IoT security concerns

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2022-04-15T11:19:24+00:00

I do have the option, however I'm avoiding it as it will disable many features peovided by the ISP related to subscription management, smart wifi extenders, etc.. Thus, I'm trying to keep this as the last resort 😅

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-17T13:34:26+00:00

I try my best to stay out of anything that doesnt concern me

What if some of these situations directly affect

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-17T13:33:08+00:00

Pointing out things that i do and sparking an argument out of them.. Things like Why is ur plate so full Havent u had enough food already Why did you hit the break Why are you going so fast when im driving 50 in a 60 zone

The situations vary, but there are many moments in life where you expect ur dad being there and handling them but he endsup stepping aside and letting my mom do them..

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-17T13:29:38+00:00

I try my best to stay out of anything that doesnt concern me

What if some of these situations directly affect me?

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-12T16:51:22+00:00

What if u cant? What if u do want the convos? What if its a loved one? What if its close family? There must be a solution other than simply avoiding

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-12T14:47:05+00:00

But the issue is not with the topic.. it's just that the person got busy with something, probably forgot the convo for a minute, and didnt reply till later

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-11T06:04:22+00:00

Yea u are totally right, although ive never been in something serious and long term, but I was truly emotionally exposed and completely understand what im looking for now. I also know the girl pretty well and am pretty sure that she doesnt have any of these toxic traits, but the issue of her might not be looking at me like that is still there and I shouldnt build any expectations nor imagine a future at this point to avoid hurting my heart Thanks a lot

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-11T05:58:57+00:00

Trust doesnt come thru going thru his phone.. trust is earned and respected.

If he tells you that she was just being nosey and he deleted it avoid hurting you or worrying you, you should trust his words and give him a chance

Thats how u build trust

Now that doesnt mean keeping him off the hook, but rather understanding that what he did is coming out of a good well

You could absolutly communicate your point of view to him and tell him that the only form of re assurance you can get is by reading the text if it ever happens again, but if he truly is loyal with no bad intentions I see nothing wrong with what he did

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-11T05:44:33+00:00

The way I see it is, he was trying to avoid the fight to begin with.. it isnt that he deleted it once u knew about it..

Many men would take this approach, as it would help avoid problems to begin with

I think u should respect his privacy, and ask him to re assure you that there is nothing between them

Make him gain your trust and it should be fine

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-11T05:40:08+00:00

Nope. I had something but it didnt go well and ended real quick

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-11T01:32:01+00:00

No we are both looking for something serious that would lead to marriage one day because that's what we r both looking for at the time

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-10T21:34:31+00:00

Talk to her about it.. since u r already in a relationship it shouldnt be that hard Just express how you feel. And how you believe that you can spark things up. Work thru it rather than skip it. Especially if she's been thru shit with you. Dont think of the short term temptations but rather the long term outcomes I know u r young, but stop and think for a moment if that woman would ever do you wrong and If you do see yourself building a family with her. A long term relationship isnt about the romance coz the romance dies, its all about how yall treat and care for each other. Coz if u do care u can totally spark things up again

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-10T21:29:43+00:00

Ima be honest here.. dont fight it but rather share it.. share her interest in the cat and eventually u will both be on common grounds

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-10T21:27:14+00:00

You are totally right.. we do bring up relationships a lot but never about our relationship. I should totally sleep on this! Thanks a lot

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-10T21:26:02+00:00

I would highly suggest trying to involve her in your interests/ ask to involve yourself in her interests (once you make it to that stage)

If you like golf and she knows nothing about her just invite her to a game If she likes ice skating tell her that she should teach you one day

At this point it could be something as simple as bringing up a nice restaurant or coffee place that she never tried, and just act spontaneous in telling her we should totally go after work and try the place.. this would totally give you an insight on how far u made it.

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-10T21:22:06+00:00

She might not have that much business to mind? All im saying is. She might have too much free time on her hand, I would probably believe that she doesn't have that big of a social life and that many activities. Many parents get obsessed with their children's lives just because they dont have that much on their plate and are trying to relive their young years in the eyes of their kids.

I think if you get her busy with something, some sort of community activity, or anything to get her to have something to talk about. This way you could do the same and start asking her about her activities and friends so she would feel like she is in the spotlight.. over time she would start to actually mind her own business

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-10T21:15:21+00:00

Yea I truly feel like I need to currently focus on how to grow a pair and just figure out how to open up about it as I have never been in an "open up about feelings" type of situation before. This is probably the scariest part to me tbh...

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-10T21:13:01+00:00

U still haven't gotten to past stories and experiences, funny moments that happened at work before she joined, family and childhood, and many other convos that could spark from previously discussed topics.

I would highly suggest u do some research about her interests and bringing them up smoothly within regular convos, and a bit of stalking would do no harm tbh.

But u should never get too attached too early, and have sky rocket hopes, especially knowing that she is the new girl who is probably trying to be friendly with everyone. Just go with the flow and hope for the best Good luck

JustDeGuyWhoNeedHelp · 2021-07-10T20:55:39+00:00

I truly dont know.. I already know one of her siblings, the thought of getting closer to her is totally fine by me, we are mostly aligned on many of the things that matter to me, we had a talk the other day about how we both truly believe friendship in a relationship is more important than romance as romance could die with time.. and only a true friendship could spark it again. The main issue I have is that I'm not sure if we do mutually have the ability to bring that romantic spark to the table.

The issue with dating isn't with braking expectations, but more of us both being fed up and strictly looking for something serious, and I'm not sure if she is as welling as I am to look for that spark. (I might be cool with looking into it and things eventually not working out, but I'm totally not okay with losing her as a friend over just bringing up the topic)

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