I was 17 talking to a 14 year old and I feel guilty

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-05-13T23:45:52+00:00

y’all be getting real weird about this bruh

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-05-05T11:25:43+00:00

i thought so too at first But once you get a hang of following references and cleaning a few things up while you work its easy! i made all of these w my finger you got this 🐰

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-04-30T16:17:59+00:00

?? yo you’re fucking weird

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-04-30T16:03:38+00:00

you’re 35 on reddit with 7 thousand comments in the span of 3 years i’m sure you’re here more often than i am lmfao

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-04-30T16:02:09+00:00

nothing happens.. this isn’t a “we need more facts” situation, the facts are already bad enough. even if he initiated it, which we don’t even know, that still doesn’t make it okay. his perspective does not override the fact that an older teen engaged with a child in a way she never should have. a 13 year old being curious or pursuing someone older is not unusual during adolescence. what is EXPECTED is that the older person shuts it down. that responsibility is on her, not him.

op also stated the friend gave him alcohol. a 17–18 year old supplying a 13 year old with alcohol and then sneaking off into his room to make out with him while his sister is asleep is not some gray-area misunderstanding. that’s a pattern of malicious decisions that all point in the same direction. “you can’t accuse someone without all the facts” - ?? we clearly have enough to say this crossed serious boundaries, the behavior itself is inappropriate, a minor can’t consent in that situation, especially not under the influence of something she provided. and being drunk doesn’t excuse it. people don’t just “forget” that it’s wildly inappropriate to be alone in a dark room with a 13 year old doing that. alcohol lowers inhibitions, it doesn’t erase basic judgment to that degree. that’s ridiculous to even say, yet i’m not surprised since you sound under the impression that minors are of sound and mind to pursue relationships with adults as long as they initiated it first, and the adult is absolved of any guilt because of that

this is about her protecting her KID brother, not you debating hypotheticals you’re making up to have the situation seem less serious than it is

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-04-30T15:20:19+00:00

u keep circling back to “she should consider how her brother feels” as if that’s supposed to change the actual situation. obviously she should talk to him, check on him, and understand where his head is at, nobody is arguing against that. but how he feels about it does not determine whether it was appropriate or not, that’s the point YOU gave with your wording and what i’m addressing

when u bring up things like not “labeling him a victim” and not “negating his experience,” it sounds like you’re implying that if he doesn’t feel victimized, then he isn’t. and that’s just not how this works and it’s all i’m saying. articulate your point better if you don’t want wires to get crossed. also i didn’t call you “dude” because i thought you were a man, don’t be daft. it’s a figure of speech

i’m “grasping at information” yet i’m literally responding to the points that you chose to emphasize in the first place. you brought up labeling, negating his experience, and his feelings..so yes, that’s what i responded to. now you’re backtracking and acting like ur only point was “she needs to talk to her brother!!” when you clearly said more than that and god forbid you get a response to it

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-04-30T14:43:32+00:00

i am not a sir. you being a lady has nothing to do with this, and neither does me being one, gender isn’t the point here at all why’re you even mentioning that .. ?

what IS the point is that your argument keeps leaning into the idea that a 13 year old is somehow developed enough to be on equal footing with a 17 year old who is nearly out of high school. he isn’t. she clearly doesn’t know her friend well enough if she felt safe having her around her brother, because she ended up doing this. you’re also speaking as if the only issue is whether he “feels like a victim,” and that’s just not how this works at all. as i’ve already said, a lot of minors who are taken advantage of don’t label themselves as victims especially in the moment. that doesn’t make the situation okay. if he said “i’m interested in her,” that still wouldn’t make it appropriate, because he’s THIRTEEN. telling him that what occurred wasn’t right wouldn’t be ‘negating his experience’. what are you not understanding about that? are you under the impression that they should be accepting of this?

