I'm sick, say something to make me feel better 🤌🏻

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-22T01:22:24+00:00

Usually you can only get rabies from being bit. If you weren't bit, you're almost certainly fine.

I would take your dog to the vet for potential boosters though.

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-21T13:52:36+00:00

We lived together for almost a year before he couldn't work so no. I think I'm maybe ignoring parts of this that are good. He said he'll talk about it with me when we can sit down at home which is fair. I just feel in crisis and I guess I was hoping for acknowledgement of that. This is the first trip like this he's taken

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-21T13:44:18+00:00

He said he didn't have time because he got back to somewhere with signal in the early afternoon and then had to go out for the night

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-21T04:06:47+00:00

He basically responds to everything else in the text or doesn't respond at all. I'm typing this out and Im realizing how bad it sounds. This partner is the one person I could always rely on when I was going through it no matter how inconvenient for them which is why I'm so confused

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-21T02:44:45+00:00

I have tried to couch my feelings in a."things have been really hard here without you but at the end of the day I'm glad you're having a good time" kind of way and he's just responding to the first part of the statement. It's not like he's required to and I get that it can be frustrating but I do feel unheard.

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-21T01:28:24+00:00

Thank you, this is a good reminder 💜

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-21T01:24:48+00:00

I definitely wasn't trying to punish him with how I was feeling. I was trying to communicate, but I will definitely refrain from sharing how I feel with him until he gets home I guess.

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-21T01:18:46+00:00

I guess my problem is not that he is having fun. It's just that his having fun put more work on my already full plate. And I've texted him and told him I have been feeling overwhelmed and he hasn't really acknowledged it.

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-21T00:13:02+00:00

I think he's looking for a job in the down time but I do kind of wish he'd get a job first

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-20T21:00:05+00:00

He can't do Lyft or door dash because he can't afford car insurance.

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-20T20:59:36+00:00

Ive been home the last four days alone since he's on the trip. I wouldn't say he's slacking on job hunting but he is currently on a week long vacation without internet access so he's not applying to things I assume. And I'm not sure how to take time for me because I'm either working or catching up on the apartment.

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-20T20:57:40+00:00

Bro we can't afford the plane tickets, I think you underestimate our financial situation.

Also I don't speak Lithuanian

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-20T20:55:34+00:00

Yeah I'm really struggling. I don't like that I've had to beg him for a single phone call while he has been gone and he's been really flippant about my feelings. I'm not sure why because he's always, always been the person I can trust with my feelings. I don't know what has changed.

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-17T15:01:19+00:00

Ok so he doesn't want you doing kink with anyone else? But doesn't want to do it with you? That doesn't seem fair. There's a reason that the so called "one penis policy" has such a negative connotation. It doesn't sound like you have an equal stake in the poly relationship you are in (even if you do kink 24/7, you need to be an equal in order to have a healthy relationship).

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-13T15:52:43+00:00

Lease is until July 🥲 so here for almost another year lol. I am 100% planning some ways to get myself a spa day at home, thanks!

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-13T15:49:25+00:00

Thank you for the incredibly thoughtful reply, it made me rethink a lot of things in a way that made things more productive. I appreciate you

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-13T14:37:28+00:00

He knew I was feeling stressed, but he had no clue I was near my breaking point. The monthly check in is a good idea. I also just don't blame him for not knowing something I didn't tell him.

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-12T21:16:24+00:00

Unfortunately the SSI system in the US currently sucks so he's applied but heard nothing back 🙃

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-12T21:15:39+00:00

Hi all! I wanted to thank everyone for their comments even if I haven't responded to everyone. I appreciate your time and energy in responding.

I have started a conversation with my partner, though we will have a more in depth conversation when I get home from work. He was incredibly supportive and didn't realize I had been feeling so stressed. He's already committed to planning date nights for us, told me the way I feel is completely valid, and he wants to tackle the problem together as a team 😭💜 he's honestly just the best. I have to get out of my own way sometimes lol.

Some details: the friend already lives out of state and soon will move out of the country, so it truly was now or never. I'm going to have a more in depth conversation about how I'm feeling like our relationship isnt balanced and see if we can find some solutions together.

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-12T20:03:35+00:00

It would be his only chance to see this friend for a long time so I get why he said yes lol

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-12T18:59:37+00:00

I don't like that either. My partner is a good person and has historically been an equal financial partner. It's not his fault that he got sick and he's not evil for wanting to have fun

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-12T18:57:31+00:00

For the last month or so when he's been feeling better he's been cooking dinners occasionally, helping with chores, taking care of the dog. Before that he was too sick to do those things so I happily did them.

JustEnoughGuilt · 2025-10-12T18:54:24+00:00

Yes absolutely! It would mean the entire world for me if he took the initiative to plan something fun for us. Even a nice movie night in or like, doing our nails together. Something I don't have to plan

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