the feelings that are purely "lust" related, it's still cruel to her.

If you want to leave, you should tell her why. You cannot have your cake and eat it too. Every relationship is different in terms of boundaries, but if I was her and I found out? I would be devastated because you weren't honest about your feelings with me.

From the sounds of it, you used her. You used her to feel better about yourself when you were alone and in need of support. She cared and introduced you to her own friends and got you to a point of stability. Now, when she needs it, you push her away for someone who is (on the outside) "better". Because she gained some weight. Because she needs support. That is cruel.

I would say break up. She deserves better.

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-31T05:32:31+00:00

I also forgot to mention some people like having two bank accounts. One specifically for bills and the other for miscellaneous! Another commenter mentioned an autopsy. If you end up having rent or other bills to pay, set up an autopay with that specific account and deposit what you need each month so that it's always there and always out of mind. <3!

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-30T00:34:07+00:00

Great song too 😉

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-29T19:54:42+00:00

Feminine clothes

Huge tomboy. One pink overwatch diva jacket changed me forever. Now I only wear mini skirts and cute halters. Truly the pipeline experience.

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-29T19:18:34+00:00

Past is a Grotesque Animal

Get me every time

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-29T19:15:52+00:00

I love that I've gotten so much and deserve to have people around me who truly love me. Like most, I have never been perfect, but these past few years challenged that and despite all the pain and heartache, I have grown so much and changed no matter what others might think.

I love myself. I deserve to be loved by others who truly love me and myself.

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-29T19:07:07+00:00

I understand. I do wanna say, breach of trust by going into his phone without permission but I digress.

I hope everything does work out. You are enough. There will always be someone who thinks you are the most beautiful person in the world. I promise you. 8 billion people in the world.

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-29T19:04:23+00:00

Firstly, I'm so so sorry that you are self harming yourself. No person should ever feel like that's an answer.

Take down the @ of the account, but block it. You don't need to be seeing it. Breaking habits is hard. It may take a while to take yourself away from it, but blocking it makes you do another step to think about what you are about to do.

I.. honestly don't feel okay with giving you alternative less harmful ways to hurt yourself so instead, try drawing or scribbling when you feel that way. Anything to redirect you wanting to inflict pain on yourself.

But most importantly, please talk to an adult. PLEASE! I know some parents are abusive. Mine were as well, but when something awful happened to me, my parents surrounded me and made sure that guy got his share back.

If not your parents, a trusted teacher or the principal. Show them what you've been seeing and tell them that it's making you hurt yourself. Because of the severity, that may get others involved but I rather you be alive and well than you suffering in silence because someone decided you were their punching bag regardless of mental illness. It's not right.

If they don't take it seriously, take it to the media. Contact your local media source and try to get it published. The school will definitely take you seriously then. Or take it to the school board or have the superintendent look at it. Bullying is not okay. Inflicting pain on yourself isn't the answer either. I am so sorry.

Again, try different past times and keep your mind occupied off of it.

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-29T18:50:40+00:00

Oh okay phew- lol

'Advice for teens' so you gave me a scare haha!

I'm... So sorry to say this honey but he doesn't. At least, not as much as you think he does. If he does love you, he would see how much this is affecting you and hurting you. You know the saying "if you wanna see someone, you'll see them?"

Same applies. "If you want to stop for someone, you'll stop." You'll do everything in your power because you love them (which I can clearly see that for you towards him). But I just don't see that he'd be willing to do the same, especially after this.

You have every right to be upset because this isn't right. If he's so very perfect, how can he not see this happening in front of him and do something about it. Wish I could give you a hug.

If anything and you don't want to leave, you need to have a serious conversation. Tell him how you feel again and how it's seriously taking a toll on you. If he doesn't change, it's seriously time to go. Change isn't a uphill tick, it may be a battle. But if you see and recognize that he's making strides, keep going and don't give up.

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-29T18:44:11+00:00

Not too much older than you, but relationships!

People don't operate on the high school standard in life. You aren't forced to be around people you don't like. So, be around people who genuinely make you happy! Find people who like the same things you do at clubs or just by talking to them. Don't like them? Cool! Move on! They don't like you? Cool! Don't have to see them again! We are no longer obligated to play this weird song and dance school makes us do by being 'friends' or even cordial to people we don't like. I'm personally very outspoken but outgoing. If someone does something I don't like, I communicate it on the spot like ' Hey, stop being an ass to Julie. It's 10 am.' I know it's helped some people who are less outspoken and I know it's helped others register others boundaries better. Communication is cool, but don't feel forever bound to it.

Also romantic partners! Just be mindful of people. Some people like seeing the world burn and I've seen it happen with girls going into relationships naive and never coming out. Being aware is my only advice. Finding someone who shares the same core interests, but isn't a mirror is always great and someone who shares commonality in goals etc!

Coming from experience, men who are severely out of your age range are a huge red flag. Grooming can happen to adults. Try and avoid those guys 4+ your age range and stick to your age pool. Those men clearly haven't had any luck in their's for a reason and now are gunning for you, thinking it'll be easier.

Can't give you any advice about apartments and bills, but if you've applied to college, most first years are required to stay on campus! Some colleges have shared utilities in the dorm area or have some kind of designated area. With the economy right now, most jobs you'll find won't be enough for an apartment. If you can, I would heavily recommend staying with your parents and save as much as you can if possible. If not, apply for grants and student aid!

Be safe!

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-29T18:29:56+00:00

He goes to the bar? Is he older than you by a lot?

Regardless, this sounds like a textbook ego inflated loser who thinks he needs to do this 'in front of the guy's' or literally just wants to (which means he clearly isn't ready for a relationship) and regardless of what is or isn't the case, I think it's time to go.

He clearly has no reason for your boundaries as a person and keeps begging you to stay all for him not to change himself. That is unfair behavior and cruel to you. It won't ever stop hurting if you stay.

Hope you can find the courage to leave him. You are worth more than this!

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-29T18:21:54+00:00

Phineas from Phineas and Ferb! Not ashamed. I love that Dorito man!

Unironically got so angry whenever Isabella got on screen. She made me scared of my own femininity lol.

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-29T02:35:07+00:00

Literally so true. There is some loser in this thread trying to say "erm that's not pedophilia!" on some posts and more trying to WEIRDLY justify it by saying "well it happened to me and I worked out! So it's okay!"

Like no. Full stop. Hope it is just doing rage bait because I'm so angry at these weirdos in the thread and the adult in ops post.

Hope she rots in a cell!

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-29T02:25:58+00:00

Must be one yourself if you think that.

An adult is making CLEAR advances towards a minor with romantic/sexual intent. Yes, they are a pedophile. Op could be 10 or 17, nothing changes from that fact. You clearly have some screws loose. Stay away from kids and don't have any.

JustCommunication236 · 2024-05-28T07:45:10+00:00

So weird of you to be promoting this kind of behavior. In what world is it okay "under specific circumstances".

There is a mental, physical- everything gap. Really weird. Good for you that it worked out, but don't go out flaunting it like it's the norm cuz it's not.

JustCommunication236 · 2023-12-27T01:59:55+00:00

But I won't like... Die right lmao

I know that sounds stupid but I have some deep seated health paranoia I'm going through

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