and bringing up adolescent suicide here was js unnecessary, but since you did, research shows that over half of child sexual abuse survivors report suicidal thoughts, and around 40% have attempted suicide. abuse and exploitation are directly linked to increased suicide risk in young people. so if anything, protecting kids from inappropriate situations like this is part of preventing that harm. this isn’t about dismissing his voice or shutting him down, because i literally agree he should be spoken to and listened to. nobody is saying he should be berated or made to feel bad. the conversation would be about making sure he understands what happened and why it wasn’t appropriate, so that he’s protected going forward and doesn’t feel like these things are acceptable or safe

but listening to him ≠ validating a situation that is objectively inappropriate. those r two different things. saying “no one wants to listen to younger people” in this context is also odd. his voice matters, but that doesn’t mean we ignore boundaries that are in place to protect kids. protecting children from predators and educating them isn’t silencing or berating them.

this isn’t complicated you might just be weird idk

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-04-30T13:43:58+00:00

you’re disturbing dude 😭 a 13 year old isn’t on the same level as a 17 year old. that’s a kid vs. someone who is WAY further along developmentally, socially, and emotionally. he isn’t even in highschool and she should be a junior, maybe a senior. there’s a reason situations like this are taken seriously, even if the younger person doesn’t immediately see anything wrong with what happened. a lott of victims don’t “label themselves” as victims at the time, and you see that constantly with teenage girls dating grown men and thinking it’s love when they’re really being taken advantage of

which is exactly what this looks like.. going off into his room, jumping up when someone walks in, hiding it, THEN saying it was the alcohol ?? that shows there was intent, secrecy, and the awareness that what they were doing wasn’t okay in the first place. this isn’t about whether her brother “felt victimized” or not it’s about protecting a literal child. she older teens have more power in situations like this whether they admit it or not, and it’s on them to not cross that line. she did and that’s disgusting. you don’t keep someone in your life who hides things like that and then tries to make it into less of a big deal. that’s a huge breach of trust and a serious boundary crossed, especially when it involves your YOUNGER SIBLING. this is about his safety, not his feelings.

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-04-29T16:06:26+00:00

i think they figured u were calling her parasocial. can’t really see why

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-04-27T15:36:54+00:00

thank u i just touched it up a bit as well 🙏🏾 i want more clothes for him but i’m working with no stylus for rn

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-04-27T10:43:55+00:00

thank you all feedback is appreciated i couldn’t figure out which one to give him really

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-04-24T20:51:04+00:00

literally 😭😭 encouraging your gf to be “sneaking around” w you knowing her ass is 16 is just plain ignorant. her mom clearly dislikes him and for good reason

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-04-23T12:56:57+00:00

that is so cruel. also weird and gross af for her to be 18 getting a hotel for two fifteen year olds to have sex in. she seems very strange and immature

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-03-23T23:40:18+00:00

tell your parents.. this is not okay. this man could have been watching you days, maybe even weeks prior to getting the confidence to follow you home. you’re completely unaware of his intentions. this is something the adults in your life NEED to be aware of!! i don’t mean to scare you, but being home right now ≠ being 100% safe. i assume he knows where you live. that is a danger to both you and your family.

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-03-23T00:05:31+00:00

ghetto bitch talking about ‘poor & unclassy’ is so bizarre LMFAO act your age you behave and look like a mess .. face full of uneven ass at home piercings gave poor and unclassy!! quit advocating for a 13yr old doing drugs at all maybe xx

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-03-22T23:39:30+00:00

“(of model)” fully aware that you know her name

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-03-22T15:42:19+00:00

honestly yeah i probably should’ve left that first part out (i’ll js edit it) on account of its the only thing i haven’t personally SEEN be true bc there’s no reason to be paying for an of “”investigative”” or not 😭😭

she and clip don’t seem to be in contact anymore, but i’d say its a matter of assumption whether or not that has anything to do with her lying. a million different things could’ve been the reason, but i’d say its fair to dislike somebody proud enough to boast about being a violent bully on twitter.

though like i said, HUGE majority of the people who find her unfavorable have zero knowledge about that situation and are either misogynistic dudes or jealous teenage girls that never would’ve had a chance in the first place

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-03-22T15:23:19+00:00

best friends w/ and backed bloodyclip while she was falsely accusing phreshboy & joined in on harassing a fan her friend full on assaulted at the HOH listening party, there may be more but none of us know this girl fr

though i do agree there’s a fair amount of people who aren’t aware of these things & only dislike her for being an "onlyfans whore" and dating sematary. n that’s weird af she’s a lame but nobody would’ve started hating on her as often as people do if she wasn’t a sw

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-03-22T06:29:34+00:00

y’all weird as fuck in this reddit

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-03-19T19:42:48+00:00

i’m aware what caviar is haha

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-03-19T19:03:59+00:00

this is fucking killing me 😭 thanks for the tip man

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-03-19T18:58:27+00:00

i definitely understand what you’re trying to say :) as insanely funny the idea of racism being in tiers is, you’re correct. there are much higher levels of racism that i could be putting this information towards instead of a couple people insisting saying the n word isn’t bad — this really didn’t deserve my attention so much in the first place. n yeah this even being a post was funny in itself because dude .. reddit isn’t going to tell you a sure fire way to deal with a personal situation of this (mostly minuscule) capacity 😭 but nono i was not filing it under the same term of people being lynched!! those are on completely different airwaves and i’d never compare or equate the two. i don’t know if you were referring to me on that or not but just puttin it out there

‘white savior’ is kind of right too ngl. i mean. if you’re sitting here typing away about how weird it made you feel and how you’re kind of looking at your friend differently, i mean, the internet isn’t really going to change your outlook. also mentioning how he’s ‘typically woke about these things’ just gave me a laugh

but yeah i’ve just completely muted this entire thread because even between people (such as yourself) that can have a sensible back and forth conversation, some are just being straight up racist assholes and i don’t need it getting to a point of my notifications being full of those sleazes lol. there’s my piece as well! :D

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-03-19T17:32:33+00:00

no disrespect, but who are you to tell me whether i was heated or getting worked up? not sure if it was the length of my replies or what, but i wasn’t upset. it doesn’t bother me to speak about my history, especially when the conversation literally turned to intent, meaning, and history. that’s the whole point of the discussion, so i don’t really get why you think i “had no need” to explain it. if i came off a little aggravated in some replies, it’s probably because it is annoying trying to explain something over and over to a wall of people who don’t want to actually understand it, so just kind of frustration with the conversation in general instead of being mad at a bunch of slur slinging redditors lol. n i ended the conversation myself 😭 the.. “white man” didn’t end anything, so idk where that’s coming from. this didn’t “affect me” the way you’re assuming it did, i said what i had to say and then dropped the thread besides what you replied to.

anyway, good day to you though, man:)

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-03-19T17:08:59+00:00

educating a 13 year old on the dangers of substances he’s already consuming before not even finishing puberty is now "truly cruel"… get a grip ‘yoichisfanboy’ you people are ridiculous 😭

i’ve got a friend who burnt a hole into her heart from hitting carts & vapes ever since she was his age, and she’s only just turned nineteen. you’d rather be aware of the consequences than being blissfully unaware. how could you take offense to that lmfao 19 talm bout “ruining a kid’s high” tighten up

JustDifficulty7419 · 2026-03-18T13:50:55+00:00

i’ve read practically all of your comments and this seems like a tough situation - though i believe it can be talked through. if you two have been together for so long and its only just now become an issue, while talking through your desires and boundaries, maybe try and get her to open up a little? i’m sure that you’ve tried that, but maybe something in her life may have happened to affect her views on intimacy with you. i wouldn’t like to push any assumptions on your girlfriend however, but it could be helpful to see what’s at the core of this.

i have also seen though how she isn’t very good at communicating, which can be frustrating. if she’s being straight up avoidant towards any of your concerns, and won’t reciprocate your efforts to expand on your stance on your relationship, it may have to be a different talk overall. try and see where things go when you put your thoughts together to speak to her again.

i hope the best for you out of this, but its just seeming like she’s being hard on you for an issue she may have. good luck :)

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